Hi everyone, I've been quite a lurker here. Some background on myself: I am your typical strong, independent, educated woman -- PhD candidate and all... And I also love feeling feminine, taking care of my boyfriend, and I've been a subscriber to Flylady.net (who is one of the ultimate RPW in popularity right now, I believe) for several years.
My relationship with my boyfriend is incredible, loving, trusting. He's not RP and he'd probably turn green if he heard me utter the words -- but he also only knows /r/TRP and the angry hive of wronged men there. He has no idea he's an ideal RP man. He has huge respect for women, and our relationship is mostly egalitarian at the moment in that we both pamper each other. He is my king and I am certainly his queen. I cook him amazing meals after which he insists on washing the dishes because I took such good care of him, and made him so happy, that he wants to show his love for me by taking a chore off my hands. If that makes sense. Of course, I graciously accept because this is him showing his appreciation for everything I do.
So, as I said, I'm slowly drinking the koolaid and thinking of transitioning to a more "first mate" role. I saw many women here start by focusing on small tasks... and so today I pulled a beautiful cut crystal pitcher out of the cabinet, filled it with ice cold water, and consistently refilled his water glass whenever I noticed it was low while he's been working on the computer all day.
Every single time I refill his glass has been met with a beaming smile and words of gratitude. I have been called "wonderful" "special" and "great" more times today than maybe in the last month combined. The interaction that prompted me to post right now was:
Him: Did you know how great you are?
Me: well, I did, but I love hearing you say it! (said with a cheeky grin and a wink)
Him: Well I love it when you're great to me just so I get to tell you how great you are.
Dang, ladies, if I had only tried this sooner!
I'm looking forward to lurking a little less and learning so much from you all!