What the fuck is wrong with girls and social media? (self.asktrp)

submitted by koedeloe

I was working out and I saw this mediocre 6/10 girl. I see her in real life all the time at the gym. During her workout she is filming her shitty deadlifts and is on her phone all the time between sets. I haven't seen her talk with anyone in the gym. On Instagram though... she's the shit, BRB updating instagram while she's lifting to get likes while no one IRL even looks at her. It's funny to watch tbh.

Second girl... she is the sister of one of my friends. She is actually a fat whale. She's 20 years old and I'd say a 4/10. I was watching a movie with my friend and her. She was browsing Tinder and I asked her how many matches she had. She said 700. I told her that's bullshit and she showed me. It was true.. I was bamboozled. She is arrogant as fuck and in real life no guy wants to date her, yet on Tinder she has 700+ likes????

The next girls are girls who claim that guys are assholes who only want them for sex; yet when you check their social media it's full of bikini pictures and push up bra's?? I don't understand the way they think.

Last girl is a goodlooking girl. She has 3k followers and 300 posts. I know her since I was born and she sits home every weekend. She has no real friends. Always when I ask how her weekend was she said she watched TV. lmao fun life.

I'm 21 years old and I fucking hate social media. I think it's just a validation tool. The people who I've met who don't use it have the best lifes. The ones who are on it all the time are usually the boring ones who got nothing going on in their life, ironic, isn't it?

But it makes me rage though.. I can't seem to find a decent 7/10+ girl anymore who isn't on Instagram/Twitter/Snapchat. Is this what girls have become? ITS FUCKING SAD.

[–]Thunderfin 105 points106 points  (22 children)

I'm 21 years old and I fucking hate social media.

I'm 19, almost 20, and got rid of all my social media (except Reddit). Just delete it, best decision ever. No more anxiety and wasted time.

[–]koedeloe[S] 31 points32 points  (7 children)

I deleted Tinder, Instagram and Snapchat this week. Used Insta to see what kind of girl I was dealing with. I still use Facebook though. Group chats with my friends are useful and it's nice to check events.

I agree, deleting social media is the best decision ever made.

[–]SouthAfricanGiant 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I firmly believe that Social Media is the worst thing to happen to society. The concept sounds good on paper but in practice its a fucking dumpster fire.

I have all the accounts but dont use most of the platforms. Twitter is deleted, Tinder I have reactivated because I am moving overseas (retiring at 33... fuck yeah) and FB I have kept just to make it easier for family to get hold of me overseas. I have Insta and Snap accounts but the apps havent been installed in over a year. I don't have the time for shit like that.

[–]Thunderfin 13 points14 points  (4 children)

Yeah, Facebook (especially Messenger) is a must-have for me, since I'm still in college. Same with GroupMe. Otherwise, I'm off the grid.

[–]GucciGangBucks 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Going off the grid was one of the best things I ever did. If you don’t have high SMV online. Which most of us don’t because we’re not posting all the time like fags. It’s not a good idea to be on SM. It also gets rid of the mysterious factor. You can be way to transparent online. I like to lie like I’m much more active then what I am and SM ruins that.

[–]babybopp -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Look guys from a much older perspective, stop trying to age too fast. At 19-20 deleting social media is probably something you will regret in six months. These days all information cones in that form. You just stuck the needle out and went cold turkey. Not good. The ideals if trp are all about control. The ability of man to control, control his destiny, actions and the actions of others towards him. Dont run .... control. At your age you should not be making such black and white decisions. Edge... gray out... show CONTROL. Lol. Show yourself what you can do, with all that and control it..

But delete Instagram and tinder. They are a fucking waste of time.

[–]GucciGangBucks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I deleted social media like 2 years ago and don’t regret it. It’s a beta validation tool. I’d rather just scroll reddit and watch YouTube anyways. Only thing good about twitter is Trump tweets.

[–]LouderWithBowser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I deactivated my Facebook account because I wasn't getting anything but a time-suck out of it--and I don't miss it at all. And deactivating, as opposed to deleting, allows you to keep all your friends on Messenger, rather than having to add them all by phone number. As you said, Messenger is immensely helpful for classmates to find you when they don't know your email.

[–]AmazonAlphaMale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

22 only FB for friends and family, maybe get on twice a week. Snapchat don’t look at anyone’s story’s or post any as well

[–]On_The_Tweek_Again 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel so much better since deleting all other social media. Reddit is a bit different and I get a lot of good reads on here so I justify it. Social media is causing a giant amount of social problems for people these days. It’s all a facade for their insecure and lame lives.

[–]BitingInsects 12 points13 points  (3 children)

Instagram is great for screening women you're about to get involved with. Their entire history is right there in pictures and comments. Who they fucked, who wants to fuck them, who they want to fuck. If they are crazy, etc. I strongly believe it's kept me from getting in too deep with the wrong type of chick because I was horny. Once I screened IG i knew I shouldn't mess around with that type.

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[–]ArabSigma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a moment there I thought they made a GLO bot

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[–]_Icarus_Reborn_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here.

It's a great decision and has definitely made me more productive and IDGAF about keeping up with Jones'.

I decided real world experiences/interactions are better than chasing validation on socmedia.

Ironically, I didn't even get one Birthday wish from a single friend when it was my Birthday.

Just goes to show the reliance we have on social media to even make us decent friends.

Still, wouldn't go back at all.

[–]Invoker11 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Reddit has it's problems too.. like the karma system... if the majority on don't agree with you.. you could be telling them life saving information.. you will be downvoted and be in karma hell or banned .. It's group think and status quo and conforming encouraging

[–]ardu- 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Definitely, but if you are on here for the karma that is the issue. Reddit has an abundance of information for any interest you may have.

[–]Invoker11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree but not all of that information is good information.. though it's still pretty helpful

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    [–]assholeofthesky 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    have a phone? get their number? you know the normal way of communication that doesn't involve the internet

    [–]StinkyDiaper 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Have a pencil? Got paper and a stamp? You know, the normal way of communication that doesn’t involve phones.

    [–]assholeofthesky 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    this bitch is gonna get so hot for my handwriting !

    [–]StinkyDiaper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    She wants the abcD.

    [–]mrpoopistan 63 points64 points  (5 children)

    Bear in mind that social media hijacks the reward system in the brain as badly or worse than drugs. The "in real life no guy wants to date her" part is half the reason she's wasting her time with all that. She gets a sense of reward in the same way that a guy playing Madden feels like he's a badass.

    I'm also guessing a good number of those 700 matches are numbers gamers, orbiters and scammers.

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      [–]jbeezy242 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Haha damn I play madden 😢

      [–]TooToughToQuit 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      I'm also guessing a good number of those 700 matches are numbers gamers, orbiters and scammers.

      And some guys even use bots to automatically swipe everything right 24/7.

      [–]mrpoopistan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Tinder has a system in place to flag people who fully automate and always swipe right. They also scan for inconsistent patterns (true randomization is hard to fake).

      I know a guy who uses a toned down approach on other sites/apps like OKC that flags women of interest to him, and then he finishes the job manually. I would hate to figure out what his actually hit rate is, but it's above 0.000, and he seems to be fine with that.

      [–]red_matrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Also - guys just want to pump and dump

      [–]CharlesChadworth 32 points33 points  (5 children)

      Filters... as you said IRL she would rarely get approached however has 700 plus dicks online wanting to orbit her.

      Let's be real, the majority of us have matched with HB7 or above online only to find out they are HB5 or 6 IRL.

      Yet we still smash as you have already made th effort to meet and fuck. Where if you had have seen her on the street you wouldn't have approached.

      [–]askmrcia 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      Let's be real, the majority of us have matched with HB7 or above online only to find out they are HB5 or 6 IRL.

      Literally happened to me last weekend. She looked like a damn music video model and she claimed she was a professional dancer.

      I see her in real life and she has ten extra pounds compared to her online pics and then said she hasn't been dancing since 4 years ago.

      [–]moltenw 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Should have ditched her right there on the spot.

      [–]askmrcia 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      She drove 20mins to my apartment. Had I met her somewhere then yea i would have left on the spot

      [–]moltenw 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      In that case, I'd give it a pass as well. It's like ordering a pizza, but the pizza turns up late and a little cold but it's free because they didn't get it on time. Still gonna eat it.

      [–]askmrcia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Lmfao!! Man thanks for the Monday laugh.

      [–]freew33zy 24 points25 points  (2 children)

      The tinder matches are all real--I've seen lesser attractive girls' tinders, and they still match with mostly everyone. Pretty rare for a non-match. Dudes are thirsty.

      As for "where are the girls without social media" well, I'm here to tell you they exist. They're also not these huge unicorns, but what they will be is a little bit different than your average girl (think about it logically: social media addiction is typical feminine behavior, so a girl that doesn't exhibit it is going to be a little different.)

      Source: my current LTR and also a former plate are both "girls without social media," but while both are hot (conventionally hot--I have standard taste, except I veer a little towards "girl next door" look) they're both a little eccentric. Unlike what you may think, neither are shy nor introverted--actually they're the opposite. I also met both in day-to-day life, not while out at night or "gaming." From what I know, neither ever had a Tinder or fucked a random person from a party--so if you are finding social media validation whores, it could be because the girls who fuck random people tend to be validation (and actual) whores. Now, my LTR is no saint, and neither is the other girl I referenced, but they are overall much more pleasant to deal with than the girls you're referencing, and it's not by coincidence.

      [–]lonelystar82 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      How did you meet your LTR and the plate?

      [–]freew33zy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      LTR came up and talked to me in a college lecture. I chatted with her a few different classes before # closing and invited her to a date party for my fraternity. F-closed that night.

      The plate I was just hanging out with my friend; he said a few female friends want to tag along. # close again, chill with her later in the week, f-close.

      Like I said, neither are saints--but they're both still pretty cool girls with actual interests and personalities. Would recommend.

      [–]RemyBucksington 84 points85 points  (0 children)

      Remember, TRP is an acceptance philosophy.

      This is just how women are. And they may not say it, but TRP is how they want us to be.

      The outrage and shock will subside, and you’ll just feel free.

      [–]bondbandito 21 points22 points  (1 child)

      Girls on social media = Guys on porn

      [–]MikeSangria 5 points6 points  (0 children)


      [–]OfficialHavik 18 points19 points  (0 children)

      It's shitty as it only increases narcissism and destroys society while making people like Zuckerberg rich, but the cat is already out of the bag. Not much you can really do about it.

      [–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock 16 points17 points  (1 child)

      The natural high (chemistry) you get from relationships and socializing is being substituted with social media. The natural effect x9000 but with a different stimulus, a very very low effort stimulus. Perform a cyber charade for a few minutes a day, no need to be outside.

      [–]Woke_Normie 17 points18 points  (5 children)

      social media is garbo.

      when i have conversations with girls in real life, they all have garbage social skills its funny. people always have their face buried into their phone and when someone talks to them irl they are always shook but happy that someone is communicating with them.

      try to break the bad habits of people and talk to them irl during times when they are normally on their phones being awkward.

      the only good thing about it is its like easy mode for me because its like im constantly dealing with people who suck at conversations so i can lead everything. compared to if everyone had the social skills of 1950 lol.

      [–]DropDeadTyrant 4 points5 points  (3 children)

      everything this man said is true. i love finding a socially awkward girl because I get to talk about myself and watch her struggle to redirect the conversation.

      [–]Atheist_Utopia 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      This could also work against you when you run out of things to say

      [–]Woke_Normie 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      get them to talk about themselves and lead them lol.

      [–]Atheist_Utopia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Kinda hard when they give one-word answers due to their lack of social skills

      [–]DebonairD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I completely agree. People view as like a god simply because you can acupuncture function without a cellphone

      [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Hamsters need validation like they need air.

      [–]OPTIMUSL1ME 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Finding a girl without an Instagram is near impossible. At that, I've never seen an Instagram that wasn't made for validation. I only use social media for shitposts lmao

      [–]fade2clear 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      The internet and cell phones have dissolved any substance in which a girl(or even most guys) may hold.

      You’re either a part of the societal decline or you’re completely out of the loop. Take your pick.

      99% of girls don’t have the wherewithal to define themselves, they need to others to do it for them and provide them the validation needed to feel good about themselves.

      It’s honestly a fucking pandemic but we are in too deep. You better adapt or you’re going to find out the hard way.

      [–]VictoriaSobocki 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Facebook use is actually in decline. Let’s see what the next thing will be

      [–]ironrape12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      What’s wrong with the last girl who sits at home all day?

      If I remember correctly, it is the man who brings excitement to a woman’s boring, mundane life.

      I know you’re angry, but keep filtering out the ones that you clearly don’t want in your life and when you smash that girl you click with, get to work.

      I don’t think it’s the best idea to delete social media all together as it is a useful tool that has clearly helped you filter out women and confirm these TRP truths. Except Tinder, that app is more trouble than it’s worth.

      Hope this helped!

      [–]jizzonmypants 4 points5 points  (3 children)

      Woman are wired towards social issues due to their primitive behaviour of taking care of the family in the tribe if they didn’t payed attention to it, it meant they getting kicked out of the tribe and therefore their family deaths

      No shyt they care so much about attention whoring and posing, this elevates their social value and reafirms their social worth which is a positive thing to their survival.

      [–]ThisIs_RomanticPaul_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Hey man, I am in the same age as you. I agree with you that the majority of girls who aren't aesthitically good looking are on social media & dating apps for validation that they don't receive in reality. Tinder is a waste of time in the ongoing years and social media is getting worser in my opinion. But, as man, we got to work on our SMV to maximize what we have

      [–]lifeisweirdasfuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Social media is used 1. by betas, 2. by guys who use it for their business or have an high status.

      If your status is low, there's no point in having social media, they can only worsen your smv.

      Women are not fucking the guys who are texting them on social media. Women are fucking men who approach them in real life and have no time to put unnecessary likes on their photos, thus giving free validation.

      You increase your chances of fucking her just by not giving her the validation she receives daily by everybody.

      [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      mediocre 6/10 ... On Instagram though... she's the shit

      fat whale. on Tinder she has 700+ likes?

      And this is why they like social media. They enter a world in which they're desirable.

      The next girls are girls who claim that guys are assholes who only want them for sex; yet when you check their social media it's full of bikini pictures and push up bra's?? I don't understand the way they think

      Forget what they say (which is all PR), watch what they do. It's attention whoring, then blaming men for doing exactly what they intended/wanted men to do. It's a way to get what they want (attention/validation) while pretending they don't want it ("Men are assholes").

      I'm 21 years old and I fucking hate social media. I think it's just a validation tool

      Right. And it has sucked in a generation.

      The ones who are on it all the time are usually the boring ones who got nothing going on in their life, ironic, isn't it?

      Right. If you have a shit life, at least you're an instagram celebrity. It's like an addiction. Why fix real life, when you can post another bikini pic and revel in the attention.

      But it makes me rage though.. I can't seem to find a decent 7/10+ girl anymore who isn't on Instagram/Twitter/Snapchat. Is this what girls have become? ITS FUCKING SAD.

      Yes, this is reality.

      There are girls not quite so into it though, where are you looking?

      [–]omega_dawg93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      validation. validation. validation.
      it's more important to women than sex and they get instant validation for their bodies, hair, feet, clothes, add decisions etc.

      reddit has several subs where it's sickening.

      [–]Psychological_Radish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Social media, especially Instagram and Snapchat, are tools that women use to advertise status - mainly to other women, but to men as well. Just another modern method of facilitating hypergamy.

      [–]W_O_M_B_A_T 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      They're video games that cater to women's fantasies.

      What is up with boys and role playing games?

      [–]SensualSeduction01 5 points6 points  (8 children)

      I dont understand why being on social media is inherently bad

      [–]beginner_ 11 points12 points  (1 child)



      And so on.

      It's proven that it makes you depressed and anxious at the same. It's only beneficial if you actual are already at the top and mostly use it for marketing purposes of whatever you do.

      [–]VictoriaSobocki 1 point2 points  (0 children)


      [–]mounted2czarina 14 points15 points  (5 children)

      It’s bad for ugly people and people with nothing share.

      [–]Saberinbed 12 points13 points  (2 children)

      Speaking the truth. If you ugly, its better off not having social media.

      [–]VictoriaSobocki 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      I know a lot of ugly guys with very successful social media profiles, because they have interesting lives and help people.

      [–]Saberinbed 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      The majority of ugly guys don’t have that going for them. If you got something going for you, definitely have a social media.

      [–]HoldenCoughfield 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      Good one. Except that doesn’t explain all of the ugly people that share mundane bullshit proliferating social media.

      [–]SensualSeduction01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Why the fuck would I, or you, care about ugly people?

      [–]bozza213 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Is this what girls have become?

      Yep. No better way to get massive amounts of validation from guys than on social media with plausible deniability in full effect.

      My ex use to send me screenshots of her inbox where guys were sending her "unwanted" nudes to get all those validation and sympathy points from me. Later found out she was actually requesting them. she was a solid 9/10 with make up.

      [–]volvostupidshit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Dude she is trying to tell you to please her or she will get the dick from someone else. I am glad you broke up.

      [–]ArabSigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      The audacity of sending you another man's nudes. This woman has issues

      [–]AdviceMaster1412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Social media is a great way for them to hamster themself into their own reality. Even fatties get praised on there, no fucking kidding...

      [–]ElijahBurningWoods 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      The reason she got 700 matches? It's because of our fucked up society. Because of this, there are alot thirsty guys out there.

      [–]Velebit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I saw a literall obese person tell me she had thousands of matches. It is 'women are awesome' effect, it even has it's wikipedia page.

      [–]shanghaiboii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      We men need to stop validating women so much. we're making them entitled self-centered narcissists.

      [–]LeJamesBron32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      It won't get any better man. I'm 25 and it seems like every time I checked IG or Snapchat, there's some former hook-up who is trying to hype herself up.

      Your first paragraph made me think of multiple girls I used to plate, who every time they're in the gym they spend more time taking selfies and videos of some exercise with terrible form.

      One of my biggest pet peeves are people who are taking selfies to post so other people know they were at the gym. Let your body be the proof you were there, not a picture or video.

      [–]TheLastMgtow 4 points5 points  (6 children)

      Join the ranks of mgtow if you have balls and standards.

      AWALT, only pump and dump.

      Take from them everything, give them nothing.

      [–]ZeppKfw 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Get outta here with your trash ideology

      [–]TheLastMgtow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You are an inexperienced man who first needs to get laid, and if you are lucky one day maybe you can afford to be a mgtow.

      [–]acithetic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      >take from them everything, give them nothing.


      [–]DylanKleb0ld 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Who are you going to pump and dump with that incel approach?

      [–]TheLastMgtow 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Your female family members. The fact you hate incels proves you are an incel, hence why you are posting on this subreddit, that should be called r/askhowtostopbeinganincel. Incels are victims of society and so are you too. I had plenty of sex, and vast experience with LTRs, and i could give you a lesson on anything. You are an arrogant weasel who will get his karma. We are mgtows, we know more than you, go back to school.

      [–]DylanKleb0ld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      From where is this copypasta? First time seeing it

      [–]Invoker11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I could believe that cause most of the cuck/toxic "men" and the fact that most guys swipe right on everything cause it's easier and they aren't/can't be picky

      [–]red_matrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Women want validation, social media is like crack cocaine for most girls.

      [–]packetdata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      But then you can use insta to determine if she is LTR material or plate.

      [–]CongenialYi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I think the best comparison would be to look at what most youngish boys do in their spare time, they play video games. Video games and social media are both designed to be addictive, yet men are clearly over represented in the video game industry. The same is true of social media, it's the female "video game" of choice, with the whole premise of the game being to accumulate as much validation as possible.

      [–]Infernowarp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Can confirm. Am 24 yrs old and have no social media. Super easy to have a private life and focus on improving myself. Also, social media is just for bullshit validation

      [–]2johnnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      The next girls are girls who claim that guys are assholes who only want them for sex; yet when you check their social media it's full of bikini pictures and push up bra's?? I don't understand the way they think.

      A man trades money and effort for sex. A woman trades sex for non-sex goods. This is the biological/evolutionary norm. Those girls are angry that they advertise sex and get only sex in return.

      (exception: exceptionally super hot men can get quick sex for sex, as long as they also show that they have no money to offer (be or pretend to be a loser). If they are hot+have resources, then the women will attempt to leverage to get both things from them, by denying them the quick and free sex. )

      [–]StinkyDiaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Women’s lives are fucking boooooooooriiiiiiiing, on average. Most women literally only eat and watch Netflix during their leisure time.

      It’s no wonder they seek constant validation online.

      [–]warlordchad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You’re 100% correct. Some women get so much validation from social media they don’t seek it out in real life. They also get super picky and feel like they deserve some movie star super hot guy when they’re only mediocre looking. Some will figure it out, some won’t, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. The fact remains that girls still go out to meet guys and there’s nothing more validating than to have a good looking guy cold approach then who’s smooth and knows what he’s doing. And for the girls you know who are like that, I’d tease the shit out of them. Call out their vanity. Ask them how much money they make as an Insta model lol 😂