I was just going to ask this as a general question, but I guess it would be helpful to share why it came up in my life.
Over the weekend, I asked my girl friends if anyone wanted to go to the pool. Two of the girls gave me "hard" no's: sarcastic, and "why would I want to do that" responses. The other two girls never responded to my private messages, although I saw that they "read" them right away.
I thought this was rude, but it's one of those things where I can't really speak up about it without looking like I'm freaking out or being controlling. It got me thinking that women are masters of that-- deflecting, avoiding, and communicating what you do/don't want without being straightforward. We also tend to be the ones accepting or rejecting plans from guys, so I got a taste of that and didn't like it.
Often when I'm dealing with other women, I feel that there is this underhanded language im not really privy too. A friend who I'm having a great time with, will start making fun of me to a group of guys at a bar or in front of our other friends. I tend to just ignore it. In my experience, calling someone out on it gets a response like, "I'm just jokinggg!!!"
So, rpw, how do you deal with girlfriends acting "bitchy"?
P.S. I went to the pool by myself -- I was a little worried I was going to be the only girl in her 20's there alone, but I wasn't, and I had fun swimming around :)