In many authority situations whether at the office, in the military or others, persons who are close to the top authority often revel in the influence that they have with the top person in power. This person often feels that he/she knows the person in power well enough with likes and dislikes that he/she knows how or when to bring up a decision to get it approved.
My theory is that women are somehow hardwired biologically to revel in their ability to influence the decision making of someone in power. It might be the person working at a store and there is some rule but the woman flashes her lovely eyes and smiles and the man gives in and makes an "exception" for her. How delighted and special she feels in that situation.
Even men enjoy this feeling. My favorite example was once when I arrived at a grocery store just 1 minute after closing time to get something for out little daughter and a women was there ahead of me but the employee cracked the door a bit to say sorry we're closed. But when she moved off and I walked up, I called him by name since I'm friendly and converse with all the employees. I apologized and explained that I need just one item for our daughter. He opened the door wide and said, "Mark, sure go get that for Megan".
In other words, I feel greatly rewarded and appreciated for my efforts to show kindness to him and the others that work there. And that employee felt like he was being a good friend to us.
I believe that emotional enjoyment of influencing decisions is a kind gentle power that women revel in even more than men and they have the built it charming face and body and voice to increase their ability to influence over men.
Some women (blue pill) feel that they need actual decision making power in a relationship on equal footing with the man. But that dynamic creates friction and strife much like 2 persons trying to both drive a car at the same time and disagreeing over the direction. That will end in a crash.
Instead if the First Mate concedes that the Captain makes the final decisions and steers the ship but when his desire conflicts with her own, she uses her charms and understanding of him to influence and even persuade him to decide in her favor, then she can achieve far greater joy and satisfaction than simply making the decision herself against his objections which leads to arguing and fighting.
My First Mate and I have achieve this kind of hard won bliss because she finally swallowed the red pill entirely and she discovered that the combination of her recognizing the captains authority and charming me into her way of thinking is EXTREMELY seductive and pleasurable dynamic for a man and woman to enjoy.
And so she rarely has any problem with me deciding against her and also she revels and delights in her feminine power of influence over my masculine will.
I encourage women everywhere to completely throw overboard the idea of "equality" in decision making and let the Captain feel he's in power but wield your sexy eyes and lovely voice to powerful effect in influencing his decisions. Men love, love, love, to be influenced this way. And women thrill in doing it.
This turns decision making into a fun activity rather than a vicious argument.