How many girls and woman crave to have that one special man for whom they are the most beautiful woman in the world?
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Therefore, there isn't such a thing as the most objectively beautiful woman in the world. Nonetheless, many woman wish to be the most beautiful in the eyes of their beholder. A more beautiful woman then themselves can sometimes bring out deep insecurities and fear of abandonment.
I'd like to attempt to quell some of these fears.
Male and female sexual attraction and strategy
Men and women aren't attracted to the same physical features and character traits. Some times, we are even attracted to opposite things. A very common mistake is to assume that what you're attracted to is what s/he is attracted to and act accordingly, often with disastrous results. Here are a few examples.
1) Men are attracted to submissive women who will defer to their opinion. Many men offer the same kind of respect to their woman by deferring to whatever she wants. Problem is that she is attracted to a leader and sees his deference as him being incapable of making up his mind.
2) Women are attracted to a strong leader, a captain of his ship. Many woman offer the same kind of "strong independent woman leadership" to their men. The men however see this behavior as bossy and unattractive.
3) Men are attracted to kindness in a woman. Many men offer their woman an extra dose of kindness. Yes is the default answer to all her requests. This may be a turnoff for her because she may see this as him lacking a backbone. Indeed, a man can be too nice (many men have a very hard time accepting this).
4) Women are attracted to men who set boundaries and lay down the law. Many women offer this to their men, they lay down the law with regards to many areas of life. This may be a turnoff to the men who may find these women to be too stiff and no fun to be around.
Many more examples can be brought in. The point is that we are often attracted to different or even opposite things.
The reasons we get together with one another are also different for men and women. Therefore, the motivation to keep working on the relationship will differ as well. Here are some examples.
Choosing a mate
Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. In RP lingo - men have higher RMV while women have higher SMV. This is simple economics of supply and demand. While men and women both want sex and a committed relationship, men want sex more and women want commitment more. This is explained iin my post on SMV & RMV
A man is therefore the "owner" of commitment and the women is the "buyer". A women is the "owner" of sex and the man is the "buyer". This means that the man has to provide the woman with a good relationship in exchange for sex, while the woman has to provide the man with good sex in exchange for a commitment. Of course, we try to stay as far away from tit for tat behavior as possible, but let's not fool ourselves into thinking that no exchange at all transpires here. Just look at the dead bedrooms sub and you'll see how things go when one partner feels like they're putting in way more than they're taking out. Both men and women become miserable when this barter exchange is off kilter.
Because the man owns the commitment and the woman owns the sex, they will each approach both of these concepts differently. Because their individual needs are different, they will choose differently.
A woman needs to obtain the guy with the most stability. For this she needs a man who is intelligent and strong. A man who can protect her and make her feel safe and secure both physically and emotionally. Therefore, the more stability he can provide, the more attractive he is. If she's with a strong man and she encounters a stronger man, she may be very tempted to branch swing because the new guy is more attractive. (Of course, she can stop herself from doing so). We call this hypergamy.
A man needs to be sexually fulfilled in quantity as well as quality. For this he needs a woman to whom he's sexually attracted and who has a strong sexual desire for him. He needs someone who is enjoyable to be with in bed and who fulfills his sexual needs. Once he has that woman, he doesn't need a woman who's more beautiful because being more beautiful doesn't add any value to fulfilling his quantitative and qualitative needs.
In other words - a more attractive man is potentially more valuable to a woman. A more attractive woman isn't more valueble to a man unless the only thing of value he's getting from her is sex.
You don't need to be the most beautiful woman in the world because he doesn't think the way you do. It's okay if you're just beautiful in his eyes. He may lie to please you by telling you that you're the most beautiful woman in the world, but is that what you really want?
Of course, how can I end this post without this awesome video from Prager University.