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From a young age, my father heavily impressed the importance of education upon me and he has always said learning to do housework is an equally important education to have (regardless of gender). A few years ago, he taught me how to sew buttons on clothing. Some of the dress shirts he loves are over ten years old so I've spent a lot of time replacing missing buttons on his shirts.

When visiting my boyfriend last weekend, he mentioned the button from his favorite pair of pants popped off. I told him I could replace it and we went to pick out a new button. He chose a button he really liked and I sewed it on that evening. When I presented him the finished pair, his face lit up and he was so happy I saved his favorite pair of pants.

In my feminist days, I would have dismissed this act as demeaning and sexist. But my boyfriend brings such joy to my life and I am glad this small action could bring happiness to his life.

As a side note, my mom used to sew matching pajama sets for our family and my father still wears some of the (fifteen-year-old!) pants. My boyfriend loves pajama pants, so I am thinking about learning from my mother and sewing him a pair for Christmas or our 3-year anniversary this December!

[–]RainbowKitty77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That s so cute and sweet

[–]honeyfern 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I made the pair of PJ's for my boyfriend our second year in and they were the first pair of pyjamas he ever really wore (just boxers prior) and now, 3 years later he's been bugging me to make us a matching pair for us and our cat for our Christmas card and I think I will ☺️ definitely one of the best gifts I've given him/ he's gotten.

[–]Kate_A_D 2 points3 points  (3 children)

To be fair our species would not have been able to take over the entire planet without learning how to sow. We have not exactly learned how to grow fur. Its a vital invention that allowed us to progress tremendously and is still widely used today because it was such a great one... but has been completely overlooked by historians, made banal and considered somewhat lowly by society, since its associated with women's work. That's the part feminism should cringe at, not that women can want to learn to sow.

[–]Waldorfmutti 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Seconded. Same goes for pottery. Most likely women work.

[–]Kate_A_D 0 points1 point  (1 child)

People assume pottery is easy but it takes so much skill! I'm a ceramist who sculpts and make jewelry and I spend lots of time with pottery artists. A few of them which earn their living full time off of it. The amount of work and talent required to live off of that is unbelievable and requires their complete devotion and huge life sacrifices, but they pull it off nonetheless. One of my pottery artist friend has her own home grown business, but its considered as little more than a ''cute little hobby'' by many of her family members and even some strangers shes met. I think she's simply amazing and inspiring. We do have some men who are regulars at our workshop though, and they are not seen as ''less manly'' by any of us for enjoying pottery.

[–]Waldorfmutti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to become a goldsmith but my parents were adamant that at least I do something with my Abitur. (The required degree for going to university) I will probably attend evening courses to learn it though. My Sons Waldorf school also has a workshop on lyre making, my SO and I will do this one for each child. Otherwise we would have to buy two.

[–]Waldorfmutti 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My SO is very good in popping seams or buttons.;) One thing that makes me glad to have Waldorf education under my belt.

My Son´s are at a Waldorf school as well, but mostly so they do not suffer from Angela Merkels rash decisions, there are many things wrong in the Waldorf system and it is not a good fit for everyone. But I love their home economics/Handy Craft focus. Knitting and sewing is not unmanly, provided it is thought right and engaging. But I digress,

In my feminist days, I would have dismissed this act as demeaning and sexist

That is one thing I will never understand. I keep a sewing emergency kit in my bag. Along with a first aid kit.

[–]Captainsgirl 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I'm probably the wrong person to ask, but I don't know how performing a useful skill would be considered "demeaning" or sexist. For the record, my very RP husband can and will sew a button back on - his mom taught him how. I'm happy to sew buttons back on for him, but sometimes it's quicker and easier just to do it himself, and I doubt he feels "demeaned" by the experience.

Note to self: I need to teach our sons to sew on buttons. Not as a political statement, but because useful life skills are useful.

[–]Waldorfmutti 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I am currently assembling a recipe book for my sons. Easy, cheap but healthy meals that can be whipped up fast.They will be glad when they leave home.... My SO enjoys watching me teach them how to help with the cooking. He unfortunately lacks both patience and nerves, both boys are a handful on their own. I still have the one my mother did for me. Including all my favorites.

[–]Captainsgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a wonderful idea! I should do the same. My mom did that for me as well. My oldest (14) and one of our middle boys (9) both love to help me cook or even cook small things themselves, so I think they will be especially receptive to it, but I really should be doing it for all of them so they will have some basics. Thanks for the great idea!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently sewed up a pair of pants my boyfriend really loves. The button popped off and there was a rip in the crotch area. He had been holding them together with a belt, lol. Sad to think you would've avoided doing something sweet for him in the past in the name of feminism. It's a nice to thing to do no matter the ideology! Good on you.