I've seen quite a few posts lately regarding appearing more feminine. A lot of new RP women here have said something to the effect of, "I'm not used to dressing up," or "I feel that dresses don't represent my personality." If you're truly uncomfortable with it, don't wear them; your discomfort will be fairly obvious to others. But if you're on the fence, I'd highly suggest trying to wear dresses as often as possible.
As an experiment, I wore a dress every day for a week. I didn't wear them every single waking hour--going to the gym would be awkward in a dress--but I made sure my Captain saw me dressed up for at least a few hours when he came home. The results were simply astounding.
I'm not naturally a bubbly person; I've been told by more than one person that my personality more closely resembles Daria from MTV's eponymously named show, Daria. But when I wore a dress that flattered my figure and hugged me in all the right places, seeing myself in the mirror gave me such an unexpected ego boost! I couldn't help but play the part of a submissive, effeminate First Mate. I even cooked dinner in a dress, and felt giggly at being a modern-day 50's housewife. (If you do decide to cook wearing a dress, be sure to wear an apron like you see in the pinup pictures; oil splatters will ruin your dress and are annoying to clean out!)
Brightens Your Day--and His
Your improved personality is going to rub off on him! People naturally gravitate towards people that make them feel good, and your SO is no exception. There's also the obvious benefit of him seeing your figure, and perhaps reaching up your skirt for quick grope. Far from feeling violated, wearing dresses helped me feel sexy and sexually desired (more on that later).
On a more theoretical level, seeing you in a dress is going to brighten his day because he'll be happy to see beauty--you--in the otherwise dark, cold, ugly world he has to navigate every day. You'll be the flower in a field of dead weeds. Wearing dresses just for him might also give him a sense of ownership--in a good way. As in, "This is my flower to protect and nourish." Doesn't that give you the warm fuzzies?
On a lighter note, my Captain and I had sex much more often. Foreplay would occur all evening long because we'd take turns groping each other when we thought nobody was looking--which added to the intensity of desire. He could hardly last more than a few minutes on some occasions because the sexual tension was so high. (Missy Elliott got it wrong, by the way. You WANT a one-minute man because then you know he's been thinking nonstop about the object of his sexual desire--you!) Afterward, my Captain would sometimes initiate Round 2 almost immediately because Round 1 wasn't enough! Talk about sexual validation ;)
If dresses still aren't your thing, that's cool. My point here is that the more often you wear things that flatter your figure and make you look feminine, the more often you'll get a positive reaction from your SO. The happier he is, the happier you'll be--and isn't that the kind of symbiotic relationship we all strive for with our men?