We often talk about how important it is for a woman to be supportive to the man in her life. But what exactly is the nature of support? Is it just being "a cheerleader"? Until recently, I assumed the brunt of being supportive fell upon this idea -- of a woman reassuring and encouraging, mainly through her words.
Recently I have realized this idea I had is wrong.
My boyfriend and I have been repainting, slightly remodelling, and redecorating the kitchen over the past few days. Yesterday evening, we finally got everything done, and while I was making dinner, he cleaned up all the mess we'd made over the past few days. (He had enough time to clean everything because what I was making was quite time-consuming. :P)
Once dinner was ready and we sat down to eat, he turned to me and thanked me "for being so supportive. Without you I would have never gotten everything finished today. But seeing you keep working and not give up inspired me to keep going. Otherwise I would have just spend the afternoon playing video games and not finishing anything."
Not only was this a really sweet moment, it also led me to rethink my idea of what it really means to be supportive. It isn't just giving encouragement (although that is definitely part of it), it's working just as hard alongside him; sharing the work; picking things up where he starts to lag; and making long, boring, annoying tasks more pleasant.