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he never told me i was beautiful (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by valleycupcake

My boyfriend told me something amazing and I wanted to share. When we were first friends and then dating, not really sure it would lead to anything serious, he used lots of skill to win me (and I had my girl game strong as well!). He is not a player but believes in a man studying game to be able to attract a quality woman when she comes along.

About three months in to this fling, I noticed that he had commented approvingly on my clothes and makeup, but had never called me beautiful. I wondered why, as he must have found me attractive in order to date me, but I decided to just be more aware of what he says and see what I can gather. I knew he used to like girls of a different race so maybe I'm not his type but he likes me anyway? Nothing I need to bother him with though.

Then a few months more in, we were starting to get pretty serious when I see him and he says "hey beautiful!" I beamed, hugged him tight, and said "I don't think you've ever called me that before" to which he replied "no I haven't."

A few more months and we are starting to talk marriage. We had a lovely conversation recalling all the little moments that we have enjoyed so far and I brought up that one. Ladies, this is so thoughtful it brings tears to my eyes. He told me that he intentionally didn't call me beautiful from the outset because he knows that every guy must say that to me, and he wanted me to know that he values me and loves me for much more than my looks. While he does find me beautiful, he will still find me beautiful when we are old because it's not just my outward qualities that make it so. I listen to him and respond to him with understanding, not criticism. We have fun growing together, and I share his dreams for the future.

I think I'm gonna marry this guy.


[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (2 children)

It's great that you two can express your love in non-conventional ways. Words are just words- it's your actions that make you who you are. Making someone feel beautiful is more valuable than telling them that they are beautiful.

[–]little_red_ 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Words are just words- it's your actions that make you who you are. Making someone feel beautiful is more valuable than telling them that they are beautiful.

[–]trpbot[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confirmed: 1 point awarded to /u/NorseLady by littlered. [History]

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