OFF TOPICI just want to say hello, really! (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by Brewingupabrownstorm

Hello everyone! :) I've been lurking here for about 6 months, and it's been an enlightening experience. I was directed to this community after I became very interested in Jordan Peterson's work - which was also when I was forced to reevaluate a lot of my nonsensical and ill-informed beliefs about the world.

So, a little about me, I'm 24 years old, have a full time job, live independently, am in shape, and take care of my appearance. I would say I'm a smiley and warm person, or at least I try to be - most of the time.

However, I'm also 2 years and 2 months sober from drugs and alcohol - and have been in nun-mode throughout this period. I am an active member of AA, and unfortunately, I have a high N-count (in the 20's).

When I was 6 years old, my mother died and my father subsequently went from being consumed by grief to having a long string of girlfriends, a new marriage and a divorce. It's not his fault I've ended up where I am - I made a lot of choices to my detriment along the way, but I started heavily drinking at 12/13 and it took me to some dark places.

When things got very bad at 22, I got sober - and here I am.

I've been in therapy for the past year, and in therapy with my father for the past few months to try and repair some of the damage, and face up to the grief of my mum's death (which I've never really dealt with).

Having never had a consistent and reliable female role model, you ladies have provided me with a strong and powerful light to aim at, and for that, I'm very grateful.

I still don't plan on dating for at least another 6 months, as I've got attachment issues to work through, but I will continue to try and implement what I've learnt here in my day-to-day interactions with men, and I will definitely be fully embracing the RPW way of dating when I do make it back out there (currently a terrifying prospect).

I know I could open my own airport with the amount of bagging I'm lugging, but all I can do is continue to try and grow, and learn from my mistakes - and given the amount of them, there's been a lot of lessons!

One thing I've been interested in recently are female archetypes - I've just read this book about male archetypes and the shadow self, which might be of interest to you guys -


Any reading recommendations you have - please do let me know, and thanks again.

[–]RozaHathaway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kudos! I enjoy reading about others success and this put a smile on my face. Keep up the good work!

[–]llamapickleem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey! Welcome! I had a different but similar upbringing, so don’t discount the ways it has affected your choices, struggles with addiction, sexual activity, etc. I had an absent father, many “pseudo-fathers” pushed onto me by my narcissistic, emotionally absent mother and didn’t even connect the dots until I was 21. You are not fundamentally flawed, you weren’t given the tools to succeed. Don’t beat yourself up about past mistakes. I made a LOT of mistakes in my teens that I’m trying to accept too. Congrats on being 22, independent and taking care of yourself! That’s a huge deal. I was lucky to have a boy who consistently told me I was good, enough, and after 6 years I still can’t believe it sometimes. I honestly think he’s the only reason I’m doing as well as I am, as he is dominant, loving, patient, teaches me things, etc. a word of advice: men can smell a woman with baggage. Some will take advantage and leave you worse off, while some will hold you and wipe your tears. You have to love yourself enough to wait for that man. The right one. One of the best things I found for myself was journaling. Drawing, painting, having a sweet cat who loves me unconditionally and I have a responsibility to take care of. You can be an AWESOME red pill wife someday, no matter what. You can give yourself, your husband and your kids the life that you all deserve and enjoy. Good luck girl 💕

[–]littlemisslasagna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello!!!!!! I’m proud of you and I’m so impressed with your journey! I can relate to not being raised in a traditional family and having baggage, but still coming to these RPW conclusions on my own. Your future husband and family will be so lucky to have a strong woman like you, who truly appreciates the good things in life because you are well acquainted with the bad. It will make the good times that much sweeter :)

[–]LateralThinker133 Stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grats on finding a path out of the darkness.

I recommend Fascinating Womanhood to anybody who asks. Very good book.

[–]cocodecoca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the book recommendation. I think every one has baggage to a degree, but in my opinion it's about working on yourself and doing a lot of self improvement. Even with no baggage, if you aren't in the habit of improving yourself you'll fail to grow up. Some of the most inspiring people have had difficult pasts!