Difficult spot (self.asktrp)

submitted by IcreateMoney

Fellow redpillers I have a tough one for you here.

Long story short : my cousin (29M) was diagnosed with cancer about 5 years ago. He fought hard but lost his battle a year ago (may he r.i.p).

Now he was with this girl for about 8 years and she stayed with him till the end (I admire her for that). She's a very good looking girl (HB 8.5 at least).

I wasn't really close with my cousin we saw each other maybe 2 times per year for christmas and thanksgiving so obviously I don't really know this chick other than 10 minute chit chat once or twice a year. She seemed like a nice girl whatever.

Now 2 months ago she messaged me asking how I was doing and said she found it hard without my cousin there for her blabla. She asked me to go for dinner with her to "talk" and she said quote : "I'm sure it would be good for me talking to you". I politely declined twice finding all kind of excuses.

Now fast forward to yesterday she texted me again asking if we could go for dinner. I said "let me check my schedule and get back to you".

What do you guys think about this situation ? Considering we're 2 good looking people about the same age and that my cousin was very blue pilled I think she definitely will be attracted by me unless I act like someone I'm not (that's a bit weird) and who knows I might be attracted to her too if she's nice.

Should I politely decline the offer again or should I go and listen to whatever she has to say ? It's a weird spot. Shit like that never happened to me.

Thanks for reading.

[–]ghjklzxcv123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because of my personal ethical values, i would avoid but my opinions in this manner are not based on trp.

[–]lionmenden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s weird, but not wrong, and she’s demonstrated to be a quality woman.

[–]SickBrains 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What do you want?

[–]IcreateMoney[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a very good answer. I think I LTR her 0% of the time in this spot obviously but I wouldn't mind ONS with her. Only thing is that if family finds out I'll be the douchebag and she'll be the pretty little victim which is exactly why I declined in the first place. Damn ... tough choice

[–]oytrp 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Wouldn't touch this situation.

8 years, she probably feels like family to your cousin's side of the family.

Which means you can't really treat her like a plate without causing drama. Either LTR or do nothing.

[–]IcreateMoney[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I never LTR this girl in this spot. Ever.

[–]oytrp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then there's nothing to decide.

Just keep politely declining.

[–]boy_named_su 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally think it's okay.

[–]bluefingerblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don’t you just see how it goes. If it feels weird in the moment, just tell her it feels weird and you’re not down with it.

Personally I think I’d feel weird about it, but it’s up to you. If you’re cool with it, then so be it.

[–]throwawayycheyeah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always take her to dinner and not try to fuck her?