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INSIGHTFULLove your husband HIS way. (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by Disappear_vanish

100 ways you can love your husband his way.

This is an excellent list of behaviors for an excellent wife to exhibit. It's a marriagemissions.com piece, so there are a couple about prayer, but obviously disregard them if it's not your thing. It's almost impossible to find quality advice for young married women in secular media, so I don't wan to alienate any of you guys with this, it really is a great list for a submissive wife. Good and basic, and refreshing to know there's an audience for the info on how to please a man according to what he wants. It's gently worded and applicable to all ages, not just newly married young women.

The hundred points here are good stuff. There are many points which talk about respecting his dignity and his reputation. NEVER slander your man, NEVER join in on all the husband bashing that wives love to engage in. I'm sure you've all seen and heard it, isn't it shocking? In his presence, behind his back, always build him up. One of the most important things you can do is just build him up.

They also have a few in here about keeping your body in shape and dressing in a way to attract his attention, but not skank it up in public. Dress in a way that makes him proud you're his wife. Being attractive, not being fat, and getting dressed in a way where you keep his eyes on you is #1.

And several more were about giving him ample space and time alone. Of course he doesn't want to be smothered. But if you're with an alpha hottie it's hard not to want to be on top of him all the time. (Guilty.) His attention is valuable to you if he's a high value man. So yeah, give him a breather.

Number 98 is very cute, I'm going to do it this week.

So just a nice, basic list. What do you think?


[–]RPDameendorsed woman 23 points24 points  (6 children)

I think this is a great list.

The first minutes after a spouse comes home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience. (Ease into the negative.)

This one (#16) is something I had to learn. It makes a big difference whether I meet him at the door with a kiss and a smile versus the times he walks in when I'm in the middle of something and can't immediately connect with him.

Yesterday was great. I didn't know he was on his way home, and I was out walking the dog in a red sundress he hasn't seen me wear in a while. He drove up next to me without me noticing and I laughed at how he'd caught me off guard. And boy was he ever appreciative of seeing me in that dress. He was grinning like a madman and we had a really nice evening.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so cute!

[–]freebumblebeeendorsed woman 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It makes a big difference whether I meet him at the door with a kiss and a smile versus the times he walks in when I'm in the middle of something and can't immediately connect with him.

I struggle with this at times. I don't greet him with bad news or anything, but sometimes I'll be right in the middle of dinner and can barely get out of the kitchen long enough for a hello kiss. Your story is adorable by the way! Something bout a girl in a red sundress?

[–]RPDameendorsed woman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha! Pretty much like that, except with less cowboy boots (I should definitely get some, though. That video convinced me!)

[–]fuck-this-noise 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This one (#16) is something I had to learn. It makes a big difference whether I meet him at the door with a kiss and a smile versus the times he walks in when I'm in the middle of something and can't immediately connect with him.

Yep, and it's also worth noting for some that this is very different for every guy. If I greeted my guy at the door every day, he would feel overwhelmed and pressured. He needs just a few minutes to 'settle in' at home before dinner & chats, it's just his introverted nature. Each one of these needs to be adapted to what your man needs.

[–]RPDameendorsed woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point!

My guy has told me he loves it when I come greet him with a smile and big kiss when he first walks in.

When I come home and he's here first, I think I'm a bit more like your guy, in that I like a little bit of space and time.

[–]cloverdust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree on this one completely. Before I discovered Red Pill, my SO and I were living together, and in a big fight we had, one thing I remember clearly is him saying "You're not even happy to see me when I get home!" The truth was that I was overwhelmed at work so by the time I got home I was completely spent, and wasn't smiling or chatty or anything with him. I was just (selfishly) stuck in my own head, not thinking about him at all. It broke my heart to hear that! Now, even if I've had a bad day, I make an effort not to bring him down, especially when he first comes home. It makes such a difference!

[–]dalls18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great! And a great reminder of all the little things that can add up to make a big difference.

[–]Kittenkajira 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! This list has everything he's ever told me he likes. I really like number 98, too - I'm going to try that.

[–]tradmarriageftw 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I enjoyed reading this, thanks for sharing. Its nice to remember all the different things you can do to make someone feel appreciated, although he is not a fan of the love note!

[–]Disappear_vanish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do them occasionally. I just draw a heart on a sticky note and slip it in. I'm no Shakespeare at 5am!

I haven't in a while though.