If you regularly browse RP subs, you'll often see men and their sexual market value (SMV) aging like fine wine. On the other hand, women and their SMV ages like milk. While these aren't necessarily bad ways to think about how SMV changes over time for both genders, I feel that it doesn't capture the journey and struggle each gender takes to obtain and maintain a high SMV. A better analogy for me is to compare men's SMV to a sword, and women's SMV to a flower. I'll start with the men's side.
Blacksmiths and Swords: The Development of Male SMV
A sword does not suddenly spring into being from the ground. It starts out as worthless bits of metal and minerals. After smelting those bits together, the blacksmith begins putting the hunk of metal over super-heated flames, hammering it to form its shape, dunking it into cold water to solidify that layer, then doing it all over again. And again. And again. And again, for as many times it needs for the sword to become a sharp, strong weapon. It isn't until it passes through many rounds of getting beat up and dunked into freezing water that a worthless piece of scrap metal becomes a lethal (valuable) sword. And even after it reaches its final shape, it still needs sharpening every once in awhile, lest it become dull.*
How does this relate to men's SMV? Men's value rests mostly on their ability to prove themselves--but they weren't born valuable. They started from nothing and had to constantly fight others (and themselves) to prove their worth. Us women understand this instinctively; don't we chase and lust after men who can stand on their own two feet, and fend us off from the lions? And don't we behave indifferently (or with disgust) to who don't know how to do anything/can't provide for us? It's highly unromantic, but that's the way it is. Anyone who characterizes women as "evil" because of this doesn't understand basic RP tenets. Specifically, that the dual mating strategy is neither bad nor good--it just is.
The reason why you see so many angry men on TRP is because they are still in the process of swallowing the pill. The virulent language you see on TRP makes it hard for most women to understand what TRP is there for. TRP is, among many other things, a proving ground for men to post about their successes and failures. It is the blacksmith heating up that hunk of metal until it's red-hot and ready to burn everything in its path, then plunging it into the freezing water that is the reality of the world we live in--over and over again. Those who remain angry may never find that balance in their understanding of the differences between male and female mating strategy. On the flipside, women who are too new to RP in general may read TRP and incorrectly believe that they have to become a plate and hope that they will maybe be promoted to LTR if they give their men blowjobs often enough. Or that they have to apologize for being a woman. These are reasons why we at RPW advocate against reading TRP until you've followed RPW for awhile.
*[Sidebar: I am not a blacksmith and my understanding of forging medieval weaponry may not be 100% accurate.]*
Flowers Only Bloom Once: The 'Development' of Female SMV
Flowers begin as seeds, brimming with life as they shoot forth from the soil. The seed's capacity for giving life makes them instantly valuable. The time it takes for flowers to mature vary greatly, but once bloomed, they are beautiful to behold. They retain their beauty for a time, signalling to bees that they are fertile and ready for pollination. But after awhile, the flower begins to wilt. Fewer and fewer bees visit it, until the flower becomes so wilted that it cannot produce pollen nor be pollinated. Its value drops to nearly nothing, as its only use now is for fertilizing the ground to enable future flowers to bloom.
If you've been making the parallels between flowers and women in this example, you'll see that it's pretty bleak. In this sense, the odds are heavily stacked against us because we only have so much time when we are at our peak beauty to find and secure an LTR/marriage. Like it or not, men place physical attractiveness as their #1 trait they look for in a mate. The fact that you have an education, career, or whatever else you think is valuable does NOT make you more sexually attractive. Once we're no longer beautiful (assuming you do nothing about it), our chances of finding a man drop significantly. This is why we at RPW advocate against riding the CC--you waste your good years on men who have no intention of giving you an LTR/marriage.
But not all hope is lost. The difference between flowers and women is that women can take action to maintain as much of their beauty as possible, for as long as possible. Flowers can't work out, learn to cook, or be sexually available after their prime. The older you are, the harder you'll have to work to maintain your value. Looks-wise, a 45-year old woman is never going to be able to compete with a 19-year old. She's just not. But this is where your education, career, etc. can help develop your relationship market value (RMV). Once you hit The WallTM, a critical part of the mental calculations men do when evaluating you for marriage/LTR material is what you contribute to the relationship. For example:
"Sally isn't getting any younger, but she's a damn good cook and keeps the house clean. She's good with friendly intellectual sparring about world news and events, which keeps me mentally stimulated outside of work."
"Melissa isn't getting any younger, but she takes good care of my kids while I'm away, and prioritizes our marriage first so that we may set a good example for our children. Her degree in accounting is incredibly useful for bookkeeping in her home business, as well as our personal finances/taxes."
I won't get into the nuts and bolts of how to be a feminine woman because there's plenty of sidebar material for that. I will, however, say that BP de-programming is meant to be difficult. Improving yourself and taking accountability for your own actions is harder for women than it is for men. Embrace the challenge; if it's difficult, you're on the right track. Don't take the easy way out.