My boyfriend proposed a few days ago, and I said yes! The way it happened just showed how right we are for each other. And I really believe it could not have happened without the support and hard truths that I got from this sub.
Two Christmases ago, I was a FWB trying to rationalize why it was okay. I was still hurting from the breakup of the marriage I had entered into as a teenager, and didn't have plans for the future. Thankfully, I had supportive friends, family, and community. And, very importantly, I had you ladies.
FWB is generally a bad idea. It adds a number to your count, lowering your SMV (mine was only one to start with, but every bit counts). It could have gone very wrong and I could have been hurt big-time. You all told me that. When I have daughters, I will advise them to stay away from it. I advise you ladies to stay away from it. Yet, applying RPW principles, by the grace of God in my weakness and foolishness, allowed me to turn this into a legitimate relationship. I fully embraced the feminine graces and never looked back. When we fell for each other, we fell hard, and started talking marriage and family right away.
We already had a business together, were already very close friends, and were already involved. So when we decided we were ready to call it love and make a future out of it, things got real fast. He has gone through so much personal growth this year. I know that my ability to use my femininity as a soft landing place for him has been instrumental. He went from a smart, talented, and kind person who was also a bit bitter and escapist, to an incredibly driven, hardworking man who is open to influence and is fixed on seeing things as they really are. He has some huge aspirations for life, and now he really believes he can achieve them.
And once I had permission not to do the career path I was “supposed” to do, I found work that I really liked and broke through my unemployment slump with his support. I now have no problem admitting that although I have this advanced degree, my main calling in life is to be a wife and mother. I will work on the side to help the family or as a hobby, but my work will be far second to my true calling, and that’s okay.
I am not an ideal bride by any means. And he’s not a perfect man. But we emphasize each other’s strengths, complement each other’s weaknesses, and are constantly striving to grow. Personal growth is a very RP, very anti-victimhood concept, and we could not have this relationship without it. We have a wonderful life ahead of us!
Thank you for helping to make this possible!