I want to express my thanks to RPW for reminding me of things I knew but had let go out of laziness, I suppose, and being so comfortable in my LTR. I've been making a point not get aggravated over small things and it's made a huge difference in my relationship and personal happiness.
As an example, the other day my DH was going to deliver a used sofa to a friend and then they were going to play disc golf. He left around 10am. As the afternoon wore away, I started to feel annoyed that he was gone so long. When he got home around 5 pm, rather than being peevish and questioning why he'd been gone so long I made a conscious decision to be sweet as I heard him come in. I asked how his day had been instead of complaining about being alone all day. The story came out that they'd had to repair the sofa, they played at a really long course and then he'd helped his friend get some lumber he needed for his new house, since the DH has a pickup. I got to hear all about his day while we went and did some shopping, which we've always enjoyed doing together. We had a nice evening together, rather than retreating to our own corners because I had picked a fight. He was extra affectionate and told me he felt bad that he'd been gone so long and that it was great to be home. That was quite a return for just being able to keep my mouth shut.
I could go on and on about how much better our marriage is in the past few weeks since I've been checking out this sub.
Just for the record, my DH has been on RP for quite a while and he was the one that suggested that I might like RPW. So glad I took his advice. It's been a real benefit to both of us.
Thanks again, Ladies.