Okay, well, the title is a bit misleading but I wasn't sure how to put it. I have seen a few times, in here, when people discuss the concept of 'alpha' & 'beta' traits, it comes up whether there is any kind of female equivalent. I guess I should say, less of an equivalent, more of a wavy parallel (if you look at it sideways and drunk).
Today I was browsing on the Bad Girl's Bible. Basically, this man who was pretty happily married, but still ended up attracted to another woman. She was less physically attractive, but he found himself into her, etc. He loved his wife, but they had settled into family life / comfort. Obviously there are so many reasons this could happen - even just a man's biological drive to like variety, etc. But it triggered off thoughts about the common Madonna / Whore issue a lot of men face. I think I even saw something in here about it recently.
So then it occurred to me - is this some kind of skewed version of alpha and beta? I mean, of course, for lots of different reasons and mechanisms. But hear me out. Madonna / Whore are two separate sets of traits that a woman or women can have. They can co-exist, but sometimes they don't. Some women lean toward "hot and crazy," some women lean toward "nurturing and boring." And there are all kinds of variations and blends in the middle. Men tend to go crazy wanting sex with the "Whore," but she isn't always the type he wants to take home to mom (very similar to our attractions to alpha / beta traits).
Ideally, a woman would balance both sides, and find the sweet spot of being good LTR material and still inspiring a man's sex drive. Kind of like how a good Captain is often that "just-right" blend of alpha / beta traits that works for us; provides us both security and makes us crazy over him.
Obviously they don't compare exactly, but they wouldn't, as men & women and the things that attract them to each other are very different. I just wanted to open up the conversation and see if it makes sense to anyone! I just thought it was kind of an interesting thing.