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Any positive LTR stories? (self.asktrp)

submitted by ThreeEyez

I get it, no matter how alpha you are, your girl can cheat on you. But I feel this sub just shits on having a girlfriend and being in a LTR. I don’t believe in getting your “dream girl” or finding that ‘unicorn’, but I do think it’s possible to find a girl who appreciates you and is viable enough to possibly start a family with and remain monogamous. Don’t get me wrong.. fucking hoes, having threesomes and all that is fun, but sometimes that gets old and you just want to settle down with one girl.

Thoughts? Any positive stories anyone can share?


[–]lietruth 173 points174 points  (35 children)

An LTR is a constant balance between comfort & dread.

There needs to be adequate amounts of both for it to be successful. I'm in a 4.5 year relationship with an HB9, & I can confidently say that you need to have rock solid frame & be on your A game. Testing doesn't subside, it continues- just in different ways. Always.

A balance 80/20 alpha/beta works well.

You shouldn't LTR a woman unless you're sure she is feminine, submissive, & has a good relationship with her father. Not always predictive, but definitely a green flag.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain 67 points68 points  (27 children)

You shouldn't LTR a woman unless you're sure she is feminine, submissive, & has a good relationship with her father.

That sums up my experience.

[–]ghosts_of_me 20 points21 points  (26 children)

Damn. Girl im dating has all 3 green flags and more, and I want to make her an LTR that I know will go great. But i also wanna put my dick in lots of hoes without losing her. Im 22, What do?

[–]never_as_big_as_pump 72 points73 points  (14 children)

Meaningful sex with one is better than emotionless with hoes.

[–]catalina-out 15 points16 points  (6 children)

I definitely agree with this. I've had some decent sex with ONS, but I personally enjoy it more when it's with someone I like, and am comfortable with. Knowing the things that gets each other going makes for some really good sex. Just as long as you're with someone who understands the importance of sex in a relationship.

[–]never_as_big_as_pump 6 points7 points  (5 children)

Yeah this exactly.

Random sex is fun and exciting and all, but once you realise that its just sex, it becomes boring. Once you have sex with someone you really like (outside of sex), you realise its way better. You two get to know what you both like, share fetishes and kinks.

Also birth control (no condoms) is awesome.

[–]catalina-out 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Also birth control (no condoms) is awesome.

Can't agree with this more. I've taken way too many risks due to my dislike for condoms. I get checked regularly, and luckily it's never bit me in the ass. It's a huge bonus to not have to worry about STDs/pregnancy. Current LTR has an IUD, so I don't have to worry about her fucking up her birth control.

[–]trpppp123 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Lol no. It's idiotic to trust a woman with birth control. How are half of you on TRP?

[–]adam_varg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is on IUD, he would know if she gets rid of it.

[–]ZeppKfw -1 points0 points  (1 child)

You really trust her with handling birth control?

[–]adam_varg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is no way to get rid off IUD without him noticing.. it's invasive medical procedure

[–]bradtwo 4 points5 points  (1 child)

But everyone needs to go through the emotionless phase.

I’m happy where I am now.

But also grateful that I got to knock a lot of experiences off of my to do list.

[–]never_as_big_as_pump 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True!
Everyone should get oneitis and get hearbroken to grow. Then fuck bunch of girls and then “settle”.

[–]yumyumgivemesome 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I don't think that factors in the Grass is Always Greener effect. You can tell a guy this, but he doesn't truly know it until he's put his dick in a bunch of chicks.

[–]never_as_big_as_pump 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Yeah I agree thats why I said “once you realise its just sex”, I mean like - when you fuck bunch of different girls.

[–]yumyumgivemesome 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Okay, you wrote that in a response to someone else, not the comment I was replying to. Nonetheless, it sounds like OP can't suddenly bang a bunch of girls before starting an LTR with the current girl. He'll likely start an LTR with her knowing that the relationship is probably doomed unless he eventually somehow shakes the Grass is Always Greener syndrome.

[–]ghosts_of_me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its more like, im at the point where im getting bigger and stronger and more confident and able to get girls than ever before, right at the same time when i happened to find a great girl to settle with even though i havent got to ride the pussy carousel yet.

[–]AmazonAlphaMale 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Ask yourself

[–]ghosts_of_me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, i know.

[–]catalina-out 2 points3 points  (1 child)

First off, realize she's not a special unicorn. There are plenty of girls who match that description.

Decide what's more important to you. Why do you want to "put [your] dick in lots of hoes"? Is it just so you can truly feel like a high status "alpha"? You can be in a committed relationship, and even love her, and still be alpha.

It's a hard question, because you don't just need to think about whether or not you'd consider a future with her. You need to figure out if she'd consider a future with you. Truly knowing other's current and future intentions is impossible.

If you feel that you love her, and that she loves you, give it a shot. But just remember that you can feel that way with anyone. If you just have oneitis, and are scared of letting this special unicorn get away: demote to plate, or hard next, and fuck other thots.

[–]ghosts_of_me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cause i love sex and i love hot bodies.

But this girl is great and i can grow a lot with her so i need to play carefully.

[–]slaterhuckle 4 points5 points  (1 child)

If you fall in love with her it will probably be great for a while, but people always change. 22 is young. Follow your heart. If you break up one day, its just life. No one is meant to be with you forever.

[–]ghosts_of_me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah cool thats it. Im ok with being awesome together for x number of years then we both branch swing in a way that hurts no one.

Is that actually possible?

[–]teabagabeartrap -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Dont worry, at the beginning of your 30s you can get all the 22 year old hot chicks if it doesnt turn out... getting laid is getting easier from 20 to 30 in my experiences

[–]ghosts_of_me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet. Gotta get ripped though.

[–]alphabachelor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

has a good relationship with her father.

Yup. Dated a psycho cunt that had a horrible relationship with her father.

To elaborate, her father sounded like a massive piece of shit (never met him) but regardless of why the father / daughter relationship was bad, this is a red flag.

[–]Morphs_ 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Why the relationship with her dad as a requirement, and not the mother for example?

[–]1morescoobysnacks 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Long list of studies showing kids that grow up without a father have a high chance to turn out "bad". Ideally you have enough options that you can pick the girl with a good father and lower your chances of nonsense.

That's what I've gathered.

[–]SalporinRP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably also due to the fact that while it does happen, not as many mothers run out on their children compared to fathers

[–]RedPillRedKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating is a tough sport

[–]BeeBopJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My longest LTR has been 2 years. After a while they don't really test u for shit. In what ways was ur GF testing u?

[–]MakeMenGreatAgain44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Avoid daddy's girl cause she'll treat you like a pushover and avoid women with daddy issues cause they might cheat to get attention because of low self esteem.

[–]TominatorXX 32 points33 points  (3 children)

27 years married. We have sex all the time. She wants me to be more redpill and she's trying to convert her brother to it cuz he's getting walked all over by his wife.

[–]1byronshadow 21 points22 points  (2 children)

Is she a Latina or a Slavette?

I ask because in my experience both groups of women are willing to coach a guy on how to be more alpha. White American and West European women seem really offended by the idea of a guy learning to be Chad though.

[–]Putins_Orange_Cock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I only date slavs. I am marrying one, actually. Hot as fuck, educated, wants to fuck all the time, and still has some old world conservatism.

[–]SalporinRP 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Latina girls are great because they're feminine as fuck, love to cook, are great at dancing, and are pretty hot too. The submissive part isn't as easy to find lol.

And yeah Latina girls love a "manly man". But that also comes with drawbacks. Almost every latina girl I've ever encountered has expected the man to pay for dates and shit.

[–]eddielovett 39 points40 points  (9 children)

I have a pretty good story. My wife was an 18 year old smoke show when I met her (Tall, skinny blonde, Eastern European decent but Americanized valley girl persona). I was the alpha bad boy thug and she fell hard for me and that same year convinced me I should marry her. I took her virginity, explained the world to her and she was like a submissive little puppy (that part changed over the years as she matured). I was 21 at the time but had a lot more experience in the world. I was deeply involved in partying and drugs and even though I got her involved in that too, when we got married I learned to grow up and become responsible. Together we built a successful online business and in recent years have been living the digital nomad lifestyle overseas. Our business revolves around amateur porn and I’ve been able to negotiate dozens of threesomes with other hot chicks while she has only been with me. She instinctively realizes my need for sexual novelty and respects that. She also knows that her continued monogamy is her greatest asset and bargaining tool plus without that I would leave.

Having spent virtually every waking hour together for 8 years straight we get along really well and know each other inside and out. To have a relationship like this requires sacrifices. I am naturally social and love to be crazy and have fun adventures. She is a home body who loves weed, wine and Netflix. And our three dogs which are like our kids. I basically traded a life of excitement and always meeting new people for a life of comfort, luxury and quality time with my small family. There are stretches of weeks at a time where all we do is wake up at 3pm, smoke weed, play video games, fuck, eat and take naps. Lazy life to the max.

I feel like if we had separate jobs or a social life things would be different. When we occasionally introduce clubbing, alcohol, certain social events etc. into the mix I feel like it wears down the marital bliss. I really believe those things are for single people and couples should avoid stuff like that most of the time. We do throw parties occasionally but I think it’s the best to just chill with my wife only or her and another girl and that’s it. That’s what feels the best to me.

A lot of the bad stuff I see surrounding LTRs is usually attributed to the girlfriend or wife being too involved with social media, alcohol and her single friends. Those are all influences that will bring about shit tests and hypergamy. Even on my side when I go out I feel compelled to pull the hot young sluts and it weakens our bond.

Also many women in the west are too dominant and have a “you can’t tell me shit I’m an independent woman” attitude. I would find it impossible to be in a relationship with a woman like that. (Actually my wife SAYS that kinda stuff all the time, which is fine if it’s not true.)

However, I think most guys would be surprised how many gorgeous but also nerdy and antisocial girls are out there. Those are the ones you want. They are 10s when they get dressed up but prefer to chill at home with their pets and wear sweatpants 99% of the time.

It seems to me that the perfect storm of circumstances occurred in my life for me to have a stable, happy LTR with my wife. And we barely made it through the 7 year itch. I can’t imagine trying to have a good relationship with kids involved and separate jobs and friends and hobbies. I realize it would be healthier for the individuals to do it that way but when you do everything together like we do it makes it much more stress free on the relationship and you don’t have to work as hard to get along. Also since she’s never had kids and takes care of herself I still feel lucky to fuck her all these years later.

[–]Ricklogical 26 points27 points  (0 children)

However, I think most guys would be surprised how many gorgeous but also nerdy and antisocial girls are out there. Those are the ones you want.

This 100%

This is what I feel I am living. Much different path and existence but this woman doesn't give a fuck about anything outside of what we are interested in together.

A partner lets you alone or participates but is fine either way. These people are everywhere, but they are fine being alone, they aren't really on social media, and they are busy.

The key to finding them seems to be the next quest.

[–]SteveStJohn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of the bad stuff I see surrounding LTRs is usually attributed to the girlfriend or wife being too involved with social media, alcohol and her single friends. Those are all influences that will bring about shit tests and hypergamy.

100% true

[–]askmrcia 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I feel like if we had separate jobs or a social life things would be different. When we occasionally introduce clubbing, alcohol, certain social events etc. into the mix I feel like it wears down the marital bliss. I really believe those things are for single people and couples should avoid stuff like that most of the time.

I agree and this is one thing I see very wrong with a lot of relationships or ltrs. Way too many people want to still act single.

You sound just like one my friends. Hell you may be him. He was a similar to you. Partied a lot and stuff. But since he got married he cut all that shit down tremendously.

Like he might go out to clubs once every 3 months and that's usually to celebrate someone's birthday. But they been together since their sophomore year of college and they are 29 now. And I don't see any cracks in their marriage. If you view them, they may come across boring, but those two seem to be happy.

I think a lot of people are afraid to be boring or they act like it's the worse thing on the planet especially if they can't live up to their social media lives.

A lot of the bad stuff I see surrounding LTRs is usually attributed to the girlfriend or wife being too involved with social media, alcohol and her single friends. Those are all influences that will bring about shit tests and hypergamy.

Agree and agree with the rest of your comment

[–]eddielovett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a boring old couple is so underrated. My adolescence was enough fun and excitement to last me a lifetime. I love being boring and having someone to be boring with is a dream come true. The game of staying heathy, learning, being comfortable and watching numbers accumulate is so much more fulfilling than partying and random hookups at this stage.

[–]Rabb1tH3ad 4 points5 points  (1 child)

As a woman who is considered beautiful by others(I don't see it but also not fishing) but is also shy and awkward I appreciate this being said.

[–]damaged_goods420 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh no! A wahmen on trp! Ban!

[–]htbf 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Are you a famous couple on pornhub? Did we jerk off to you too fucking? :D

[–]eddielovett 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Probably

[–]htbf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you French?

[–]gphome 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do think the TRP needs to chill out on the “LTR’s are impossible/worse decisions” vibe.

I have plenty of male friends who are in happy LTR’s, and they know nothing about red pill teachings. It is possible.

I think that a lot of the younger RP guys develop a real issue with showing vulnerability as you don’t have complete control, but the deepest relationships, be it friendship or more, require it

[–]creating_my_life 26 points27 points  (4 children)

I do think it’s possible to find a girl who appreciates you and is viable enough to possibly start a family with and remain monogamous.

Nope. It's possible to find a girl and for YOU to keep fit, attractive to other women, and understand DREAD enough that she will remain sexually attracted to you. And, in the even she doesn't, you're enough of a man to end the relationship and move on without getting all fucked up about it.

MRP is TRP on hardmode, because you voluntarily give up the most important negotiating power you have--the ability to remove attention due to bad behavior. And, well, she gets to take half your net worth if she gets bored.

[–]ThreeEyez[S] 11 points12 points  (3 children)

I never said anything about marriage mate. That’s the only way she’ll get half your shit.

[–]DoubleTimeRLTW 2 points3 points  (2 children)

You must not be from a place where Common Law Marriage is a thing....

[–]adam_varg 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You mean like most of the world?

[–]DoubleTimeRLTW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done, rest of the world.....

[–]Brickles09 33 points34 points  (14 children)

Married for 13 years to a virgin, right-wing, christian girl. It can’t get any better than that, right? Wrong. Awalt.

[–]Bruchibre 24 points25 points  (3 children)

Married for 13 years to a virgin

Is she still virgin? haha

? Wrong. Awalt.

Story please?

[–]Ricklogical 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Right? He just leaves us hanging?

[–]Garathon 22 points23 points  (1 child)

She cheated on him, got the kids and an alimony. Story old as time. AWALT.

[–]Ricklogical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:(

[–]ThreeEyez[S] 17 points18 points  (7 children)

No offense, but the characteristics you just described don’t mean shit. But obviously you found that out the hard way.

[–]Brickles09 12 points13 points  (6 children)

Yes, she redpilled me. I would never have believed without seeing it with my own eyes.

And yes, her (good) characteristics are the only thing making me not divorce her, had she been a commie, atheist, full of tattoos and emotional baggage, I’d be long gone.

[–]Nergaal 5 points6 points  (5 children)

You stuck around after she cheated on you?

[–]Brickles09 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Who said anything about cheating?

[–]mams1724 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Then what actually redpilled you?

[–]Brickles09 3 points4 points  (2 children)

The lack of respect, her insane behavior.

[–]drakehfh 0 points1 point  (1 child)

This behavior doesn't mean she cheated but hints that she might.

[–]Brickles09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheating no, because she is just not like that, but finding another one, who knows. The thing is that I found trp and could change my fate a bit, and I still have a lot to improve.

[–]Xoramung 7 points8 points  (1 child)

blood on the sheets or a stoning in the streets virgin?

[–]666Evo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That made me laugh harder than it probably should have

[–]cat_magnet 9 points10 points  (3 children)

I think it's possible but the right girl is rare and I think dating a point or two down in SMV makes it easier. I am an 8 in looks and am financially successful so I believe my hb7 ltr thinks im the best she can get. She also has low n count, is young and has good relationship with her father etc. I have been living with her for over three years and never any drama or problems. Pretty happy existence.

[–]Garathon 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Sorry, but no. AWALT. In her mind if she could get you, she'll have no problem getting someone else like you or even better.

[–]cat_magnet 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Yea probably a fair point. I don't have any fear of her leaving I can replace her as easily. But the three years so far have been enjoyable.

[–]ThreeEyez[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And that’s the exact mentality to have. You can also apply it to really anything in life. Ain’t shit in life promised.

[–]RedSkeller 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Personally I don’t order the same flavor of ice cream every time I hit up cold stone but some people do. The best it gets is having a young, submissive fuck toy who you can stand being around for more than a couple hours. Shit always gets routine and sours unless you put in effort and make it fresh, you, not her. It’s a part time job. Eventually that fuck toy gets older and will turn you into a purse or a nurse. Yes there are great couples out there but don’t think for one second they both didn’t have to sacrifice large parts of themselves to do so. Ltrs require work and no one wants to be hardworking when there’s a free escape one swipe or like away.

[–]ThreeEyez[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

True. Social media has made LTR’s a lot harder.

[–]fnxmobile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just another filter

[–]stemdude 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in an eleven year LTR.

Same age, same neighbourhood, same socio economic status. I was her first.

Blue pill proposed on year 5 on a 5 star suite while on a vacation in another country. Got rejected. Went on a red pill rage.

caught her flirting with gym trainer on messaging app.

Forgave her. (in hindsight i shouldve never done this)

lost weight.

got a better job

moved countries

Told her i will never ever marry her. I told her i MAY give her a kid but i will never marry in this lifetime

Always having a plate.

Told her to fuck off and move out when she caught me with a plate(blond hair in our bed. hair pins in our bathroom)

she was raging and crying for over a month. Solipsism makes it easier for them forget your sins.

Always expect AWALT.

A quality plate cures oneitis.

Be Selfish. Don't stop working on yourself. Only your goals matter. Always have at least 1 quality plate. It only gets better as you get older

This is the best it will ever get.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ignore the sophomores and listen to what the professors are saying.

People who follow my writings know a detail here and there about FunSize, who has been with me quite a while now, and Kitten, who is working on her jealousy problems and might work out.

[–]icecruzader 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I mean, a girl who let's you be in an open relationship while being exclusive with you is the goal in a way. I haven't gotten to the place in my life where I could maintain that relationship if I found the chick but if you follow the TRP core sexual strategy, ei. going for numbers over prioritising quality you'll meet her. I know of guys with girlfriends who are satisfied with just one guy and are even bi, so they help pick up chicks for threesomes. The sky is the limit and the positive LTR you are talking about is limited by your imagination and the size of your balls. If a chick who will help you fuck more chicks is not someone you think will Also be good for raising your kids then don't worry about it and go down a more 'normal' (more blue pill) route. If you are prioritising children the skill set if different to a chick that is good at giving head.

[–]eddielovett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All women are bisexual. All women want to submit to a strong alpha. Women will share an alpha rather than be stuck with a faithful loser. Women want security, men want sexual novelty. Using these facts you can see it is completely natural for a good looking couple to pick up women together. The man has his options and the woman is committed to her dominant alpha. That’s the most ideal and natural LTR scenario.

[–]Ricklogical 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I am with a great woman. I could rant about it if you like, but I met her in highschool, we dated when I was a stoner, then she had to move away.

We got back together and things were a bit worse, I was very easy to push around, her as well, we were taken advantage of, had great sex and treated each other alright, but had a lot to learn.

Years later after we broke it off that time, we were still speaking, still dating other people, doing our best.

30 relationships for me, and about 20 for her, we both had kids and both lost our shitty partners.

We just happened to both be single about a year ago and got back together. I have a great job now, best of my life, I'm raising her two kids full time and fly mine in. We do all the family shit and we keep a good house and have an alright social life with some of my family.

Things are mostly parenting, but we make the time to love the shit out of each other, and go out together, alone or with the kids about 3 times a month.

We fuck nonstop like rabbits, we always have in the past.

We grew up a ton and tasted just about every variety of partner we could get our hands on, came out disease free and missing each other more than the rest.

To be 100% honest she's not going to age all that well in the face if she follows the rest of her family, but she's gotta be the most awesome person I've ever met and I can say with total honesty even more attractive women don't seem to have shit on her overall.

She's got a tight little body that drives me crazy and she fucks like a porn star. Her face is beautiful, unlike the rest of her family she takes very good care of herself and she's got the lions share of the looks, she always has.

I'll love her no matter how things go as long as her attitude continues on the way it is, she's totally capable of running anything herself, but she doesn't mind doing things my way, even when she's convinced her way is better.

She's incredibly sweet, and she's had some of the worst life events I've ever heard told from any woman, yet she's mentally doing better than people that have been through much less brutal shit.

There are tons of radical women out there just like her, because there are tons of women. The problem is she hasn't seen a party or a club in a decade. She's been grinding up to 50k annual while raising two kids on her own with shitty friends and family and boyfriends.

There's a serious disaster surrounding these women, they are givers and hard workers, so employers and everyone else just jumps on her back and rides her into the ground.

These women are perfect for a strong redpill man that loves to be spoiled, and loves to cut the shit out of the lives of others.

I have fucked my share of beautiful, insane women and my share of average and outright fucking nasty bitches.

I did it because I could, because they were there and because I didn't have anything else better to do at the time. Many of them showed me some great tricks I use on this current woman, and I don't look back with much regret, just a few socially autistic women I didn't get to bang, that if I would have banged, wouldn't hold a candle to my current partner.

I think at the end of the day, the lesson is you fuck them all, you date them all, and you throw them all the fuck out till you find a good one. Don't ever fear throwing away the right one that might get better with time in the future.

That chore is not yours, people don't change for other people they change for themselves, and nothing like absence of a real good thing reminds a person what quality really is. So fight about it, break up, and fuck other women.

In the future, when you are both older and wiser you might reconnect and give it another shot, after you've dealt with real terrible partners.

Live life and don't be afraid to trade a comfortable reality you aren't sure is right for something new, like being alone, or with a dude, or with a woman way out of your normal spectrum.

Variety is a key to higher perception. Know the world before you make good strong long term choices

AND DONT HAVE CHILDREN EARLY ITS A FUCKING FINANCIAL DISASTER.

[–]magx01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My last one was my last one. Ever. My mind is mine again.

Super stoked about that!

[–]2comment 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want me to tell you about my grandparents?

[–]SteveStJohn 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Do all the successful LTR stories start when she was a teenager/in college/inexperienced?

[–]eddielovett 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes because when they get older they inevitably end up riding the cock carousel and are no longer LTR material. Jay Z fell in love with Beyoncé when she was 16. This is typical.

[–]LoLDamo 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I had successful LTR’s before TRP. But then I am in the monitory here I don’t see woman as the evil that half this sub make them out to be. But I couldn’t see me having a LTR now whenever I have a plate for too long I get bored of them, even the women who have other things going for them apart from their looks e.g run their own business or have highly regarded jobs just become boring. I suppose once you’ve tasted too many flavours the idea of sticking with one forever is daunting.

But my thoughts aside yes of course you can have a successful LTR if that’s what you want. Keep up your SMV don’t take any bullshit and respond to comfort tests more than you’d usually do and you should be fine.

[–]Rabb1tH3ad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Minority*

[–]821sleepingbag 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The whole point is that LTR is red pill on hard mode. The positive stories are rare because LTR’s are fucking difficult.

[–]BusterVadge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last LTR was great. Great looking, took good care of her body. Did not seek attention from others on social media. She was smart and driven in her career.

Only problem was that her biological clock was ticking. She knew going into the LTR that I wouldn't want anymore kids and that I never will remarry. She changed her mind about those things and the relationship met its demise.

Would I do it again? Yes. She was a great woman who was loyal and faithful to me and held me in the highest respect.

I've had other LTRs that were not great and some that I lost interest in over time. By far, I would call that experience with her a positive one.

[–]tchower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there is such a thing as a dream girl, just don’t get outcome dependent or believe it’s your only chance at ever meeting a girl again like some simp. An LTR is possible just always put yourself first as well as your life goals because of the potential for all the problems you already know and take charge.

[–]Iwassleepingawake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in an LTR for almost 2years, known her 2 years before that. She's a pretty awesome girl. Mind you, she does have moments of insecurity that get on my nerves. But, over all, she is pretty amazing. Cleans my house, cooks and meal preps for me, initiates sex almost majority of the time. Has thoughtful conversations, likes arts, loves my family and they love her (first one of my significant others that they love so much). Except for the occasional insecure outbursts, shes perfect for me.

[–]Bruchibre 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My LTR story is positive. She is cute, 7 years older than me, was virgin before we met, she is very dependent on me. We've been together for 5 years and she hasn't put on weight and still sleeps on my chest every night. Problem is she's a bag of bones (very skinny) and I get bored sexually. Also she is an artist so has little money and I don't know if she will ever do. So I'm in a situation of it's great for day to day relationship but if I project myself do I want to marry her and raise kids with her? I'm not so sure.

[–]ImNotSue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your answer isn't 'yes' you probably have your answer. Appreciate it for what it is, no need to get hung up over losing it if its not fitting what you want in life. If your goals are kids and marriage, have fun while you are enjoying the moment and the goals aren't pressing, and move on when you want to find someone who fits that.

[–]simonfuruncle 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Plenty of positive stories out there. The reason we don't share them as much is because everything we say in TRP is generalities. That means that maybe 2% or maybe even 20% of girls/people/situations aren't actually exactly as we describe. The problem is that if you tell people that "not all girls are like that," then every single guy thinks his girl must be the one that isn't like that. It's the same way with teenagers. Sure it's possible that this love will last, or that they're really having a more adult-like love than they think, but chances are they probably aren't.

I've been with my wife for awhile now. Submissive, very feminine, works on herself, always down to fuck. I flat out told her all my TRP-related thoughts before we started dating just to vet her, and she was cool with it back then. I fucked around in college but honestly I really wasn't that into it, so LTRs fit me better. I personally don't think 8's and 9's are worth it for marriage, but maybe that's just me. She's a 7 and that's perfect because it makes her the reacher and keeps her a healthy bit of jealous. If I were married to an 8 or 9 I'd probably get jealous eventually, which makes it impossible to uphold the TRP adage of always being able to walk away. We have a kid together (paternity tested and all) and she's been a great mom.

The goal is to be a good mix of alpha and beta (I like the 80/20 suggested by another user here). Alpha keeps her interested and keeps the sex great ; beta makes the relationship and longterm bonding work. You will always be "shit tested," but this comes in many different forms. Just like you want her to stay slim and sexy and keep up her physical appearance, she wants to ensure you stay masculine and keep a good frame. You can't really blame her for shit testing if you look at it that way.

Yes there are success stories. You can do it, but you should be pessimistic/skeptical going into it. You need to vet really, really well. Low partner count is a 100% must. More than five is a complete rule out. Ideal is probably 0-3. If she talks all the time about feminism, next her. If she's super into LGBTQA, next her. If she ever talks bad about you in public in front of a lot of others, next her. I'm personally very wary of social media abusers, but they're harder to avoid these days. You always need to assume AWALT, because chances are you're right. Eventually, if you keep assuming AWALT and that this girl is a treacherous hoe, you may eventually find one that actually defies your generalizations, time and time again. If you're into LTRs, keep that one. If you're not into LTRs, make her a plate.

[–]fade2clear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your first paragraph needs to be acknowledged more. TRP instills doubt in you about others, which is the key to self improvement. Even if it is slightly exaggerated, it gets the point across.

[–]SteveStJohn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Low partner count is a 100% must. More than five is a complete rule out. Ideal is probably 0-3. If she talks all the time about feminism, next her. If she's super into LGBTQA, next her. If she ever talks bad about you in public in front of a lot of others, next her.

All very solid.

[–]trpppp123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ITT: People trying to use TRP to fulfill their blue pill fantasies.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet -1 points0 points  (2 children)

fucking hoes, having threesomes and all that is fun, but sometimes that gets old and you just want to settle down with one girl.

You don't get to decide when this happens. Only a girl does, once she has proved that she is worthy of being promoted to LTR status.

Refer to my guides for more information on how to properly identify and train bitches for LTR status.

[–]ThreeEyez[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Nah man that’s BS. It’s equally their choice as much as yours.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you understood your basic theory reading, you would know that men hold the ultimate power in deciding when a relationship begins and, if they properly maintain that power, when it ends.

Go re-read the sidebar until you understand this.

[–]wobbleelbbow -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

but I do think it’s possible to find a girl who appreciates you

yes, and this is the common delusion. The sooner you realize that what's possible is rarely probable the better you will be in the long run.

The only cure from this ONEITIS bullshit is to have options. Many options. And be self-sufficient, never married and no kids. That's how you attract those "would be" girlfriends, however, your power of committing to her and losing it instantly and taking a leap of faith (men are gatekeepers of relationships) is one of the worst things you can do to your life.