HB9 approaches me, ask for my snap then unfriends me. (self.asktrp)

submitted by ASAP_IKER

English is not my first language, sorry if something doesn't make sense.

Sunday went to eat by myself to a pho place. I sat at the bar and then this cute asian girl sits beside me. Then she asks me what plate I got and tells me to recommend her something.

I recommend her to get the same thing as me and all the time she's asking me questions and while she's talking to me she's giving me the typical IOIs. She playing with her hair, looking at my lips, leaning towards me and asking a lot of personal questions.

I started pushing and pulling, playfully making fun of her and she was smiling and laughing all the time. In my opinion, I gamed her well because when she was about to leave she asked for my snapchat. During the conversation she told me she was having a rough week (she ordered a tequila shot when she got there).

So today I sent her a Snap asking her what was the name of a series she recommended me, she replied and I told her that if I didn't like the series she would have to buy a me a drink. She replied with something like this "lol ok deal". Then after that she unfriended me. I don't care, I have other options, it actually made me laugh. But this is the first time it happens to me. Why women do this? Was she looking validation from me? The reason she was having a rough week was because she's in a relationship?

[–]Dark_T100 151 points152 points  (15 children)

she just wanted attention. next.

[–]TheGoldenLeprechaun 63 points64 points  (12 children)

I also seen this with escorts / sugar babies. If OP's social media didn't make the cut they ghost.

[–]ASAP_IKER[S] 19 points20 points  (4 children)

I posted just one photo of me at the gym. I'm muscular, hit the gym 5x a week and always eat clean. I don't use social media that much, I only have Snapchat.

[–]antariusz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Or she was in the mood, that day, to fuck.

You didn’t fuck her, and so she found someone who did.

Once she got what she wanted, dick, she had no more use for you. Because you didn’t give it.

[–]TheGoldenLeprechaun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Good shit. Was just a thought. What I really should have said was, if u weren't ballin out on social media..

[–]alphabachelor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many broads don’t care. They’re either in pursue of the BBD (bigger better deal in their eyes which is why they end up crying where all the good man are in their 30s) or they’re looking for a BP herb to finance their lifestyle.

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    [–]TheGoldenLeprechaun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    They often troll social media shopping for a dude. Matter of fact, they often advertise their services on social media.

    [–]SickeningPiss 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    I had this girl approach me at the club and she gave me her snap. She didn't have many snap points so i was like maybe she aint a hoe. But the next day I went on her snap stories and she is advertising herself nude with a snap premium link covering her tits, saying buy my videos and pics etc. This hoe also puts up stories of money easily 500 bucks, saying thank you to whoever sent her cash she has more vids on the way. As others have said she may offer services through snap and needed clients i see this is a new trend for hoes.

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      [–]SickeningPiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      It's fucked. That snap hoe got a Gucci belt today, they don't even need to fuck nowadays blue pill guys will buy them gifts just for a date smh. Be a hot girl and put your tits out on instagram and snap you'll get paid. Same works with guys, older girls are willing to spoil a young muscular stud to make them feel sexy haha.

      [–]BuckNekkid18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      To advertise themselves

      [–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      What is it about social media that's the deciding factor. Mind elaborating for us?

      [–]QuantumSpecter 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      All that effort just for some attention? Thats crazy. Might as well just post some pictures on instagram

      [–]GlobaleOmgeving 40 points41 points  (5 children)

      She just wanted attention and someone to string around but she found the wrong guy

      [–]bookloverphile 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      How does she know she found the wrong guy that quickly?

      [–]GlobaleOmgeving 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      Because she knows she can not string him around its not rocket science

      [–]4SkinFred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You fucking moron, you didn't explain anything.

      [–]_thechinaman_ -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

      How does someone just want attention? Like what even is that?

      [–]GlobaleOmgeving 4 points5 points  (0 children)


      [–]Fauxregaurd 34 points35 points  (0 children)

      She just saved you a whole lot of stress and drama. I love when they do that.

      [–]FlyingSexistPig 26 points27 points  (2 children)

      Her boyfriend might see the snapchat contact.

      She wanted to smash then and there. Since it didn't happen, she can't afford to have your contact in her phone

      [–]Prysefighter 2 points3 points  (1 child)


      [–]Wolveryn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      This This

      [–]dukes1998 31 points32 points  (7 children)

      Who knows and who cares.

      Once had a girl approach me when in another city, told me how hot I was (also mentioned she was going to meet her bf LOL) and literally started grabbing my cock as she added her number into my phone. Ended up not being able to link that night, but I told her I'd be back in that city to visit family like 2 weeks later. Tried to snap her when I got back and realized she had unfriended me.

      Trying to explain the actions of impulsive emotion driven people is impossible. That goes for men and women but obviously women tend to be like that much more of the time.

      [–]Da_RectumWrecker 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      Women are so in the moment. It's about what's in front of them. They make decisions based on how they feel right then. This is why when texting a girl I like to spike her emotions before texting about arranging a meet up. I will get her laughing or feeling good about me first, then drop some logistics down.

      [–]Pooddit 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      It was the right place at the right time. She was in the right point of her ovulation cycle, or something. Be masculine, be present, and strike when the woman is ready. You can't just hit her up when you feel like it. Unless you're super duper hot/valuable, then she might give you the V to secure you for when she really wants the d.

      [–]dukes1998 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      I had never met this girl and struck up a conversation with her as I was in my car with 5 of my friends waiting to pick up someone. She told me how hot i was multiple times and then grabbed my cock through the window as she was adding me on snap with the other hand and I then proceeded to start hooking up with her out the drivers side window lmaoo. My friends were awestruck in the backseat.

      I’m not sure what it was but I’m not complaining. Point being though that even the most ridiculous of IOIs can lead to a flake and looking for a reason to explain it is a fruitless endeavor.

      [–]Pooddit 0 points1 point  (1 child)


      [–]dukes1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      There’s no drug except alcohol that makes you act that way (maybe Molly but that obviously doesn’t apply) and she specifically said she wasn’t drunk (I defintely was).

      Some girls are super super forward and while that may be a good thing in the short term I’ve noticed most of those girls tend to be pretty wack when you get to know them.

      [–]ArdAtak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      even the most ridiculous of IOIs can lead to a flake and looking for a reason to explain it is a fruitless endeavor.

      Yup. I'm fully aware of this and it still shocks me a little everytime it happens. As a man, we understand this in theory. We know it exists and it happens. But we'll never really feel it so we can't fully empathize.

      When a girl shows massive interest we take them at their word and assume "Well, she likes me. Cool. I'll try to meet up with her soon." This is the correct assumption but sometimes you're gonna be wrong. Just recognize and move on.

      [–]antariusz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      No... it isn’t difficult or complicated. Women ovulate once a month, they want random dick for about 2 days every 28. 2 weeks later, she doesn’t want some random dude hitting her up, she just wants to hang with her friends because “she’s not like that”. Hell, she probably hooked up with a different dude that very night, and didn’t want some random blowing up her phone right away because she wants her new hookup to think she’s “not like that”

      [–]Incaahhh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Only thing I can think of is that it was kind of basic line "If I don't like the show, buy me a drink" ?

      But really, it doesn't matter. Get back out there and game the next girl

      [–]kkokk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      OP, imagine you go into a furniture store and see a chair that looks cool.

      If you spend the rest of your life in IKEA, are you still gonna be fixated on that one chair? Of course not, there are millions of chairs in an IKEA catalog.

      The woman is you, the world is her IKEA, and the men are furniture. Doesn't have to have a reason, she will just get distracted.

      [–]Bedtimeshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Her boyfriend caught her. And she wasn’t a 9

      [–]1walawalawa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I don't know what country you're in but in my experience, Asian girl, "rough week" and tequila shot= boyfriend/man troubles.

      Your outreach was weak. Don't ask her for things...it's weak.

      "Tell me the name of that series..." "Remind me again..."
      I never ask girls anything. If I want to bang them i'm direct: "let's meet up for another tequila..." or whatever.

      Also, you see one girl giving you IOI's and it's a big deal. Try this with 10-20 girls and you'll be much more selective.

      [–]mushroom_overlord 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Could be anything. You problem could be that she only wanted dick right then and there, and otherwise was fine. Maybe she had just had a huge argument with some guy she was with and wanted to let loose.

      What turned her off could have been that you didn't pull fast enough and she lost interest, she got a better option in between Sunday and today, she got put off by you telling her to buy you a drink when she thought you would just buy it yourself, or she didn't want to leave her bed because her dog died.

      Many more could be possible, but I recommend next time just telling her to meet you at a location of your choosing rather than buy something for you. Asking her for shit before you have proven you are worth it can indicate that you are poor, greedy, or needy, even though to other girls it could indicate that you are assertively dominant. If you save that line for when you're at the venue, you can recover if she's not the type to respond well. One of many reasons you should message for logistics only.

      [–]ASAP_IKER[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      You're right. I should've pulled faster. I tried not to look needy and it backfired.

      [–]mushroom_overlord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Don't blame yourself too much, sometimes even with tons of IOIs you don't know if she's the type of girl that would be put off if you tried a same day lay. Maybe Monday would have been the one to try. You win some, you learn some.

      [–]FemtoG 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      I don't care...it actually made me laugh

      lmao. please.

      8/10, thinks the world is her oyster (and frankly the redpill is that it is), needed some kind of affirmation, got it from you, moving on with her life. next.

      [–]faustian_talos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Who gives a fuck.

      She is a women. She is irrational.

      [–]agsuy 7 points8 points  (4 children)

      If SHE asked YOUR Snap, ask yourself why

      U are the alpha

      U lead the talks

      U push toward your goals

      She asked your snap BECAUSE U didnt closed her.

      Do u think an alpha male would allow a girl to decide what he want or when to close?

      U either ignore her or fuck her.

      Dnt be the girl in the interaction.

      [–]ASAP_IKER[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      You're right, I didn't lead the conversation and didn't showed interest to her. But from the beginning it seemed suspicious and weird that a hot girl would approach me. I was in defense mode but kept my frame all the time. In my blue pill days all my relationships and hookups were initiated by women and since I was a nice guy I ended up heartbroken.

      [–]UnbreakableFrame 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      I like this. "Don't be the girl in the interaction."

      Simple as hell, but sometimes the best things are.

      [–]Kpwn88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Occam's razor is one close shave.

      [–]Lostitink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Sounds like you played it well. I think you maybe should have asked for her number and said you don't like using snapchat. It's just easier to connect with people blah blah blah... This is just a thought. She probably just wanted attention. Hell her Boy Friend might have told her to unfriend you. There's a ton of reasons. You could always try again in a month or two.

      [–]takobozu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Ask yourself "Why do I care?"

      [–]ArdAtak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Wants attention. Guilt over boyfriend. Found new shiny object.

      It's her, not you. Don't waste energy figuring it out.

      [–]uwcscareerthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      she's an attention whore.