What is your stance on revenge in this situation? (self.asktrp)

submitted by TopOccasion29

I'm in a situation where i can take revenge on someone who sucker punched me and mocked my deceased grandfather all because i told him to be unselfish during play. Basically, i'm in university and on one of the sports teams (I won't go into too much detail). One of my teammates sucker punched me in front of the coach and teammates during training. He also said some shit about my grandfather who recently passed away. I didn't get knocked out so i turned around and wanted to attack him before the rest of the team intervened.

The coaches and management took no action after and just continued like nothing happened. Only my teammates and the captain of the team, who's also my best friend, had my back and pushed for the sucker puncher to be suspended for a while. The dude who suckerpunched me didn't apologize afterwards and its just been awkward during training with divided cliques.

There is a huge party coming up and the sucker and his girl will be there. My teammates and i have planned for me to make moves on his girl who I've been gaming on social media after the incident. We've been sexting and she sent me nudes as well. They are also going through a rough patch but are still together. I plan on embarrassing him in front of everyone during the party by making moves on his girl, escalating, dancing and making out with her...basically cucking him in front of everyone.

He's got a temper and is aggressive so he will attack but before then my close friends and teammates have planned to restrain with him and throw him out of the party. Its a good thing the party is at my best friend's house and he's on it too.

Your thoughts?

[–]WellShit23 102 points103 points  (5 children)

Fuck his mom too.

[–]BillieBoBobBrain 24 points25 points  (1 child)

[–]xddm2653 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ay is that forreal? lmao OP do this

[–]benmarvin 17 points18 points  (1 child)

And his dad. Really gotta assert that dominance.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fuck his dog too.

[–]kellykebab 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a healthy situation. I'm sure this will end well.

[–]Son_of_Gatsby 156 points157 points  (5 children)

Do it, don't forget to film it, then post it here

[–]OfficialHavik 38 points39 points  (0 children)


[–]TopOccasion29[S] 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I wouldn't film to protect the identity of my teammates and I

[–]ScratchinCommander 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just blur the faces

[–]MattMan970 3 points4 points  (0 children)


[–]Vithonil 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh please do, OP!

[–]besurks 42 points43 points  (2 children)

I’m also at a university on a sports team. Something similar happened to me in hs though. What I did was I fucked the kids girl and never said a word to him. Was happily banging his girlfriend for 2 months and never said a word to the guy. He found out only because I told him at the end of season and it’s possibly the best revenge I’ve ever given. So do it bang his girl. Don’t tell him until the end of fall. What’s he gonna do, hit you again? Fuck it if he does that fight him.

[–]TopOccasion29[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's a good idea. Were you wary of him during the time you were fucking his girl?. I'm not fearful of him but you never know he may gang up on me.

[–]besurks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all and the dude was bigger and more muscular then me at the time. The kids on your team for sure know the kids already a douchebag so you basically can do whatever you want. I don’t have a problem with the kid anymore and we have similar friend groups. So me and him are cool now but it’s known when I’m around him that he still feels like shit about the entire thing and he’s basically my bitch. So you should be fine just don’t sound like a pussy around him. Edit: forgot to mention there were multiple kids on the team that knew I was hooking up with his girl and they never said a word about it. Even his closest friends

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 45 points46 points  (1 child)

You're putting your hand in a big beehive of drama there, pal. But I dunno, maybe there's some honey to be found in that mess.

Honestly, I say do it. It's worth it to have a giggle at him, and it will make him paranoid and needy in his relationships for years in the future.

Just tell him as you're tossing him out "Listen my friend, I only tell you this one time. Don't fuck me, don't you ever try to fuck with me, Tony."

He'll be a massive pain in the ass the whole rest of the semester, of course.

[–]moresmarterthanyou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

id say hes already won. Just show the other guys on the team the sexts and make him the butt of the joke, this will be the big win here and hes not seen as escalating

[–]TheLastMgtow 13 points14 points  (4 children)

I think you dont need to risk so much. Plus women like drama and she might have her own agenda in here. You will not get out of this clean. He will certainly revenge back. Some of your friends that are encouraging this are not your friends and just want to start shit. You risk embarassing yourself in front of everyone.

There are men killing other men for much less. You think punching you in the face and insulting your grandfather is bad? What have you done for him to do that? That goes away with a quick apology. What you plan to do is basically completely humiliate him in front of everyone and he will have no choice than to put all of himself into destroying you. You have not read the Art of War. Never corner your enemy, give him a flank to retreat. You are a terrible strategist and very naive.

If you want your revenge you already have it.

Do the following:

Create a fake account. And send him a message saying:

Im (girlfriend's name) friend. And just want to tell you your girl is getting banged by someone else, and send him the nudes.

He will be broken down to pieaces and you will see that next time you see him.

Then if you want to be honorable. You can go talk to him and tell him, that you didnt bang his girl but you could have done so.

All things here can backfire, and you win none with this.

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    [–]TheLastMgtow 0 points1 point  (0 children)


    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Good points and i agree with some of this but sometimes shouldn't you let people know that you aren't a walkover?

    [–]TheLastMgtow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Yes if he was punched he goes there and punches him back twice. You dont act like a bitch, and start wasting your time on some petty revenge that will make you look even worse and possibly getting screwed over in the process. But i definitely think he should do something. If fucking is girlfriend is his best and only revenge then maybe. The world is not a nice place and revenge is sacred and teaches morality to cowards.

    [–]OxfordCommasRGud 75 points76 points  (1 child)

    You sound like a bitch creating some elaborate plan just for revenge. Also, just because his girl is sending you shit on the side, doesn’t mean that she’ll be happy kissing you in front of him and everyone.


    • offer him out in a fair fight and shake hands afterwards if you’re happy fighting him

    • talk to him and sort your issues out like adults

    • forget about it

    [–]ENTPunisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Come on man, take a step back and let Machiavelli do his thing

    [–]OPTIMUSL1ME 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Don't do anything other than complain to the coach or leadership. They should've addressed the issue but didn't, it would be better to resolve this without any conflict. A good coach or captain would be worried about how teammates are getting along and wouldn't have tolerated this behavior. Unless there's another side to the story/history/etc with this guy you're not revealing.

    Taking revenge, especially in this way, is petty and childish. Don't even consider if it would be "worth it" or not, consider if you want to be that vengeful type of person.

    [–]Sayianpride007 9 points10 points  (7 children)

    You can fight him like a man, so you plan to openly steal his girl?

    You realize you just described an environment in which he has the total capability to find you and destroy you later after this and everyone will turn a blind eye... what is the long term of this plan?

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 4 points5 points  (6 children)

    If i fight him i'll break his fucking skull. I'll defend myself anytime we meet in public.

    [–]Sayianpride007 7 points8 points  (5 children)

    Save your ego for people who give a shit. If you could break his skull you wouldnt be using your friends to gang up on him and throw him out of the party. This guy scares you, and you sit and talk shit about how you could "break his skull" to internet strangers... riiiighhhhttt. This guy prob doesnt think twice about you concidering he punked your ass and you didnt do shit about it and now you need to get revenge like a woman using manipulation and other people to do it for you.

    Take his woman and if he challenges you, beat his ass. Otherwise STFU and pretend to be "alpha" somewhere else.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

    I'm physically bigger and stronger than him. He sucker punched me...what was I supposed to do lol.

    [–]SilkTouchm 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    Knives don't care about how bigger or stronger you are.

    [–]ZeppKfw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Exactly! Just one well placed knife stab can kill you in a matter of minutes.

    [–]acenumber902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Hey man i understand how you feel what you should do its fuck his girl but in private , because things can go bad if you do it on public ... if you do it openly chances are lower than if you do it private , maybe film you fucking the girl and show it to him somehow

    [–]Sayianpride007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If the plan is to get revenge, do it like a man.. not playing games and having him getting out numbered by your friends as the solution.

    The way it would have been settled is id walk right up to him and punch him in the nose and not stop until someone is pulling me off of him.

    If you want peace, prepare for war.

    [–]chachaChad 28 points29 points  (0 children)

    Jesus... why don't you challenge him to a ski race down the K2?

    Seriously, enough with the revenge fantasies. Talk to you friends and have a plan in place in case things go bad but don't plot shit. Go to the party. Have fun. Have a plan with your friends. Leave his girl out of it.

    [–]JonathanMekerset 38 points39 points  (8 children)

    You care way too much. Amused mastery and hold frame.

    You should have kicked his ass in the moment as self defense. You bitched out. Don’t try to fix what’s done.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 7 points8 points  (5 children)

    I would have beat the fuck out of him but he attacked me from behind...when i turned towards him t engage he kept distance and ran like a bitch. I was going towards him to beat him senseless...till teammates intervened.

    [–]JonathanMekerset 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Move on. Don’t hold back next time; you learned your lesson. In the meantime ignore/amused mastery.

    [–]ZeppKfw 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Then face him if you see him on public

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I can't go to jail for assault

    [–]ZeppKfw -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

    Not jump him. I meant confront him and tell him that you're up for a boxing/mma fight to settle the dispute or something along those lines. Make him realize that you're not to fuck with.

    [–]IFuckingHateAllergy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I'd normally agree, but I always act accordingly. Verbal assaults are easily shrugged, however, it escalated to more that just verbal. He was physically hurt. Revenge is a very normal thought in this case. I'm not saying he should or shouldn't retaliate but in the case that he does. He should do so in a way that his opposition would have no way to retaliate back. Some people needs to be reminded that shit has consequences. Him gaming the other dude's girl and closing is a perfect retaliation. I'd say do it

    [–]ironrape12 3 points4 points  (0 children)


    He should’ve at least fought to show the team he ain’t no bitch.

    Going for the girl is extremely low and juvenile.

    [–]out_looking_in 5 points6 points  (6 children)

    dude who suckerpunched me didn't apologize afterwards and its just been awkward during training with divided cliques

    It's awkward because you have unfinished business and everyone knows it. You guys have to fight and settle it. Keep it clean, shake hands afterwards in order to mark a definitive conclusion. Regardless of who gets the better of the fight, your shit will be settled and both sides will be able to get along again.

    Embarrassing him will just increase the tension between him and you, and your people and his people. You will simply be escalating to an inevitable fight anyway. He might even retaliate in a sneaky way. Might as well settle things now before it get ugly and it becomes something more than a fist fight.

    [–]1Shyrk 8 points9 points  (3 children)

    It’s easy to tell when people on Reddit are under 25.

    [–]Ravenanom -1 points0 points  (2 children)


    [–]1Shyrk 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Because this response reeks of having no idea how society at large actually works.

    If you legitimately require elaboration on this, you’ve never had to deal with the adult court system. This behavior is a good way to figure out how that works, good luck.

    [–]Ravenanom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I'm sorry, let me clarify. I'm under 25 and I think screwing the girl and/or fighting him are two very useless endeavors.

    The first because as stated in another post, you don't give the other guy room to do much but retailiate and retailiation is going to happen. And second because fighting isn't cost-effective anymore. Touch anyone and you will get sued in the best case scenario and end up in prison in the worst for assault.

    Both are lose-lose.

    Personally, I've always just laughed and walked away from guys like that and it helps very much that I can read people very well and my size is a huge detriment in a fight. I'm small. I can't be picking fights with football players. Also helps that I don't pretend to be something I'm not which is a fighter and I make friends with everyone so that I'm never in a situation where I'm in a confrontation with someone without having two or three big beefy guys ready to come to my aid.

    But in this case OP is in the same team as his supposed "enemy" and he is being pressured to confront him because of a sense of wrong done. There's camps being selected and lines being drawn. This is very bad because it will lead to confrontation which will inevitably become violent. These are testosterone filled guys bear in mind.

    Personally, I think a small fight is not a bad idea if OP can hold his own, but it must be done in OP's terms.... Actually I think if done right, it is a great bonding experience.

    So how would you go about solving this problem?

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

    Good points but that shit doesn't usually work in college. If we both fight and he loses, he'll be bitter regardless.

    [–]Fuk_Boonyalls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    He'll be sore if he loses, but he'll have to stay in his lane after that. He openly challenged you and you didn't shut it down. Get it done, handle it in front of the team, and move on. This is your mess to clean up and your responsibility to the team as well.

    [–]PM_ME_SPONGEBOBMEMES 17 points18 points  (2 children)

    I'd say ignore it and be the better man, but fucking his girl is a solid idea.

    I'd limit the publicness of it though, game her fast and take her away to close before he gets aggressive because if he attacks you the girl will probably leave

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    My teammates and I will make sure his girl is safe and no one is harmed in the process. A lot of girls at our uni are gonna be at the party so if he tries anything he's rep will be tarnished.

    [–]PM_ME_SPONGEBOBMEMES 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I'd still try to close relatively quickly, because once the boyfriend intervenes the odds of you smashing go down dramatically

    [–]oytrp 24 points25 points  (0 children)

    Girls like drama. You are acting like a girl.

    I suggest you just put it behind you.

    If you must confront then be a man about it.

    [–]mrpoopistan 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    You should have done what my brother's youngest son did when he was playing soccer. He informed the coaches the minute it happened, and he informed them in no uncertain terms that they fix it or he would. They didn't, so at the next opportunity he cleated the other guy's calf.

    When the coaches tried to punish him, he told them to their faces they had their chance to stop it.

    I'm not impressed by all this dwelling. If you want people to learn, you have to correct them at the moment they fuck up.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    The coaches were there and they did nothing. They are so weak and useless...but i don't blame them they're in their 60s.

    I didn't expect them to do anything physical but at least have a backbone and suspend the dude.

    [–]mrpoopistan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Have you ever heard the story of why fighting is allowed in hockey?

    It goes back to the frontier days, when you couldn't assume justice was going to be meted out properly. Sometimes, the easiest solution was to administer an ass-kickin.

    When the system fails, you have every right to create your own justice. But you need to do it quickly and with a clear sense of reciprocation in order to immediately convey the point.

    [–]MaliciousMack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Whats done is done. Get his ass next time and end it there instead of wasting excess energy on it later. He got you this time so make sure it doesnt happen the next.

    [–]Classy_Amir 3 points4 points  (3 children)

    Law 15 (I guess): Crush Your Enemies Completely. In my opinion, you did the right thing by "bitching out" as some here are referring. You see, he doesn't expect a revenge, especially at a party. He doesn't think you're strong enough for that. If you were, you would've attacked him back then. Right? No :)

    But what you're doing.. is a bit.. soft This will only partially crush him. He will take his time to heal and he will attack again in the future. By crushing him completely, you will ensure he won't attack.

    I'm not saying you should kill him, but you should plan to destroy his reputation in your university while BEING EXTREMELY CAREFUL with yours. For a reputation destroyed is almost always impossible to recover. (Law 5: so much depends on your reputation, guard it with your life)

    So, I guess this is law 14 or 16 (Pose as a friend, work as a spy). Offer him peace while finding his insecurities, his secrets, anything to make him fragile. Find them, expose them and watch as the crowd takes him down.

    IF you think he's a mate guarding beta (which he sounds like it), go for it. This is the perfect opportunity to crush him. But you'll also be causing the crowd in your university to slut shame the girl. She's innocent. Be careful as she might turn against you as well. This is clearly a game of power. That's why you should be patient and CAREFUL.

    Questions? Let me know!

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    I tried to attack him but teammates and coaches held me back. He's a beta but same height as me 6ft. He's scrawny as fuck though that's why he couldn't challenge me like a man.

    Good points about the slut shaming. But they're going through a rough patch and most of the social circles that will be attending the party know that.

    [–]Classy_Amir 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    You would've immediately lost control if you had attacked him. Be happy that you didn't. You can also try to make use of this statement: "Any argument with or over a woman is lost before you start". Good luck! Keep us updated!

    PS: A gorilla is stronger than you physically but he will never win in a mental war.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thanks Amir

    [–]Browndiaper1020 11 points12 points  (2 children)

    Dont do it. He might do something irrational and fucking kill you. Just fuck the girl behind his back though. Ez.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    He can't do shit. He's a fucking pussy, that's why he sucker punched me after an argument. I'll crush him easy

    [–]Browndiaper1020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Oh ok. I didnt know if he was like a big beta dude or a small one sorry. Yeah defintely fuck the girl and send him pictures with your dick in her mouth anon. Then watch chaos ensue.

    [–]satanicpriest13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Cmaahn do eet

    [–]furcryingoutloud 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    Petty revenge. Good idea. That always turns out well. /s

    Like you got nothing better to do than embarrass this girl because he kicked your ass and you're still boiling about it. You know what your reputation will be? You disrespecting women. Nobody will remember you got your ass whipped.

    By all means, fuck this girl, but be a man about it. And being discreet should be part of a man's repertoire for women. You're mixing in too many people that are going to get hurt because you haven't shown the balls to take this guy one on one.

    Find him, fight him alone. No friends, no girls, you and him. If you can't do that, then admit defeat and learn your lesson. Then go out and learn to take a punch. You're turning this into a fucking soap opera my man.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    After an argument then i turned my back and was returning to do the drills he then sucker punched me. I would've beaten him to a bloody mess if my teammates didn't intervene. He didn't kick my ass.

    The girl won't get hurt. I'll call her to come chill with my teammates and I . Once i isolate the girl in front of the dance crowd and start grabbing her ass and making out...the dude will be aggressive and come to the scene. 7 of my teammates will form a barricade and get physical with him.

    [–]furcryingoutloud 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    You can't take him yourself? Need 7 teammates? If you need 7 teammates, you already lost man. Can't you see that?

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    7 teammates only to protect the girl

    [–]furcryingoutloud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    No man, she doesn't need protection. You should read this thread with a different set of eyes. You claim your teammates stopped you from beating him up. Now you are planning on using them to protect you.

    Hamster all you want man, but you'd be wrong. Go beat him up alone.

    [–]endertheend 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Honestly, I kinda think you're wasting your time. You CAN get revenge, but the way you're going about is less likely to get the revenge you want and more likely to backfire in your face.

    You can get revenge on him by doing the following:

    Becoming more successful than him

    I mean A LOT more sucessful.

    This means you'll have to take stock of your time and what part of it you're wasting. Then stop wasting it.

    For example, let's talk about your sport for example. There are a few ways you can deal with this.

    First, you need to determine if it's worth your time to put 110% into your sport. Take an HONEST look at yourself and ask yourself this:

    1. Will I be able to go pro?
    2. Am I GOOD ENNOUGH to go pro?
    3. Is there even a pro league for my sport that I'm doing now?
    4. Do I EVEN WANT to go pro?

    If the answer to 1, 2 3, and 4 is YES (in your opinion) Then contact a recruiter for a pro team youd like to join and talk to them and try to set up something where they can asses your actual ability. Then do the below:

    If the answer is NO. (either before or after you get in contact with recruiter in questions) but you think you can make it if you put in enough hard work (ad cofirming with the recruiter) then get to fucking work. Stop going out to parties,(instead work on getting more sleep(lebron james sleeps 12 hours a day) and do mobility work[wwwmobilitywodcom]) stop dealing with asshats, sure bang girls, but only if they fit in your schedule.

    If the answer is HELL NO, as in there is no pro league to go to or you dont WANT to go pro, then, leave the team. Yes you heard me, your coaches didnt give enough of a shit about you to punish the dude for doing what he did to you in front of everyone, then they don't respect you, and the certainly don't VALUE you. Quit Immediately. THEN,

    Focus more time on lifting, and figure out ways to make money. Lots of it. Find some mentors, read some books whatever it takes, but focus your time on lifting, passing your classes, and making money, challenge yourself and see if you can get "fuck you money" by the time you graduate. once you've got that you're good, invest in assets that produce money and make yourself richer. having "Fuck you money" at a young age will be revenge enough. You've found TRP so you're already on a better and brighter path than that guy anyway, you don't have the TIME to stoop to his level. Instead make your own wings and soar above.

    Either you go pro and get famous and rich as hell, or you get rich, keep your respect in tact (i.e. leaving thsose behind who don't care or respect you like your coaches) either way, you win.

    Your initial plan of fucking his girls or whatever and "Embarassing him" in front of others is some amateur hour shit. You have so much more potential and yet you're focusing on scrounging around in the dirt with the pigs. Seriously, once you leave college and enter the real world none of that will mean jack and shit. You're proposed plan of action is something that a frog in the bottom of a well would come up with. A frog in the bottom of a well looks at the sky from the well and thinks that what he sees is how big the sky is. When the sky is a LOT LARGER than that. Don't be that frog, let your boy be that frog.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thanks for the advice. I'm hoping to go pro. I'm naturally talented and skillful but i lack dedication and i'm losing passion for playing my sport.

    To be honest with you I don't think i'll go pro...but i'm majoring in something that's related to trades, business and investment.

    Thanks again for the advice

    [–]Black_m0ngoose 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    It's enough to privately fuck his girl, everything else is just a waste of time.

    The best revenge is living a good life.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Agreed but i want him to be aware i was the one who cucked him lol.

    [–]Black_m0ngoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You must be very young.

    You'll quickly find out that your mentality towards this situation is problematic as you get older.

    The juice will not be worth the squeeze.

    [–]Atlas_Pressed -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    It'd be funny until he comes to school with an assault rifle opens fire on you and your friends

    [–]JW_2 5 points6 points  (3 children)

    At the party show him his GFs nudes

    [–]UncleChido 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Great idea. I thought so as well. That’s enough revenge for such an idiot.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    I wouldn't do that yet...Only after the plan works out then i'll share the nudes in our football team chat. I believe that will completely crush him

    [–]JW_2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Honestly don’t do that, you could get in some legal trouble

    [–]xddm2653 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Do it. You could also just fuck her in private, which would be just as upsetting to him.

    Just don't get shot

    [–]lean_back 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Sounds like all is planned and ready to go tho... stay safe. I bet the future outcome will be better if you don’t, there are so many better and more fun stuff you can do at the party. As for embarassing someone, it will hit harder if he finds out in the future about you two rather than at the party like this. You can’t predict the night or how both he or she will behave. gl

    [–]nofilmynofucky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I mean he sounds like a piece of shit

    So yeah another vote for 'do it and make sure to update us'

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Ur llplan sounds childish, kick his ass next time u see him or dont, grow up.

    Honestly, not wanting to fight him at the party, at his house, after school, before school, at practice, sucker punch next game means ur too scared to fight and ur gonna plot.

    [–]coriollanvs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Fuck her

    [–]Bingomancometh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Get ready to kick his ass.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Why not just fuck her in private and have the smug satisfaction of holding that a secret from him. Like yeah when you see him at practice he'll be thinking about the time he clocked you but whenever you see his face you'll just think about how you plowed his gf and he doesn't have a clue.

    Your plan is retarded. First there's no guarantee she hooks up with you in public and becomes a known whore. Sending nudes in private isn't the same as public affection. Secondly, who knows what the aftermath of this is gonna be?

    Fucking go meditate and realize there's better shit you can put your efforts towards.

    [–]_Neon_Shadow_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I'm a pretty chill guy. But once someone puts their hands on me, all bets are off. Do it. If you let someone assault you and do nothing, you are worthless.

    [–]MentORPHEUS 1 point2 points  (0 children)


    This sounds like a total woman thing. Big drama and revenge fantasy, humiliate your enemy before his SO and a crowd.

    UNlike a woman thing, it will probably include jail time and a criminal record.

    sucker punch

    You have to deal with this in the moment, or shortly after. Strike while the iron is HOT. Revenge served cold is also a woman thing.

    [–]FlexGunship 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Definitely sounds like you've got your shit under control. Cool. Calm. Logical.

    Be sure to tell us what happens.

    !remindme 2 weeks

    [–]DadOnDabs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If you can hold your own go for it.

    [–]BuckNekkid18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Too much drama for me and jail time might be involved if something happens. Just keep fucking his girl on the low.

    [–]2chazthundergut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You are a pussy.

    You don't revenge by gaming his girl. She probably shows your messages to him and they laugh at you before they fuck.

    You get revenge by walking straight up to him and knocking him the fuck out. Everything else is chick shit.

    Either punch him in his stupid fucking mouth or take the "L" and let it go. Nevermind the drama dude.

    [–]399oly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    The best way to piss people off is to do well.

    That statement has proven itself over and over again. Guess what I’d bet big money the “sucker” has rarely thought about the incident or not at all while you have continued to for god knows how long.

    To go fuck his girlfriend seems kind of like a degenerate thing to do, plus I doubt it will put you in higher standing with other girls.

    On top of all that, she cheats with you, feels regret, and then claims you raped her so she can save face and get back with her bf

    But that’s just my 2 cents

    [–]BusterVadge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    How bad did that sucker punch damage your reputation? Sounds like almost none, and you might get a lay out of it....

    Personally I would not seek revenge. Not unless my rep's been fucked with.

    The fact that the other dude sucker punched you and didn't beat you in a fair fight makes him look like the pussy, tbh.

    [–]daddydraper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Don’t be an insecure fuck and feel the need to defend your ego. Oh, I know you’re damn tempted to try and swoon his girl. Oh, I know damn well how much you want that attention.

    But this whole thing is coming from a deep insecurity and defensiveness, masqueraded as a fantastical plan of revenge.

    My advice? Be a man and spend your time and energy on something more worthwhile. Nobody gives a fuck if you look “weak.” You don’t, anyways. You show individual strength by going this path. And to learn this lesson early on of being able to discriminate between what actually matters and what doesn’t will prove invaluable to you in the future.

    Remember this. Don’t act on emotional instinct.

    [–]QE-Infinity 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Fuck revenge. Focus on lifting and improving SMV in general.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Yup on it

    [–]FixYourselfFirst 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Revenge is not worth it. There's always a very small chance he comes back with a gun or knife and ruins your life.

    [–]spiritletshereit 1 point2 points  (0 children)


    [–]1Shyrk 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    You’re a weak bitch and your pride will be your undoing.

    Fuck a girl or don’t, who gives a shit.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)


    [–]1Shyrk 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    This idiot’s bullshit still bothers you. Your frame is nonexistent. This shit about the girl is irrelevant.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thanks for the honest and precise response. What actions should i take?

    [–]Ricklogical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Did you say you are an adult doing things that get adults thrown in jail? I wouldn't, but I'm not going back to jail bro.

    [–]atradervish 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Dude you gotta give us an update when this goes down!

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Sure thing

    [–]chrishagins 0 points1 point  (4 children)

    Is there something you're leaving out? Is it possible that he sucker punched you because you've been sexting his girl? My philosophy is if a man puts his hand on me I try to beat him to a pulp. But it's also my philosophy to not try to fuck my teammate's girlfriend.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

    I started sexting his girl after the incident. Not before.

    [–]chrishagins 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    Well in that case beat him to a pulp then show up for practice with his girl on your arm.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    That's cringy

    [–]chrishagins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Well there's always option 2: do absolutely nothing.

    [–]TheProspecter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If i were this guy and i found out youd fucked my girlfriend/had nudes of her id beat the shit out of you and dump her ass. So either way you should be ready for a fight...and if you cant fight well good luck.

    [–]Andgelyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Do it. I would’ve just jumped him after practice or whatever but fucking his girl works too.

    [–]beginner_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Don't do it.

    Time for introspection. What you propose is weak an insecure. Revenge porn fantasy. Right after it happened, ok maybe you were surprised and teammates holding you back prevented any action. But why are training afterwards awkward? Why not confront him directly? "We have some business to settle." If a situation is awkward is means you are coming from a point of weakness and insecurity. A situation is never awkward if you come from a point of confidence. You are weak, that's why you aren't confronting him directly but planing this low behind his back revenge with all drama. Why the public drama? Yeah I tell you why. You want everyone to see it to get external validation. You need external validation because you are insecure.

    Why don't do it?

    • You pull the girl into the situation which she has nothing to do with really and public label her as slut. It's unfair to the girl but more importantly do you think another girl will want to associate with you afterwards? Especially if she has a BF? No. They like discretion. Do whatever you want with her but be discrete about it.

    • Telling him his GF is a cheating slut is actual doing him a favor. Better to fuck her and not tell him. If you really want your revenge, congratulate him on his GF. Push him towards putting a ring on her or having kids. Now he is doomed to an unhappy marriage or life-long alimony and child support. But still, very obessive and kind of petty.

    Best thing to do: Man up and confront him directly during next training. I bet he only sucker-punched you because he knew you are a wuss.

    [–]Andorli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Do it, post FR.

    [–]HurricaneHugues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    The best revenge woukd be to press charges agianst him for assault.

    "I plan on embarrassing him in front of everyone during the party by making moves on his girl, escalating, dancing and making out with her...basically cucking him in front of everyone."

    You'd only be embarassing yourself. His girl isnt gonna acknowledge you in public, let alone dance or kiss you with him around. Either way, you're gonna kiss his girl while its highly probable that she sucked him off prior duirng the day? The joke will be on you, dude. Making out is juvenile, and so is dancing. Fucking is where its at. Be cool at the party. If she approaches, you must find a way to isolate her and go all the way. Dont try to kiss her in front of everyone. Like I said, your best revenge is pressing charges and giving him a permanent record for assault. You have your team mates and coaches as witnesses. But I highly doubt that you're a man with balls, so instead I will suggest that you dont just aim to makeout with his girl, but instead aim to fuck her behind his back.

    Fuck her behind his back, and record video evidence. Press charges, THEN shiw him the video in person. Its a win win win.

    [–]takobozu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This sounds so childish, are you 12 or what? Be a fucking man, pussy.

    [–]Frequentcity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You already know what you wanna do

    [–]rpthrowaway1104 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Your opportunity for retaliation is long gone - you should have beat him up the moment he transgressed physically. Sorry man, anything beyond that point is your frame being more and more broken and bent out of shape than it was when you were initially punched. Also, your frame is now a novelty for your teammates to mess with and enjoy having an influence on by inviting them into your scheme. They will probably "forget" to restrain him in search of just seeing more fighting - they obviously don't respect you and just want to see drama and fisticuffs.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Hmm good points and thanks for the advice. But if shit goes sideways. I'll make sure the girl doesn't get hurt and defend my self at all cost.

    [–]RedHoodhandles 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    You should have destroyed him then and there on the spot but ok, you have a golden oppportunity right there.

    But tell me, why do you just want to make out with his girl?

    Why not fucking her? Why not fucking her several times behind his back? Why not sucker punching him as he did and as he lays on the ground you show him and your teammates the nudes of his gf and tell him that maybe he should talk to his girl. Maybe she has to confess something.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I don't really care for her. I don't even care if i fuck her or not as i have enough plates with their own drama. I just want to hurt him using his girl.

    [–]P4rkrb01 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Dark alley, baseball bat, ski mask...

    Jobs a good un.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    But that will be obvious and he'll suspect it's me. Its best to crush his soul at the party.

    [–]DrizzlyShrimp36 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    This is fucking hilarious. Hell fucking yeah do it.

    A lot of the guys on this thread are saying 'but muh frame, you shouldn't have bitched out xD'. Fuck that. By the way you're describing it, there was no way you could have fought back at the moment. And I think attacking him back is far more juvenile than getting his girl. If this works, this is a next level go fuck yourself to the other guy.

    Also, there seems to be a general theme in this thread of 'forget about it, you're thinking of it too much, don't let it affect you'. But clearly it does, and rightfully so. It's easy to say don't let it affect you when you're not the one who got suckerpunched.

    TRP says be stoic, don't let things bother you. TRP also says to be the dominant, alpha male. Doing nothing might be perceived as 'I don't give a shit, therefore I am alpha' for some, but most people will just think 'Heh, I can punch this guy with no repercussions'. I say too late, it clearly bothers you, so fuck it, stick to the part of TRP that says be dominant. Show him you're better than he is. Get his girl. If you're subtle about it and it ends up not working out, you can go back to trying to not give a shit. These two options are not mutually exclusive.

    I say this is the best way to show you don't let yourself be walked on by some suckerpunching piece of shit. Do it. Best of luck.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Thanks i wholeheartedly agree

    [–]DrizzlyShrimp36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Give us an update my man hahaha

    [–]Kalepsis 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Call him out in front of the team, offer to fight him fairly. Get some boxing gloves. Beat his ass.

    What you're planning is some girly shit. "Oh my god, Becky, Nadia totally dissed me the other day. I'm gonna steal her man in front of everyone at Trey's party and have her thrown out. It'll be totes awesome!"

    Fuck outta here. Settle your shit like you have testicles.

    [–]TopOccasion29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Won't that be worse for my frame and reputation among teammates, bringing up shit that happened weeks ago?

    [–]thotimusprime70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    i suggest listening to the song mona lisa by lil wayne. it released not too long ago and pertains to this and could even give a few ideas😉

    [–]blacwidonsfw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Create a power point presentation of the dirty texts and present them at the party