I know many people who frequent this sub are out of "nun-mode", and could be considered fully fledged red pill women. But I am sure that others among us are still going through the process of self improvement. This is a post for these women.
It's not uncommon in this day and age for people (but especially women) to be addicted to attention, and social media makes this vice easier than ever to feed. Like many women, and possibly like some of you, I was once in a similar position -- desperate for ever more "likes", "follows", etc ... posting more and more racy and attention-grabbing pictures to fulfill the desire for the satisfaction of knowing people seemed to like me. But of course, not only is this not healthy, it's also horrible for most women wanting to maintain a satisfying relationship -- it should be the attention of you own partner you crave, not that of others.
But I managed to overcome this vice (and yes, I would largely consider it an addiction), and so can you. How?
Identify the problem: The first thing to do, of course, is to recognize that your actions are not ideal. Do you find it thrilling to check your social media accounts in the morning, to see how many likes/comments/shares you've gotten? Do you find yourself disappointed if you don't have as many notifications as you would like? Do you find yourself posting content for the sole purpose of trying to grab people's attention? These are signs that you are working with an addiction to attention. If you think this may be the case...
Stop posting on social media: Take a few days or a week and stop posting altogether, and see how you feel. It's likely you'll have some symptoms of withdrawal -- you'll be fighting a craving to post things, you'll be wondering where that attention you have grown used to and addicted to has gone. It's quite possible that this step will be difficult for you. You'll try to rationalize it ("it's not really a big deal if I post this picture I took! You can't even see my boobs in it, it's not for the attention!"), but fight through the urge as best you can. The harder it is for you to do this, the more you know you need to continue going through with it.
Deactivate your account(s): Stopping posting is all well and good as a first step, but of course old posts still exist, and a few days without posting something isn't really going to do a lot to help in the grand scheme of things. This is why you need to deactivate your account(s). I recommend stepping away from social media for at least a month, but possibly more. You want to stop posting, stop looking at notifications, and completely remove yourself from the realm of instant gratification attention for long enough that you no longer miss it. When you no longer feel like you want to reactivate your accounts is when you're probably in a safe position to do so.
Replace the addiction with a new hobby: But now that you've removed something from your life, you need to make an effort to replace it with something else, otherwise you will have a much harder time overcoming the craving to be desired. Find new hobbies, or throw yourself more thoroughly into your old ones. (I'm about to start learning the drums, for example.)
Cultivate your self esteem: But the most important thing to do, to ensure that you don't relapse into this old bad habit, is to make sure you have enough self esteem that you don't feel like you need to rely on others to help you love yourself. More often than not, addiction to attention is born from a lack of adequate self-worth. Recieving the attention and affection of others helps to temporarily convince a person they're worthwhile, and from there the spiral into addiction to attention can be overwhelming. Improving self esteem isn't always an easy task. It can take months, if not years. But stepping away from male attention is a good first step, as is the cultivation of hobbies. Try to improve in all areas of your life: mental, physical, and artistic. Learn a new language, go to the gym, learn how to draw. Being a well-rounded individual who has reasons to love herself outside of "a lot of men think I'm fuckable" will do wonders for mental health.
tl;dr get off instagram and go outside