There have been a lot of great posts lately from women who are new to swallowing the Red Pill asking how to be more feminine. Looking the part is easy, but it's the behavior change that's difficult. Personally, I wear dresses and heels more often, but my mannerisms are still about as sexy as decapodian mating rituals (GRAW!). I'd never want to change that about myself, but I can still behave in a feminine, submissive way, and I need look no further than my dog for instructions.
There Are Few Other Creatures So Genuinely Happy to See You
Dog parents, you know what I'm talking about. You come home from a long day at work, and as soon as you walk through the door you're immediately bombarded with doggy kisses ("HELLO! HELLO! HI! HI! HELLO!"). Who doesn't like being greeted this way? No man wants to come home to a shrew that ignores him, or worse, instantly besots him with chores and responsibilities. I'm not saying you should lick your man's face (or other body parts . . . heh) the second he comes home, but I guarantee he'll look forward to coming home if you greet him at the door with a smile on your face.
Greeting him at the door will be easier to do if you're a SAHM. But if you work and come home later than he does, you can still brighten his day by doing the same thing as soon as you walk through the door.
Following the Alpha
Dogs need, understand, and respect a hierarchy. In order for them to be happy, they have to know where they stand in the pack. They need an alpha to tell them what to do, and it is their responsibility to follow. That's not to say that you aren't entitled to voice your opinion if something is seriously wrong, but pick your battles; mutiny is not an option. You should never counter your Captain's directives unless he is doing something tremendously stupid, like gambling away the mortgage payments, or getting behind the wheel while drunk--in which case you should probably find a new Captain if he constantly makes poor decisions. So long as you have a responsible Captain, a good sex life, a roof over your head, and food on the table, what do you really have to complain about?
Dogs Don't Bring You Their Problems
Dogs don't hold grudges, and they don't complain about every little thing that bothers them. When they see you, they are nothing but a bundle of pure joy and energy. Men love feminine women because feminine women bring light to the otherwise cold, dark world in which men have to prove themselves just to survive. They solve problems and do work all day long, so the last thing they want is to do more work when they come home. Men are natural problem-solvers, so if you bring him a problem, make sure it's something worthy of his time and attention. Otherwise, you'll just tire him out.
On that note, this is why having a circle of female friends is helpful. Women understand that 99% of the time you're complaining about something, it's because you want someone to listen to you rant/vent. So if you have a problem that isn't worth bringing up to your Captain, talking through it with other women is a win-win situation for all parties involved. You get someone who will happily listen to to you vent and bond with you over it (girltalk FTW!), and your Captain gets to spend his time with a happy First Mate.
Dogs Are Always Down for Whatever
Our canine friends are enthusiastic to do just about anything you want to do. You can almost see them thinking, "Taking a walk? My favorite thing! Playing fetch? My favorite thing! Chilling on the couch? MY FAVORITE THING!!" A good Captain will choose a movie, restaurant, or $ThingToDoTogether that both he and his First Mate will like. It's your responsibility as a good First Mate to be enthusiastic about whatever your Captain chooses because you're trusting that you two will have a good time no matter what. Femininity is about complementing the masculinity of your man, which you can't achieve if you're challenging him at every turn.
Dogs Are Loyal
I don't really need to explain the Homeward Bound or Lassie kind of loyalty you see in dogs, but I'd like to expand on this in terms of the benefits of dogs showing preference for their masters. My dog respects both my Captain and me, but he has had her since she was a puppy, while I've only been a step-pet parent for the last year. Obviously, she's very happy to see me, but she goes completely BONKERS for my Captain when she sees him. If I'm taking her out on a walk and my Captain is not there, she'll keep looking back at the house as if to say, "But where's Dad?"
Say your level of enthusiasm is at a 6/10 when you're seeing friends (male or female). Turn it up to an 8 or 9 when your Captain walks into the room and I guarantee he'll love the attention you're showing for just him. You don't have to be obnoxious about it, but make it publicly clear that he is special and valuable to you. This, in turn, raises his value in the eyes of others.
To sum it up:
- Always be happy to see him.
- Follow his lead, and be enthusiastic about it.
- Don't burden him with stupid problems.
- Raise his value--and yours--by publicly showing preference for him.
Bottom Line: Feminists reading this are probably thinking, "OMG rproller is telling us womyn that we have to act like dogs to please men! I'M SO TRIGGERED" This is not a call for women to be lapdogs--figuratively or literally. All I'm trying to say in this post is that there are traits I've observed in my own experiences with dogs that make people happy, and you can mimic some of those traits to make your Captain happy.
[EDIT: Formatting. Sigh. I never get it right on the first go, no matter how hard I try!]