When I was in an LTR as a teenager into my early twenties, i was that girl’s first. I took her virginity and I had only been with one girl prior.
Throughout the relationship there were two competing concepts in my mind.
1 I felt pressure to explore other women and felt like Id regret having only been with two women when I was old. I wasnt sure if this was societal pressure or instinctual pressure to spread my seed. I ended up breaking up with her for this reason.
2 I really didn’t want her to sleep with anyone else as I had grown protective over her. I knew breaking up with her would lead to her sleeping with someone else and of course when she did, it hurt very much as expected.
So first off, is the point of being protective just for paternal certainty? Is that the only reason I cared?
And secondly why is a previously promiscuous women a huge turn off for most men? And why is it not for others? I have a friend who thinks im old fashioned for not wanting to date a girl whos had more partners.
Does anyone have studies on this i can read? What do we know? Someone enlighten me