Just had my first random hookup, first time having sex in forever...kind of feel like sex is overrated. Am i right or just need to have more of it? (self.asktrp)

submitted by Scrummy671

She was a cute black girl. We actually got a long real well. She had a really big ass something i love. I came pretty quickly, her pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease. But after i was done i kinda felt “this is it”? This is what ive been stressing out about and all my frat brothers always rave about?

Ofcourse i want to have sex again, but i dont really feel super desperate for it anymore or super excited about it anymore. Is this normal?

[–]CryptoManbeard 206 points207 points  (5 children)

The Japanese have a word for this : kenjataimu. It's the period after ejaculation when you can think clearly. In 3 days French fry pussy will be all you think about.

[–]theserottendays 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Schopenhauer called the post-orgasm moment of clarity as "devil's laughter" because it's when you realize we're slaves to a biological imperative uncaring of our happiness.

[–]billyultra 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Aint that the truth brother

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thus the advice to always make life changing decisions after masterbation.

[–]ajs_rb26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So true

[–]ChadTheWaiter100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The period of time doesn’t last me a full 3 days. But that clarity is so beautiful.

[–]BuckNekkid18 266 points267 points  (28 children)

Surprise! Hookups/ONS are nothing else than assisted masturbation with a lubricated, tight, warm tool. Also, if her pussy smelled like deep fried grease then you need to fuck healthier girls, jesus christ.

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    [–]Aarxnw 44 points45 points  (9 children)

    Thirded, would not cook my eggs in there

    [–]Adadya 27 points28 points  (8 children)

    Fourthed, if she gave birth would it then be the son of the guy on the KFC logo?

    [–]Aarxnw 37 points38 points  (2 children)

    Damn, this guy thinks outside the bucket

    [–]LucrativeMath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Legit lol thank you sir

    [–]Adadya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Kentucky Fried Grease

    [–]sixseven89 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    Lieutenant Colonel Sanders

    [–]HurricaneHugues 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    Served 3 tours in the Salvation Army

    [–]unorthodoxcowboy 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    You guys are animals. Nobody’s going to offer OP a napkin?

    [–]robrTdot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    And a “spork?”

    [–]TheEarlyMan 24 points25 points  (15 children)

    Black people have considerably more sweat glands than white people, who have even more than asians.

    [–]319Skew 6 points7 points  (12 children)


    [–]thisisnotme__-- 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    Next, he's going to tell us that Asians have sideways vaginas.

    [–]319Skew 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Or all Jews have Jew gold that they hide

    [–]thisisnotme__-- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    ...in their butts.

    [–]4matting 0 points1 point  (8 children)


    [–]319Skew 4 points5 points  (7 children)

    [–]4matting 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Dude, this isn't some complex assertion with precise claims, it's vague statement with vague claims. You can easily research this on your own.

    Your demand to put the burden of proof on OP over something that simple is just lazy.

    [–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez 0 points1 point  (5 children)

    Do you always need to be spoon fed

    [–]319Skew 8 points9 points  (4 children)

    Read the first sentence in the link out loud to yourself.

    If you're still struggling with that. Re-read it again.

    If you're still confused, let me paint you a verbal picture. It may be easier.

    If a man comes up to you and tells you that they cure your colon cancer by ramming a solid 3-1/2 in. x 3-1/2 in. x 11 in pure aluminum rod inside your anus while chanting in Latin the recpie for a soufflé, you'd probably want to see some sort of evidence to back up that claim. You wouldn't just drop your pants and grit your teeth. I also assume that you wouldn't hit up the local library for evidence that his claim is valid or invalid because that's just stupid.

    Don't be an idiot.

    Also for anyone that is interested. Here's a study with the exact opposite information for the claim. If anyone has an actual link to refute this study, I'd like to read it.

    [–]-TempestofChaos- -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Dont be ignorant.

    If you actually want to know, fucking Google it.

    If you do not want to know, then do not and shut up.

    Clearly in this case, you just want to say someone else is wrong because they are not posting an immediate link just because you are too god damn lazy to type in a search bar.

    [–]319Skew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    "Also for anyone that is interested. Here's a study with the exact opposite information for the claim. If anyone has an actual link to refute this study, I'd like to read it."

    Kinda did. Couldn't find anything. Asked for the source.

    [–]RedHoodhandles -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Let's agree that you are both lazy fucks. Him for not linking it and you for not googling it. Btw, I have heard from several independant sources that black chicks sweat more during sex. So I am inclined to side with the opening statement.

    [–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    So triggered. You sure you're mature enough for this sub?

    [–]Aarxnw 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    Asians have none that’s why, it’s a trade off though. Small dick, no glands.

    The correlation is undeniable

    [–]X-Trem0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I present you the human 2.0


    [–]ainihon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Waiting for fifth 🍿

    [–]christophertracy92 63 points64 points  (9 children)

    Love it that everyone around here feels sex is overrated.

    Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

    [–]Adadya 11 points12 points  (7 children)

    I got 99 problems but

    [–]JoesIcedTea 13 points14 points  (2 children)

    Cruising down the street in my 64

    [–]justarandomguy15 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    he yelled out fire, then came suzi, the btich came in with a submachine uzi!

    my favourite line of the whole song damnn

    [–]isaiahexe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    They see me rollin, they hatin

    [–]GetFitGetHit 3 points4 points  (2 children)

    I have half...


    [–]chubz4you 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I see youre a man of culture as well. Gz

    [–]Bml6059 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    92 is half of 99

    [–]RedHoodhandles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Because everybody in here are master of abundance or so they try to seem.

    [–]4gliders 51 points52 points  (2 children)

    you need a better fuck.

    it is a bit overated tho.

    [–]Future_Alpha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    it is a bit overated tho.

    nah. its a great deal of fun if you're with a girl who enjoys sex, enjoys you and is decent looking

    [–]mrpthrowa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Yes. Come back when you get a soft tender slender 20 year old. It's like night and day.

    [–]koedeloe 190 points191 points  (23 children)

    Sex is overrated. Condoms suck, after you orgasm you come to your senses and want to dump the bitch asap, her pussy might stank, she might be horrible at giving blowjobs. All that effort for 15 minutes of overrated sex. Sex is only good raw with someone you care about. I know cliché but it' true.

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      [–]mightyman101 33 points34 points  (5 children)

      Big facts, don’t be sad it’s jus the way things are.

      [–]Random_throwaway_000 17 points18 points  (3 children)

      I'm only sad that there are so few girls worth caring about.

      [–]TacoMedic 14 points15 points  (1 child)

      And you don't wanna fuck any of them.

      (Mother, sister, cousins, aunts, etc.)

      [–]Sveerdeela 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      That depends on the cousin...ahem 😉

      [–]wabbit82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Hahaha, what? Of course not, don’t be silly, there’s like hundreds of millions of them.

      [–]11-Eleven-11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Its the way God made us

      [–]4matting 30 points31 points  (2 children)

      Because we get the greatest level of euphoria with the mates we 'feel' like they would produce the greatest offspring with us. (relative to the other mates we have or had).

      Anecdotally, my pleasure is positively correlated with attractiveness and my perception of their faithfulness. I'll get greater pleasure with a HB8 that I believe is being monogamous with me, over a HB10 that I couldn't trust with $5.

      [–]RedHoodhandles 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Makes total sense biologically, yet the discussion about vetting a chick or not, caring if she's a slut or not always pops up again. When do those guys realize that for a good life you have to live in accordance with your nature.

      [–]4matting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      They lack the experience and thus the perspective to fully understand.

      Most guys that come here are socially retarded, in the sense that they don't have the same level of socialization as socially successful people. Which is why we push newbies to go out and talk to as many girls as they can. It's like a bootcamp for socialization.

      [–]justarandomguy15 33 points34 points  (3 children)

      Tbh that's why I'm gaming girls in my social circles, girls I can connect with and develop genuine "friendship" with.

      I've had my first sex with a girl I liked so much. It was fucking amazing. I didn't cum for 30 mins straight and she loved it. Until today, were very good friends and next week we're traveling together just to fuck in some other city.

      I think sex feels much better with someone you actually know and connect with. I noticed that the physical stimuli is probably 50-60% of the deal. The pathological play is much more important.

      I enjoyed sex with this girl because we're already good buds. She's helping me with my mission and I'm helping her (very limited) with shit she's dealing with all the time.

      The most beautiful thing about this whole thing is that I discovered that I had a tickling back. Like one slight touch and all the hair in my body is up. Once she learnt about this, she'd start gently caressing my neck and my back. The bitch even learnt where the good spots are. When she wants shit done, she just goes all the way down near my butt and I start jumping like a scared cat.

      Might sound childish, but it's very romantic and I am very happy that I'm living this with her. We both know that this is eventually coming to an end because she's flying back to her home country soon. But it just feels like a very good dream.

      I do love her, but I know she's just another girl and I'll bang much better girls in the future.

      [–]themag1cbean 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Pathologic? Do u mean psychological?

      [–]justarandomguy15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      yeah, autocorrect man, sry

      [–]Aggressive_Beta 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      Exactly why LTR's are better than spinning plates forever

      [–]justarandomguy15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      IF you know how to play your LTR right and IF you manage to hold your shit together for a long time (honestly, i do lose my shit one in a while so LTR would be the dread for me)

      [–]gijoemaximus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      It's only because we have raw sex with girls we care about, if there was a way to completely avoid unwanted pregnancies without going under the knife, and zero stds. We would sing a very different tune

      [–]Terra501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Dude you encapsulated so much bona fide truth in your statement. so true.

      [–]mrBatata 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      Sex is only good raw

      Great advice to fuck the rest of your life or/and take a paycheck out of you until you die.

      Are you fucking insane!?! Yeah it might feel good but that is playing Russian roulette.

      [–]RedHoodhandles 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Well but he's right. Everything has it's risks.

      [–]mrBatata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Doesn't mean I should make toast in my bathtub because everything has risks.

      It's evident that everything has risks, just because of that, you aren't going to involve yourself in more risk than necessary. I'm not saying to baby proof every aspect of your life just not to jump in front of a bus.

      [–]paprikk 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      If you travel abroad you can have all the raw sex you want without fear of child support payments.

      [–]mrBatata 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      And all those exotic stds

      [–]Yoasted 16 points17 points  (2 children)

      Deep fried grease? LOL

      [–]BusterVadge 21 points22 points  (0 children)

      Finger lickin good.

      [–]Adadya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Patrick Swayze up in that shit

      [–]horologist2018 29 points30 points  (2 children)

      100% depends on you as a person. I am the polar opposite.

      For a lot of people, one night stands and hookups, like u/bucknekkid18 said, are assisted masturbation with a live human.

      For me, one night stands and hookups are like a roller coaster of joy and excitement, before, during, and after. I compare it to going to an amusement park, where some rides look great and are great, some rides look great and are terrible, some rides look terrible and are great, and some rides look terrible and are terrible.

      Like I said, depends on you as a person. If it's overrated for you, then hey man there's nothing wrong with that.

      [–]BuckNekkid18 19 points20 points  (1 child)

      > one night stands and hookups are like a roller coaster of joy and excitement, before, during, and after.

      I like the challenge of gaming a girl to get laid, but the sex is almost never that impressive. I've met better lays/plates at different charities/volunteering jobs that I participated in than in clubs.

      [–]horologist2018 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      No argument here brother. Sex definitely improves with higher quality girls. Club/Bar one night stands are definitely hit or miss; I just love the roller coaster ride.

      [–]nabosch 11 points12 points  (4 children)

      I know it's not the most popular thing around here but the best sex I've ever had has been with my LTR.

      [–]synaesthetic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      It's way better when there's deep love and oxytocin

      [–]BusterVadge 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Same here. Nothing is as deeply satisfying. Not in a LTR right now but I had sex with a new plate today who's never had an orgasm until.... today.

      That was pretty damn close.

      [–]nabosch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      That's gotta be fun! I've never been able to be the first giver of an orgasm

      [–]wobbleelbbow 31 points32 points  (0 children)

      Did you think it was overrated BEFORE you had sex? That's a rhetorical question. The thing is after you bust a nut, many men feel kind of a regret and similar feeling, since they released all their "energy" into a woman's vagina and now need at least few days to get all that testosterone back which again, creates new tension and new arousal and you want sex again. That's how it goes. You fuck, you cum, you forget about a chick until you need her again.

      It's as much overrated as water. Those who have plenty do not think about it until they are thirsty and once they drink it they forget again. Same with sex. Those who have none will rate sex as one of the top man's needs. Which biologically it is, but.. once you cum, you cum and you are done. Just like a glass of water.

      Try posting this on incel dot com and see their response. I am sure they wouldn't be happy about your experience since you had sex and they didn't.

      [–]Psychological_Radish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      idk wtf you all are talking about. Sex is awesome, especially if there's a lot of built up tension from a night of flirting/Gaming. There's no pleasure that compares. Fucking a hot girl (a hot girl, not Bertha the Drunk Whale at closing) is pretty validating.

      [–]Olram_Sacul 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Yup, that's pretty normal

      [–]FakeTheAlMightyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      ¶∆¶∆¶∆ autist

      [–]dutchgguy 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      Ye: that's exactly how it is. But afterwards in the evening you get a happy feeling.

      [–]Adadya 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      Me love happy feeling

      [–]Opioidus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Sex is very overrated, the hunt is underrated.

      [–]nofilmynofucky 15 points16 points  (0 children)

      lol women in general are overrated

      but yeah, once you develop true abundance it does become a question of 'is this even worth it'. I'm at the point where I don't bother with women older than 24ish and less than an HB 8, not due to any real judgement call on my part but simply because I can't be bothered putting in the effort if she's not hot enough.

      [–]BusterVadge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      her pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease. But after i was done i kinda felt “this is it”?

      There's your problem right there.

      [–]xddm2653 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease

      This is what brothers always rave about?


      [–]mysteriumarchive 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      Welcome to the true red pill. You now make a decision: do you want to be a slave to your primal urges, desperately chasing pussy around for the rest of your life, totally enthralled in"the game" just to fill an empty void in you? Or do you want to reject this sexual decadence and stay centered in your absolute mode of being, passing through this decaying modern world like a cloud over a mountain, staying true to yourself and your code through it all? The latter is the true red pill. Read Ride the Tiger by Julius Evola.

      [–]BeefyMesoamerican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Underrated comment here

      [–]leolanik14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      What you thought you gonna get cupcakes and cigar, and bunch of men standing around giving you cheers. Nah man, this is why TRP kept telling dudes, focus on your goals and not Pussey and it is not the Mecca of your happiness! That was your temporary glucose spike.

      [–]toothpickhd 11 points12 points  (5 children)

      The thing about sex is that when people describe good sex what they mean is different for girls than guys. Even though both can benefit you as a guy.

      When a girl says that you guys have a good sex she essentially saying you last a long time, dominate me, and make me cum multiple times. Something not a lot of men do.

      When a guy tells a girl they have good sex, they usually mean she is a freak and lets him do stuff he wants to do, facials etc.

      The second one is obvious how it benefits you. Its fucking awesome and fun.

      The first one can be tiring sometimes. You have to learn to last like 30 minutes. And you need to have experience so you know how to make a woman cum, and you are essentially doing 30 minutes of cardio because you are in control the whole time. Honestly sometimes its kind of more of a work out then fun. But I can guarantee you after you've made a girl come 5 times in 30 minutes she will look at you like a god.

      So keep fucking buddy and get better and better at it and eventually you will find out its not overrated at all and all the people here saying otherwise just don't know to operate in the bedroom.

      [–]hippomania 18 points19 points  (1 child)

      It comes a time you realize physical pleasure it's secondary to the feeling of making a girl completely yours as in giving her the best orgasms of her life. That's absolute domination since she becomes dependant on you.

      [–]toothpickhd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      This is exactly what I’m saying. There is good value in it. Anytime I have sex with my girl she is instantly in subservient mode for like 12 hours. Makes relationships / plates very easy.

      [–]Adadya 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Spill the secrets operator

      [–]2chazthundergut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Check out Sex God Method

      It's a game changer

      [–]hippomania 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      This man fucks. Definitely.

      [–]dtyler86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Lmao... deep fried grease. I felt the same way when I lost my virginity. It’s really something that I have realized I feel with every new hook up for the first time it’s not really that amazing until you’ve done it a few times and then when it becomes intimate it’s a different kind of excitement. First off, condoms fucking suck. If you have a long-term relationship or a consistent hook up that is on birth control and you were comfortable trusting that they are clean, unprotected sex will probably change your mind. Every time I start dating someone sex is really not that amazing until I’ve done it with them maybe a large handful of times

      [–]petergriffin2660 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      You were too stressed during your 'encounter'

      You didn't let yourself enjoy the ride, that's prob why u didn't last long and u built it up too much. It's supposed to be a fun ride. Sex in a LTR is quite a bit better as you'll both be comfortable with each other. Hookups are just the thrill of the hunt.

      [–]sonnydanger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Sex is honestly over rated. I like the chase and the hunt more than the sex tbh. Knowing i can pull a hoe is exciting and fun.

      [–]vaqq1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      man said deep fried grease. I can't LOOOOL

      [–]HectoSexual 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I passed my 30th plate and I am just now starting to feel like sex is less exciting than it was.

      All that means to me is that it’s time to move up to hotter and crazier girls.

      [–]XxPockoxX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Shit black girls smell like grease?! Mexican girl smell like roasting peppers..

      [–]gaki123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Are you mutilated? I mean circumcised?

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      [–]Scrummy671[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Yes i did

      [–]binrobinro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Your feeling is correct.

      [–]eddee_d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Same experience recently so I feel you. It really ain't that hype.

      [–]SolarTortality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I usually feel like that after I have sex with a person BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO NOT BE HAVING SEX WITH ANYONE as opposed to when having sex with a person because you want to have sex with said person.

      [–]The_Lightskin_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I'm an ass man myself, and sometimes I come to disappointing realization that an ass is just for looks, but I just have sex when I'm horny. You might feel different about it tomorrow.

      I masturbate on the regular but pussy, and the act of is so much better, I'm a very freaky person though so, I kind of need a partner. But I always like to surprise women with my vibrating cock ring. I give them different sex and in return they come back.

      [–]Herr_Hrodberth 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      I assume you used a condom like all of the other Reddit cucks? Condom sex is shit. I would rather sit and watch commercials on the TV than have condom sex, and I hate commercials. Rawdogging a girl and cumming in her pussy or ass feels amazing, though.

      [–]Penetrating-Vagina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      The 18 years of responsibility and parenthood sure dont.

      [–]mrHappyPotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You yourself have made big deal iut of it. Enjoy it as it is.

      [–]Datanami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Funny how these posts are always the most upvoted

      [–]faustian_talos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Am I the only one here that has a problem with *her pussy kinda smeled like deep fried grease* ???!!!

      [–]SteveStJohn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      PCH, Post Cum Hate, is normal.

      [–]GeuseyBetel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Most of the guys here are saying sex is overrated and I agree. It's only not overrated when it's with a girl you're not immediately sick of after you nut.

      Also black girls are pretty much always smellier in my experience (not being racist, may be coincidence, but just my experience)

      [–]Thunderfin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      why does it matter that she was black?