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Dipping my toes in the pool, unexpectedly seeing results *immediately* (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by RosePeach

Hi everyone, I've been quite a lurker here. Some background on myself: I am your typical strong, independent, educated woman -- PhD candidate and all... And I also love feeling feminine, taking care of my boyfriend, and I've been a subscriber to Flylady.net (who is one of the ultimate RPW in popularity right now, I believe) for several years.

My relationship with my boyfriend is incredible, loving, trusting. He's not RP and he'd probably turn green if he heard me utter the words -- but he also only knows /r/TRP and the angry hive of wronged men there. He has no idea he's an ideal RP man. He has huge respect for women, and our relationship is mostly egalitarian at the moment in that we both pamper each other. He is my king and I am certainly his queen. I cook him amazing meals after which he insists on washing the dishes because I took such good care of him, and made him so happy, that he wants to show his love for me by taking a chore off my hands. If that makes sense. Of course, I graciously accept because this is him showing his appreciation for everything I do.

So, as I said, I'm slowly drinking the koolaid and thinking of transitioning to a more "first mate" role. I saw many women here start by focusing on small tasks... and so today I pulled a beautiful cut crystal pitcher out of the cabinet, filled it with ice cold water, and consistently refilled his water glass whenever I noticed it was low while he's been working on the computer all day.

Every single time I refill his glass has been met with a beaming smile and words of gratitude. I have been called "wonderful" "special" and "great" more times today than maybe in the last month combined. The interaction that prompted me to post right now was:

Him: Did you know how great you are?
Me: well, I did, but I love hearing you say it! (said with a cheeky grin and a wink)
Him: Well I love it when you're great to me just so I get to tell you how great you are.

Dang, ladies, if I had only tried this sooner!

I'm looking forward to lurking a little less and learning so much from you all!


[–]muliebritee 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Thanks for posting, and I hope you stick around. These field reports make me excited to have a relationship.

[–]Delixcroix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am kinda Jealous of TRPs constant field reports >_< Theres just so few RPW by comparison.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww, that's so cute! And a great idea,; glad to have you with us. :)

[–]FleetingWishEndorsed Contributor 5 points6 points  (7 children)

This is interesting. Do you mind indulging my curiosity? I'm curious what your motivation was for trying a little red pill tactic. It sounds like you had a great relationship with out the red pill... So why change it up?

[–]RosePeach[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Oh, I think I thought of a more pertinent answer to your question. I saw another field report from another woman in a very similar relationship to mine. She said she tried RP, her husband stepped up, took charge, got a little more animalistic in the bedroom, and it made both of them happier. Can confirm in two days I've seen this changes already.

Last night we discovered our AC repairman hadn't done a good job and the fan has been blowing but the unit not on. I got upset and said "What? HE DIDN'T EVEN CHECK IF THE UNIT TURNED ON BEFORE CHARGING US??"

And boyfriend's reply was "HEY, don't speak to me with that tone. I am already upset about it enough, I don't need you getting upset to make me feel worse."

And I went bug-eyed, because he's NEVER done that before. I can't say I enjoyed it. But I can see he is taking a captain role and it's what I am trying to encourage. So if I don't necessarily like it... that's not the point.

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    [–]RosePeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I wasn't screeching, but thank you for your input. It was more a matter of him saying "don't speak to me in that tone," in a tone of his own that I didn't appreciate.

    [–]RosePeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I guess really it's finding someone so absolutely incredible I would do literally anything to cherish and nurture this relationship.

    [–]Fsoprokon 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Every single time I refill his glass has been met with a beaming smile and words of gratitude. I have been called "wonderful" "special" and "great" more times today than maybe in the last month combined. The interaction that prompted me to post right now was:

    Him: Did you know how great you are?

    Me: well, I did, but I love hearing you say it! (said with a cheeky grin and a wink)

    Him: Well I love it when you're great to me just so I get to tell you how great you are.

    [–]FleetingWishEndorsed Contributor 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I understand she got good results. That makes sense because the advice we give here works. What I don't understand was why she felt compelled to try it in the first place. It's her motivations that have made me curious. :)

    [–]Fsoprokon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I think the idea was trying to make the relationship better by doing nice things for each other, beyond what they've already done.

    I think RP addresses an issue with people today, not just a man and woman dynamic. People seem to have forgotten how to go above and beyond to make another person happy. I can't deny how lackluster people are in regards to each other these days.

    [–]HeadingRed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Such truth in the words "Want to be treated like a Queen? Make sure your man feels like a King"

    Sadly in so many circles today it seems to be not understood.

    [–]JackGoldsteinWrites 11 points12 points  (4 children)

    Great job.

    One of the reasons my g/f coasted right past the plate zone into LTR territory was because she got me food every single time I asked her to get me food and drinks. I don't even have to be working. Even if I'm playing video games, she'll do it.

    Since we both work, we both cook for ourselves for the week during the weekend. She always gives me a few portions of what she made so I can try it out (her recipes are usually more, uh, complex than mine).

    Verily, the way to a man's heart starts with his stomach.

    [–]gabilromariz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    This gave me a great idea. I make my own frozen foods instead of buying so I can just microwave one dose when I'm in a hurry to lunch.

    I think my boyfriend would like to have some in his freezer too :)

    [–]Hyenabreeder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I too can confirm that a GF who brings you your food and drinks whenever you need them is a winner.