Okay, so I have this tumblr blog. I have always made sure to stay far, faaaar away from the feminist and social justice warrior side of the site. It's a personal one, I post art there and some ramblings from time to time. Yesterday, I made a small post about being a virgin, and how I can't wait to start having sex.
Then I received an anonymous question:
Aren't you too old to be a virgin in your twenties? If you want to have sex so much then why don't you just hook up with someone?
Okay, innocent enough question. I answered with this:
I want my first to be with someone I'm comfortable and relaxed with, and whom at the very least dating. I can't sleep with a stranger because it's super risky, and I won't be able to enjoy it because of my self-consciousness.
I thought that was a safe answer. I logged out and went to bed. When I woke up, I had 87 messages in my inbox.
EIGHTY FUCKING SEVEN.
And they were all hate mail!
I started reading through them, and they were all regarding my answer to that virginity question! Some examples were:
- You're a fucking slut shamer, you know that?
- God, what a prude. And you say you're an atheist!
- "Oh look at me, I'm complaining about being virgin but I don't want to sleep with strangers, that's slutty!" God, get your head out of your ass you slut shamer.
- You're an idiot, waiting for prince charming to take away your v-card. You're not special.
- Oh so what, you're too good for one night stands? What a fucking prude.
- Lol the internalized oppression is strong in this one.
And my favorite:
- No one wants to fuck you because you're a fat slut shamer. - this was said by a fat activist who weighed 250lbs
I have never been so insulted in my life. I stayed this way partly because of incel, though I have and still am fixing myself, I feel like crying because I feel like a freak for being a virgin in my twenties (forgive the hamstering). It's infuriating that these women would encourage young girls to fuck around while shaming and bullying the ones who refuse to, while asking other feminists to join in on the bullying and shaming!
I'm just soooo angry and sad right now. I only came here to rant because I know that this is one of the few feminist-free spaces here in the internet.
EDIT: My hate mail is now in the hundreds. It's kinda sad now really. Some people that had reserved some commission slots have now backed out because of this fiasco, and that they believed that I was in the wrong. Welp, there goes $60 :p