In the past month or so I've been aggressively overhauling my life. I've found myself with a lot of downtime in unemployment and it has been chipping away at my self worth so, I found other things to make me worthy, in other ways. I've cooked for myself and my partner everyday, this is a major life accomplishment for somebody who used to literally fear every food that wasn't tuna, hummus, or fruit.
I do all the house chores sans cleaning the stove (scares the crap out of me because it's gas so it sizzles and gets really hot when you clean it I don't know just weirds me out) and I've asked him if he would mind putting up the dishes after I wash and dry them, he doesn't seem to so for now this works.
I've also been working on how I talk to my partner, I have a big issue with him being indecisive so I've been supporting his decision making by asking him to make really specific choices. chicken or beef? vegetable, no vegetable? Eliminating the age old, "Well, what do you want to eat?" debacle. When we're trying to make plans with people or each other I ask him very directly and politely "What would You like to do?", "What would be easiest for You" (emphasis on You).
I'm sure I'm leaving stuff out but anyway I've started to notice very positive changes in him/us. He's starting to exude self confidence which is rare for him. He's become super complementary of me, he's talking way more about how he's going to marry me, how he's so lucky he gets to marry me. So last night we were talking and out of nowhere, I can't even remember what started it, he said "You've been so good lately." Now, my man is no wordsmith, he's an engineer just not of words. I was a little taken back by the delivery but the message was loud and clear. He's becoming super happy and I'm becoming super happy with our relationship, which had become a little stagnant and stale.
Excuse the abrupt ending I have to run off to an interview but that's my story just wanted to share.