Vetting is not only crucial aspect of gaining lifelong commitment but also a strong and lasting marriage where both people are dedicated to each other. I feel that women nowadays have trouble vetting between men who just want to have fun and men who are marriage minded.
Remember: It is YOUR responsibility to vet carefully before going too deep into a relationship that could be taking advantage of your precious time and energy. Tingles from an "alpha" man can easily take over your judgment!
Here are some qualities to look for in men who date with the goal of marriage:
1) Family oriented - does he visit his parents during the holidays or does he go out partying with friends? If he has siblings, are they married or in committed LTRs? Does he have a good relationship with his parents? If a man doesn't have a sense of belonging to his family that brought him up, then he'll be less likely to want a sense of belonging as an adult.
2) Social circle - does he have a select few guy friends or a big social circle that includes friends that are girls? Men who are social butterflies tend to need new and exciting people in their lives and are less likely to settle down. Look for men who have a few close guy friends he spends time with. He'll be more likely to choose one woman by his side rather than many.
3) Stable job - does he have a job that brings in consistent money, or does he have many ambitions? Overly ambitious men can seem attractive and give you tingles, but be careful! It's either a sign of selfishness (ego, narcissism) or financial instability (freelance life). There is a significant difference between men who have careers solely for themselves vs men who have careers to support a family. I work in an artistic field so I have witnessed many of these men with "exciting new projects" that may give you tingles but guess what? They tend to cheat, have many girlfriends or have no money.
5) Character - does he follow through with what he says he will do? Is he direct in his communication? Sometimes women can be put off by how blunt or direct men can be, but the opposite is a smooth talking crooning guy who can talk you into something you don't know what you're getting into. Similarly, marriage minded men (and men who will be committed husbands) are able to stay on task, even if there bumps on the road. They will be natural problem solvers that keep their eyes ahead long-term.
As my father says: "Look for a husband who is smart, has a stable job and a good heart, respect him, and take care of him."