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ADVICEWhat is your RP relationship like? (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by Lemon_Blossoms

Hello! I have a few questions for those of you who are happily in a RP relationship (married or not married)! I am in my first relationship, and I have no basis on what a good, healthy relationship between a man and woman is supposed to be like and would appreciate some points of references. Of course, I completely understand that a relationship is very personal and will be different for each couple, but I would still like to understand what a healthy RP relationship looks like generally. So...here we go!

 

  1. What is it like?

  2. How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

  3. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

  4. What do you like the most about your relationship?

  5. Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

  6. What do you talk about?

  7. What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

  8. How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

  9. How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

  10. How do you feel without him?

 

Thank you for taking the time to share your experience and thoughts!


[–]honeyfern 20 points21 points  (5 children)

Welcome! I highly suggest you read the side tab as well, as a lot of our relationships have the same kinds of methods in them.

What is it like?

Absolutely wonderful

How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

I feel like we're in a very nice bubble. We understand each other, respect each other, are loyal and proud. Not to mention the sex is amazing.

Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

Absolutely it's fun. At times I get bored or tired, but only of interacting, not of him as a person. I have no desire to seek beyond.

What do you like the most about your relationship?

It's comforting. The natural understanding that comes along with it. We both know our roles in the relationship so there is very little time spent talking about chores, the house, money, etc, because we both know what we need to be responsible for. More time for us to talk about things that make us happy. We're not worrying about the other person slacking off.

Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

Never.

What do you talk about?

Anything we think of. The planet, politics, movies, music, people, sex, sorrows, hardships, fears, dreams, everything. No topic is taboo in our relationship, we want to be open books.

What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

I think he's a strong and proud man. I think he's always focused on what's best for us and how he can improve our lives. He's always trying to improve his skills and knowledge on a vast amount of subjects, but he's also very dedicated and focused on his career. He lights up any room he's in and laughs more than anyone I know. He's incredibly respectful towards both of his parents and strangers. He never gives into peer pressures (his friends like to smoke for example and have tried many many times to get him to). He's a man of his word. He's tender and loving towards children and animals. My family adores him and he feels the same about them. He's the funniest person I know too. I'm honestly getting all excited just typing this out realizing how much I love him.

How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)? I am a very emotional person and he's very logical. So if in the moment I'm frustrated with something, I tell him "I think I have a problem with this situation" and he says "Okay, when you figure it out, come to me and we'll talk". We have agreed on this script ahead of time, so this allows me to address that there is a problem in the moment, but then instead of unleashing messy thoughts and emotions on him, I get the opportunity to take my time and figure out the real problem. Then I bring him the problem, not the solution. He'll find a solution typically. When he has a problem he just tells me straight up whenever and never really seems to need to talk it out. So Really it just comes down to patience and communication. If one person is too frustrated to properly and calmly talk something out we take time to collect ourselves and return to the conversation at another time. Everything gets solved, even if it's not immediately.

How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)? None of my relationships can really even be compared to my current one. My longest relationship prior to this one (4years) was very different. I was the captain I'd say and I hated it. He could never give me what I wanted. My current partner redpilled me and I'm so glad he did. I however, made the decision to become a Surrendered Wife.

How do you feel without him? It's a mixture of both sad and strong. Sad, because I love nothing more than being with or around him. Strong, because I am supported woman, every time we part he says something along the lines of "You have time make the world a better place while I'm gone" and it's very motivating for me. Reassures me that what I do while I'm apart from him is my opportunity to grow as a person and come back at the end of the day with new things to tell each other.

[–]Ezaar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the problem resolution part. That definitely seems to lie with you two understanding yourself and then understanding how you operate with one another. 🙏🔥

[–]Saychay_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The part where you talked about what you love about him just reminded me of how much I love my captain. Made me giggle and everything.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great relationship! I wish you two happiness =] Thank you for sharing your experience!

[–]dickbuttspleasure -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

Seems like pretty decent advice and a strong relationship.

Dont cheat on him

[–]honeyfern 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think so :)

And I won't, not in my lifetime.

[–]NewMindRedPill1 Star 5 points6 points  (2 children)

1.What is it like?

Amazing! everything moves so smoothly and we each know our roles so there is rarely any bickering or arguing.

2. How do you feel when you are with your Captain? Like I'm safe and guided. I feel stronger against the world and more confident. I feel like everything is easier, even dieting. I'd rather kiss him than eat dessert. lol

3. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain? I'm always so excited to see him and we have loads of fun! He's actually better at having fun than me. I don't usually get bored in general. I always have something to do, he and I both have a lot of goals and we want to be a "power couple" so we never really have a chance to become bored. I do get tired, not of him but just in general because we're constantly on the go.

4.What do you like the most about your relationship? I can trust him with everything. He's very smart, logical, and responsible. I can count on him to always be there. If he says be ready at 3pm I see him arrive at 3pm exactly (took some getting used to). I can count on him to help me. When I have a problem and think I only want to rant he shows me there is a way to overcome the problem. I also love how he has the perfect balance of trying to keep me happy while not being a pushover. He will not let me get away with some things like procrastination or laziness. He's strong but soft. Unshakable but adaptable. So hot.

5. Do you ever run out of things to say to each other? I wish! We never have enough time for everything we want to say. We both lead very busy lives and want to talk about it and bounce ideas. However, silence is very necessary in life. Its a time to be calm. I force myself to be quiet sometimes so we can have a peaceful moment (like when we're driving especially). I try to let him start talking first. You know how the old advice was for women to be silent or until spoken to? I try to implement this every now and then. He needs quiet time to think and especially when he is stressed. I usually implement this when we're in the car because this is when he is distracted and needs to concentrate. I can tell there is a shift in his energy because he can gather his thoughts and I know he appreciates it and values my voice even more.

6.What do you talk about? Situations at his work, family, future goals, any situations I have that I need help with, at times philosophy, ways to be more efficient, romantic nothings, cooking, all his house improvement plans, culture differences, (latin v asian), travel plans, how we'd raise children, career goals, etc.

If I can handle a situation alone I don't bring it up. Yes its important to share and be able to lean on each other but he doesn't need to know every time my computer freezes or when I stub my toe or can't find my book. I try to keep most of the things I said positive. I focus on the positive in life and that is what I bring to our conversations. He always loves talking to me because he says he sees more of the beauty in life. I bring him problems only if I know he will probably have a solution towards (like work) but not on say my split ends or girl drama.

7. What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him? Oh I have a list! I can talk about him all day! I'm going to act really silly right now...He is absolutely amazing! I am just so fricken in love I'm just done, he stole my heart. Thanks bye world I'm crazy in love. He's so hot too. Like not just his appearance but the way he acts too. Like a man, he cans still have emotions but he's just so strong mentally like nothing will sway him. Terrible things happen and he handles it calmly and decides what we need to do despite being in pain. And when he gets naughty (we haven't gone all the way...sex...but we do other things) its just so hot. I just see him standing like some fricken Greek statue of perfection with all his muscles and I'm like damn...just damn. I didn't expect this at all. And he's good at what he does cause he always pays attention and seeks to improve. He is dominant but kind and just an amazing kisser.

He's so humble and down to earth. Like on our first date his car was really old and had duck tape on the front at one point so the markings are there. He seemed so chill in our meetings and didn't even get excited when he would win mini competitions. We start dating and next thing I know he buys a house and I find all his TONS of trophies that he just shoves in the corner cause he is so used to winning. He was a competing athlete since he was 6 (wtf) and is an engineer now. Like what?! I feel so unaccomplished but inspired. He got a free ride to a top school as a student athlete. How is he still humble? He's confident but not cocky. He always pushes me to be the best version of myself too and thinks I'm amazing. He makes me feel beautiful on the inside and he doesn't just look at my outside. He doesn't push me sexually at all and waits until I'm ready. I really like that because many men have only seen me sexually because I have a very curvy body and too many guys have tried to force kiss/touch me. He likes when I dress conservative too which I love to do and I've slowly introduced him to red pill and he agrees with everything so far. I've met some of his family and everyone approves so far and his friends really like me so we're getting more and more serious.

TLDR He's everything I always wanted and more! Humble, smart, hardworking, kind, dedicated, loyal, passionate, attentive, strong mentally, etc.

8. How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

We don't have many but we talk it out. He only yelled at me once and there was a pizza on fire so it was an interesting situation and he apologized. We talk very logically usually but sometimes I cry especially when its that time of the month I get emotional. We both are very logically based so things aren't based so much on opinion but rather what makes sense. I was a competitive debater (lol) so I always prepare my arguments with facts, statistics, human psychology studies, economic studies, etc. I'm always reading so I know evidence for my point off the top of my head but it usually doesn't come to this. We agree on most things. We did recently slightly disagree on something. I wanted to see if how we would raise our children would align. The only thing he didn't like was that I wanted my kids to go to (or at least try to go)to Ivy League. He assumed it meant I would shame the children for not getting an A (like his mom did).. I told him that firstly you can get straight As and still not get into Ivy. I told him how I was neglected and I could have achieved so much more if I had academic support and for me helping my children reach Ivy League means I gave them all the support they needed and that they already lived really impactful lives (Ivy League likes kids who are already doing something great aside from grades). What Ivy league means to me is that I helped my children become disciplined, hardworking, and understand how to work smart as well as make an impact or develop a great skill that got them recognized by the Ivy Leagues. If they have those traits and that background they can accomplish anything they want to. Because I explained my why he's now on board and wants his children to be accepted into Ivy. They don't have to go if they want to, they can go to school in another country if they want but I want them to know nothing is out of their reach if they work hard.

9. How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

I've always been very traditional and RP but I was intimidated by Alpha/captain men in the past. I only had one other boyfriend and I had to always lead and I was very stressed from this. It was like I had to be his mom and his girlfriend and the captain. It was a terrible balancing act that left me exhausted and crying. Also even though he was good looking, I was never...too sexually excited. I know I'm not asexual but I would usually not by very aroused until my current boyfriend. Now I'm always turned on when I'm with him or about to see him but I know he likes to instigate. He's a very disciplined man. If he needs to do work or there's another task that must be done. Work before play. I can't distract him or try to tease him to distract him. He would find it very off-putting.. not that I've tried but I know him and his mindset.

TLDR: Being with a captain gave a major boost to my libido

10. How do you feel without him? I love him

[–]AnnaAerials 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I was smiling reading this I'm so happy for you 😘

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! It is so nice to see you gush about him! I wish you two the best!! =]

[–]asteadyheart 4 points5 points  (1 child)

What is it like?

There's nothing quite like it. Someone who will always look out for you, protect you, support you, and stand by you. It's empowering, reassuring, and exciting, all at the same time!

How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

At peace. Giddy! Very giggly, silly, and very happy. All of my worries melt away, and we can just exist in that moment together. It helps me be present!

Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

It's hilarious. I have never really let my full sense of humor out, except for him. He encourages it, and every time I do something absolutely ridiculous, he just looks and me and goes, "God, I love you so much." I've never had more fun with another person.

What do you like the most about your relationship?

How much mutual respect and trust we have. In public, we always stick by each other and never speak ill or critically of the other. Whenever we do have issues, even very serious ones, we use calm voices, listen to what the other has to say, and do our very best to respect the other's point of view. We've never had a yelling match and never plan on it.

Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

Not really? I think we make sure to temper it by taking time apart. Not really away from each other, but next to each other and just recharging with the other person around.

What do you talk about?

Politics, TV, movies, science, philosophy, family issues, music, history.... adorable animals. Pretty much everything. He says one of his favorite things is to listen to me explain a philosophy theory or an aspect of the law.

What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

He has all of the qualities I ever wanted. Someone patient, understanding, kind, but also fierce, brave, just, and determined. He's my perfect mix or alpha and beta qualities.

How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

Like I said above, we discuss it. I explain to him what I am feeling, why I am feeling, and ask him if he can understand. He tells me what he does understand about it, and then tells me how he sees it and understands it. We never judge the other person's view, and we never raise our voices.

Growing up, I had a male relative who really liked to yell. Scream, really. At everything. It terrified me, and so now when a man starts yelling I can't help but shut down. I told DH when we first met, and even though he never was inclined to yell anyway, we both work hard not to raise our voices at each other so we don't break down our dialog.

How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

It sounds weird, but I actually just feel comfortable with him. So many other relationships, I felt like they want me to be this perfect vision. Something that they think I am, and if I don't match it, I have ruined everything. I know DH just wants me to be me. He told me that me being the truest form of myself is the only way he would know he's being a good partner. If I clouded myself, or warped myself into something else for his happiness (without wanting to actually change), then it would kill him to know that he basically hijacked my life just so he could be happy. (His twin brother is very whipped and it kills him to see his brother turn into someone that he doesn't recognize.)

How do you feel without him?

I miss him, but we manage. We're very much the types to press on, and while we can get sappy when we are long distance, like when I visit my family in another city, we do our best to be productive. We always have faith that we will be reunited.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! =D I am glad you found someone you feel comfortable with and trust. I wish you two the best!!

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[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I wish you the best on your RPW journey and wish you the best in your relationship!

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What is it like? It's relaxed and lighthearted. We do a lot of fun things together and we laugh all the time. We don't bicker and nag at each other, so our time is spent enjoying each other's company.

How do you feel when you are with your Captain? We met initially when we were in high school, 15 years ago, so being around him makes me feel young again. I also feel protected. He never loses his cool, so I feel like he is in control in all situations.

Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain? We have a lot of fun together! I never get bored, but I do get tired sometimes. We do a lot of things in crowds or with our group of friends, and since I'm an introvert I need some down time afterward. He understands that and is happy to oblige when I just wanna chill at home.

What do you like the most about your relationship? That he trusts me and appreciates the respect I have for him.

Do you ever run out of things to say to each other? Only temporarily after we've been talking a lot. We can sit in comfortable silence for a long time.

What do you talk about? We talk about goofy 'what if' scenarios, our fantasies, movies, music, work, our dogs, friends and family, future plans, our childhoods...everything.

What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him? I think he is emotionally mature and intelligent. I like that he is sociable and easy to get along with. He doesn't do drama.

How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)? We really don't have problems because I defer to him when things come up. He makes intelligent and thought-out decisions that I have no reason to question. Since I respect him, he wants to make me happy.

How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)? It differs wildly because my ex introduced me to RP and he barely got out of the anger phase. He took the anger out on me by being cold and accusing me of things I wasn't doing. He was already insecure, and TRP made it worse. By the time he started to accept everything, the damage was done and I left him. My current boyfriend is learning what I know, but doesn't harbor resentment and he isn't insecure. This is a much healthier situation.

How do you feel without him? I do appreciate my alone time, but after a while I feel a little bored and I miss him.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that is adorable! Growing old with someone is pretty amazing whether it is friendship or a relationship. I wish you two much happiness! And thank you for sharing!

[–]rpwpreocupada 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What is it like?

We have been together for about 2.5 years, and engaged to be married in about 8 months. We deeply love each other and make a good team! I will admit though that we do have some key personality differences, and have to make a conscious effort to work through those (it's not all sunshine and roses). We spend a good amount of time together and apart, which makes the time we have together more appreciated. We say 'thank you' very often to express gratitude and have talked about many of our values to make sure we are on the same page.

How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

Overall, I feel safe and assured. When I do not, I let him know and why in a calm manner (ex. issues with communication styles) which has been successful!

Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

It is definitely fun! We play around physically and through joking/bantering, but I have established boundaries on what is too far for both. If I get bored, I'll recommend that we do something or go do something on my own. I think the above point of not spending TOO much time together (about 50/50) and having separate interests keeps our time together satisfying.

What do you like the most about your relationship?

I like that we can be honest and talk about difficult subjects in a kind manner. We have a lot of sexual attraction and chemistry, but we also both vet(ted) each other thoroughly to make sure we are a good fit.

Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

Sometimes! He is less talkative than myself overall, but will listen to when I want to share about a topic. I let him know that I feel more connected when we can have more conversations, but I try not to force him to talk if he's not feeling it. Through mindfulness and gratitude, I have started to appreciate the ways we connect that aren't through conversation (doing things together, cuddling, cooking, etc.)

What do you talk about?

We regularly talk about shared interests (movies, politics, religion), some wedding plans, etc. Honestly, we don't have deep, emotional conversations frequently, which is okay with me! I realized that I would be a lot happier by bringing up topics that he would have opinions on more often with him, and using my other close friendships to talk about other topics that he is not interested in.

What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

Beyond being a sexy man, I think he has shown through his actions that he is reliable and responsible but still fun and exciting. He is super funny, but also more introverted and intelligent. We are both Catholics, he has a strong moral compass, and he is loyal to his friends and family. He is not perfect and has struggled severely at times with self-doubt, but his resilience to life's struggles and high expectations that he holds himself to inspires me to also make sure I am always self-improving.

How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

I do sometimes give him potential solutions to problems (which I know contradicts the 'bring him only the problem' model), but even then I never tell him what he has to do. I try to literally phrase things as 'us vs. the problem', because early on in the relationship it would come off as 'me vs. you'. I have established clear boundaries for areas in which we have had issues (ex. how we joke with each other), and let him know calmly how I will react if these boundaries are crossed (ex. leave the area). Finally, we participated in an 'engagement retreat' before we were engaged (his idea) where we talked about all of the core areas of compatibility, and through regular discussions and check-ups we let each other know how things are going in the relationship.

How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

Yes, mainly in that I consciously defer to him more often. Before, I would start debates with SOs and agrue with a certain tone of voice, but I am more conscious now and try not to do that. I still speak my mind, but in a more feminine, warm tone that won't challenge his ego.

How do you feel without him?

I had a lot of trouble being away from him at the beginning of our relationship due to some anxiety. I've noticed the more secure I feel about our relationship, the better I feel about spending time apart. I'm always excited to see him next when we're apart, but also happy to spend my own time with friends/family/myself.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, rpwpreocupada, and congratulations on your engagement! I wish you two happiness! =D

[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I'm gonna second that you read the sidebar, but even so it's good to have real-life examples.

  1. What is it like?

Pretty darn good. We are not perfect because we are human, but on the whole it is very harmonious.

  1. How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

Comfortable, impressed, entertained, sometimes excited.

  1. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

Yeah, it's definitely fun. He's introduced me to many new activities and brought me on adventures I would have never gone on otherwise. Do I get tired and bored? Of course, but not so much tired or bored of him, just regular tired and bored. They're both parts of the human condition.

  1. What do you like the most about your relationship?

I feel like all my needs are met, both with emotional support and with the right amount of chemistry and sexual energy. I don't feel like I'm settling for less.

5.Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

Eh, not really? Sometimes I guess,but we are long distance right now so we'll often talk on the phone for 2-3 hours several times a week. Sometimes there's just not a whole lot more to say. I will say we've had many of the same conversations over again (we've been together 5 years), but it doesn't really bother me. In a world where most everyone disagrees with you, it's nice to be reminded that someone thinks the same way.

6.What do you talk about?

Politics, different cultures and the current cultural collapse, our families, our hobbies, different TV shows we both like, our pasts, our fears...everything really.

7.What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

I feel like this has sort of already been answered, but I look up to him a lot. I think he's smart and very funny and daring. Many people find him abrasive, but he cares deeply about the people close to him and is very dutiful.

8.How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

We do fight sometimes (usually due to the distance), but we always talk about it afterward when we are calm and figure it out. The bigger issues though we just talk about a lot. We are both mostly on the same page about major issues, though there are a lot of external factors that have to go into our decision making before we can make definitive plans. We both have the same wants, but we just have to play it by ear for the time being to figure out our needs.

9.How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

Better dynamic. He is more masculine, which means he tickles my pickle more than the more submissive men I dated. I am more vulnerable and girly, which he likes more than my gruff, masculine former self.

10.How do you feel without him?

Since it's an LDR (and we are often apart for months at a time), I of course feel sad and lonely sometimes, but I feel pretty confident in general. He has raised my self esteem a lot and given me more faith in myself so I don't need constant validation to not feel down.

Edit: not sure why all the first numbers came out as 1s, but I can't seem to fix it.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! I did look at the sidebar but will look again as there is a lot of material there. Wish you two the best!!!

[–]Jikira 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What is it like?

It like the best thing that ever happen to me. When you find someone who meshes so well with.

How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

Accepted, for the longest time I felt like nobody would be able to accept me. I wasn't the prettiest and I had a speech impairment. I was also really weird. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

Yes, yes, yes! I always have someone to do something with and if it is a lazy day we just sit an snuggle or play video games together.

What do you like the most about your relationship?

The way we are with each other. We both are open and honest with each other. We are also pretty judgement free, We get fat together, we lose weight together. I have zero worries.

Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

We are both debaters so, if we are not talking we discussing politics, religions, and different ideologies.

What do you talk about

Everything, our past, our future, and our present.

What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

His goal, he need to provide and take care of his family. His honesty. I also like that he never stonewalls, unlike some things you hear on red pill. My boyfriend tells me if something bothering him emotionally. There is nothing we haven't discuss.

How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

We talk, if we are emotional we will cool off first.

How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

I was picky. I thought he was a catch. I wanted him and only him. Before then I wasn't looking. I didn't want to date anyone unless I thought it could end in marriage.

How do you feel without him?

I just miss him really bad and usually try to keep myself busy. For example, like posting on reddit while waiting for him to get back XP

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. I am so glad that you feel accepted with your Captain! & Haha your last answer made me laugh. =] Wish you two happiness!

[–]carefreevermillion2 Star 2 points3 points  (1 child)

1) What is it like?

Compared to other, more blue pill relationships I have had, I would say that red pill ideologies definitely have made my relationship more equal and fair for both parties. Because blue pill insists that women control everything, I always felt very stressed when situations were out of my control. Now I trust my partner to do his job while I do mine, and I don't need to control everything.

2) How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

Confident in myself, even when I'm upset or stressed.

3) Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

He's the funniest and most playful man I've ever been with, so yes, very fun! I never get tired/bored OF him, so when I'm exhausted after a 10 hour shift or wishing traffic was less horrific, he's the one person I want to be around.

4) What do you like the most about your relationship?

Do I have to pick just one? I'd say probably the comfort of knowing that he will always support me in the ways I need best - a champion when I'm wronged, a comfort when I'm sad, a teacher when I'm the one who's wrong, etc etc.

5) Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

Never. We still stay up until 5am sometimes just talking about whatever is going through our heads.

6) What do you talk about?

Literally everything. No topic goes untouched, and we believe strongly in honesty.

7) What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

He's the love of my life. He's insanely smart, wickedly funny, and loves to challenge me, and has an impossibly sexy aura of arrogance to him. Yet at the same time he's nurturing and sweet. He has a strong work ethic and is thrifty, encourages me to take pride in my work and accomplishments, and helps guide me financially. His biggest detractor is that he still has to work through blue pill conditioning (but so do I). Oh, and did I mention his beautiful, thick dark hair and the most captivating hazel-blue eyes?

Essentially not only do I want to rip his clothes off every chance I get, but I know he'll make an amazing father and long term partner.

8) How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

If it's an acute issue, then it's tabled until we're alone and in person, and then we discuss. We're both very discussion and solution oriented problem solvers, so just discussing what's on our minds helps us relax and feel more confident that we'll fix it. Then there's lots of cuddling.

If there's an issue that is more long term that we anticipate the other person being upset by, we tell them as soon as possible so they have time to prepare.

9) How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

My previous relationships have either been abusive or deeply blue pill, so I've always been in a situation where I had no control or I had too much control. Now I know that what control I do have, I can handle, and I can trust him to take care of me.

10) How do you feel without him?

Like I can't wait to see him. But generally it's hard to be too sad when he responds so nicely to mushy or dirty texts.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can pick as many as you like! But it seems like you already have everything in one ;) I wish you two happiness! Thank you for sharing! =]

[–]Willow-girl 2 points3 points  (2 children)

It's kinda like the new Blake Shelton song, except we don't have kids, so I name the cats and he names the dogs.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I am not familiar with Blake Shelton, but the lyrics were cute! =) Sounds like a lovely relationship!

[–]Willow-girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, the end result is that we have cats with names like "Juliet" and "Dominque," and dogs named "Moose" and "Sluggo." lol

[–]tempintheeastbayEndorsed Contributor 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What a fun questionnaire and chance to reflect!

1. What is it like?

At first this relationship's impact on my life was hugely noticeable - I was so much happier and gigglier and at peace than I had been in the past. Over time it's gotten subtler but to me my relationship feels like the warm, safe molten core of my life. It's also the first one I've consciously worked on in this way.

2. How do you feel when you are with your Captain?

Girly, youthful, vulnerable, cute. Occasionally we get out of whack and I think the power balance shifts too far to me, and we devise ways to fix that.

3. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain?

It's 97% fun. We definitely get tired around each other but not OF each other, but we both work a LOT so there are definitely plenty of nights where we just want to lay on the couch next to each other and relax in silence, but we still want to be near each other while doing so.

4. What do you like the most about your relationship?

Complete trust.

5. Do you ever run out of things to say to each other?

I suppose the urge to have either emotionally soul-baring or intellectually engaged conversations sometimes runs dry, again, only because one or both of us is just too exhausted. But we never tire of our casual chit-chat.

6. What do you talk about?

To be honest it's a lot of goofing off, doing weird voices, laughing about dumb little things. And sometimes work, business, shared interests.

7. What do you think about your Captain? What do you like about him?

I think he's an incredible person. He's a self-made man, has an incredible work ethic and mind, and he's also just incredibly gentle and lovable and likable. I mostly think of him as the perfect complement to me - detail-oriented where I'm forgetful, calm where I'm reactive, patient where I'm rushed. I think he's shown me another side/version of masculinity.

8. How do you resolve problems (e.g., about your relationship, about him, about family, about your future, etc.)?

We're not perfect at this, so this answer might be a little dumb, but I tend to bring up issues/complaints/etc. in a very goofy way, i.e. in a goofy voice, or in a way with a lot of jokes, etc. It's a little hard to explain but basically instead of saying "I'm pissed you hung out with so-and-so female friend in circumstances that made me uncomfortable" I might storm off and do a purposely child-like pout so he can respond in a similarly light-hearted way? That way we can "fight" without actually cultivating too much anger.

He brings issues up, of course, super calmly and only at convenient times ;p

9. How does it differ from your previous relationships (any -before and/or after swallowing the RP)?

He's the first man I've been with that I actually (or at least consciously) respect and want to lead our relationship. That means when he's soft and vulnerable with me, I'm gentle with him in return in a way I haven't been before. It also means I allow him to dictate rules, behaviors, etc. in a way I never have before.

10. How do you feel without him?

Assuming it's planned absence and not something alarming:

When he's home 1 hour late: totally fine, kind of happy to have a little extra time to clean up house or myself, tweeze awkwardly placed hairs, watch reality TV, etc.

When he's home 2-4 hours late: a little melancholic, but I usually try and fill the time productively.

Day apart (business trip, etc.): Fairly bereft, will definitely be lower energy.

Multiple days apart: Start spraying his cologne all over the place, cuddling pillows, etc.

[–]Lemon_Blossoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I am glad you met someone who can completely trust and who complements you and helps bring out your femininity. I wish you two the best! :)

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