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ex-gf popped up out the blue and tried to scam me, should i fuck with her emotions? (self.asktrp)

submitted by jay_jay_man

Ex-gf who I haven't seen since 2017 slid into my social media inbox. I didn't chit chat, got straight to the point, told her to come over, and that I wanted to fuck her.

Two days later she turned up to my place in a skimpy dress looking sexy as fuck. Made a move, she put up tons of resistance, doesn't even want me to touch her, then tried to get me to use my credit card to buy Apple Storage online (WTF LOL). I said no.

Then she talked about how hungry she was, I didn't have much in my place and she didn't want the food I cooked for myself, she them suggested that I order a pizza from down the road. I told her I didn't have any cash and if she has the money to go ahead and buy a pizza if she wants, I went on to eat my dinner in front of her and told her she was welcomed to some. She declined.

I wasn't seeing any pussy so I fired up my laptop and began working on a paid project. I wasn't about to let a bitch that wasn't putting out get in the way of billing for a quick $20.

About 90 minutes into her visit she blurts out "this doesn't make any sense" and leaves.

Her visit didn't throw me off at all. Once I realized she was all about a hustle and no sex, I continued on as if she wasn't there and she left. I'm still laughing.

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D


[–]Rosace_89 147 points148 points  (14 children)

rhetorical question OP, we all know you want that pizza :o)

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 64 points65 points  (9 children)

I do want it lol. But the part about broadcasting it on social media... that's what up for debate

[–]Shirye 128 points129 points  (4 children)

Only If you had a more attractive girl to share it with; that would be magical.

[–]adam_varg 45 points46 points  (0 children)

10/10 savage

[–]EvanPetersDouble 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Yesss

[–]Builtblind 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I support this response

[–]Wolveryn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eful she’ll more than likely come out with some shit about that night to (incriminate) you so save those messages pimp

Just get a half attractive girl, and get her hand holding a piece of the pizza, as long as shes not obese... her imagination has to assume shes at least a 7

[–]Xkirbyx 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Post it fuck her well deserve wallet whore. But be careful she’ll more than likely come out with some shit about that night to (incriminate) you so save those messages pimp

[–]yumyumgivemesome 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yep, be careful stooping to the level of this type of person. They've got way more experience being petty vindictive assholes.

[–]EvanPetersDouble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it!

[–]erthian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damnit now I want a pizza.

[–]Kpwn88 169 points170 points  (4 children)

Passive aggressive behavior is a bitch move that will only show you're emotionally invested.

[–]Jabbermouth 68 points69 points  (2 children)

Normally I would agree with this, but fucking with people is genuinely fun for some people, myself included.

If OP is doing it just to fuck with her head and it makes him happier, then I say go for it.

[–]MissingQuark 15 points16 points  (1 child)

I totally agree with you, but it'll probably hurt her even more if he does nothing at all.

[–]phareux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She'll be more pissed if he doesn't do anything at all I agree, cause it'll be like he didn't even care

[–]friendandadvisor 18 points19 points  (0 children)

OTOH, lording it over enemies shows that YOU have the power; a very Machiavellian act!

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar 125 points126 points  (2 children)

Why are you getting caught up in stupid drama, hanging out with low quality people? Don't you have anything better to do?

[–]EvanPetersDouble 29 points30 points  (1 child)

This.

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Never wrestle with a pig; you'll just get covered in mud and the pig likes it anyway.

[–]GoRedBad 76 points77 points  (4 children)

Don't fuck with people's emotions. What will it get you? Nothing but the possibility of the other person pursuing revenge against you. Be better than that.

Weak people are capricious and vindictive. You are supposed to be a rock.

[–]HotWaffler 12 points13 points  (2 children)

This. You can tell how many of these bloops are still bitter. For one, why act like a spiteful woman and engage in that petty unattractive behavior? Second. Why are these strangers so excited for OP to "fuck with her" when it isnt even that good of a way to fuck with someone.

[–]IFuckingHateAllergy 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Because it is amusing. Functioning with the mindset of "the world being your oyster and the people in it are made for your own amusement" is a thing for some people. It is only petty if you think it's petty, otherwise it's entertaining. It's very Dark Triad if you think and look at it from a different perspective.

[–]Narcissist456 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s the most fun you can have honestly lol.

[–]Bulozi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Come on guys OP just showed he's Rock solid when he feasted on a home cooked delicious meal in her face...it ain't out of rock solid character to feast on Pizza in her social media face as well

[–]FlyingSexistPig 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're falling into her frame. It's all about the competition, and you're focusing all your attention and energy on her.

This isn't going to end well for you. You'll win a couple battles, like the ones you've won so far, but she is biologically and evolutionarily designed for this exact fight: the nonviolent drama war.

She's been dreaming of these scenarios since she was 4. While you were playing with trucks, digging holes and building imaginary bridges and skyscrapers, she was playing with dolls, forming cliques, manipulating emotions, backstabbing, flattering and reveling in the drama of it all.

You might think that you have the upper hand, and you do, but if you overplay this hand with your clumsy social media attempts, it's going to end with you making a minor slipup that results in either a false rape accusation, a kid that you don't want to support, or the undermining of your entire social network.

Do not do this.

[–]Bedtimeshine 38 points39 points  (1 child)

This is sub of grown men supposedly wanting to embrace masculinity and improve their luck with women... and y’all are talking about posting pizza on social media? Smh

OP get the fuck off social media like an actual grown man. delete that shit. Social media is for little girls. Forget about her. Put down the pizza. And put your energy into improving your body, your career, and your REAL social life with real people that doesn’t involve an app or computer.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i'm right with you man, i literally went back to work and ate my bake chicken before she even walked out the door lol

[–]bradtwo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Be careful op.

The last thing you want is a psycho claiming fake rape on you.

Something ain’t right with that girl.

Keep your distance

[–]Tuplad 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is sad. Shame for TRP.

[–]Platos_slow_brother 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You still care too much.

[–]LLL3peat 30 points31 points  (14 children)

It really wasn’t about the Pizza, it was what she could tell her friends that you went over for pizza or food to defer the part of wanting only sex or you. In her mind it was about not being a slut for my ex and he did nothing for me. You read it wrong. Not paying for apple storage was a smart move but having food and making things happen was the right move. You will learn with time. Women will show up and make themselves available but won’t just turn on a light switch and bend over to be fucked.

Alternatively it sounds like you made the whole interaction have a lot of stance off instead of a welcoming vibe. Either way she’ll be back if you weren’t a 100% asshole or seemed butthurt about the break up. Sounds like you are still butthurt so she validated her reasoning to say yes the breakup was the best move.

[–]Ansec 20 points21 points  (6 children)

I'd agree with this assessment. You should have bought pizza and turned on Netflix. Cuddled and sexed. She could then tell her friends, if asked where she was, that she went over to a friend's and had pizza and watched a movie. It's a BS cover story but could be legit. Makes her look like less of a slut.

Next time OP.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 21 points22 points  (2 children)

I'd do that with a normal girl but this chick is off. She literally did not want me to put a finger on her so cuddling was out of the question. There was no warmth or attraction on her part. The only sex she could give me is "just hurry up and finish" sex. The juice wasn't worth the squeeze and the juice wasn't good.

[–]Ansec 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Ah yes, I've had that before. This one girl I broke up with started snapping me. I said a couple of friends and I are going to the casino, you should join. She agreed, I picked her up. Afterwards I asked if she'd like to come over she said yes. We went to my place, started to watch a movie and we cuddled. I started to escalate and make out with her and she stopped me. It's like if you didn't want to do this then why'd you agree to come over? She could have said no and I would have brought her home after the casino. Now that I remember it, I don't know how she got home. Uber maybe... When she said no I didn't care anymore.

It may be some type of validation on her part then. She wanted to make sure she was still desirable.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It may be some type of validation on her part then. She wanted to make sure she was still desirable.

I didn't even consider why she acted the way she did (don't really care) but now that you mention it, validation makes perfect sense.

[–]Joeboard 9 points10 points  (3 children)

This is the first thing that popped into my head after reading the story. She was frantically looking for an excuse to validate herself being there... other than sex. No girl wants to be KNOWN as a slut, although most girls like being slutty.

She wasnt trying to scam you out of a $15 pizza.. that is just ridiculous thinking. Now, if she started telling money trouble stories, like how her phone, cable, electricity is about to be shut off because she cant pay the bill.. well thats a HUGE red flag.

Tbh, it seems like you still came off a bit butthurt which probably had her second guessing everything which lead to her leaving in a hurry.

Its all good, live and learn my man.

[–]friendandadvisor -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Tbh, it seems like you still came off a bit butthurt which probably had her second guessing everything which lead to her leaving in a hurry.

So, not buying the Apple thing...was that 'butthurt' or just 'not holding frame'?

[–]Joeboard 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I dont use apple, but isnt that shit like a dollar? I mean thats hardly a scam and could of been used as a validation excuse. "Oh i went over because he helped me setup my apple cloud".

Idk the reasoning really.. but i sincerly sincerely sincerely doubt an ex is going to hit you up, talk dirty, dress up and come over to scam you out of a few gigs on the cloud and 2 slices of pizza.

[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm...good point.

[–]Bitscoinmooning 3 points4 points  (2 children)

You're a dumb faggot. Apple storage came first. It was entirely about milking the once beta OP. The girl seems extremely low quality and severely mentally ill. Not the kind you should ever date.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

How did you determined she is mental? It took me weeks before I realized what I stuck my dick into.

What gave her away?

[–]Bitscoinmooning 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She doesn't respect you at all and demands money from you. Has she ever paid for anything?

Don't associate with her anymore and don't antagonize her she is the kind of woman to claim you raped her.

[–]Herdsengineers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This story exemplifies exactly why trying to mess around with an exLTR usually has major diminishing returns.

[–]HurricaneHugues 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Ex-gf who I haven't seen since 2017 slid into my social media inbox. I didn't chit chat, got straight to the point, told her to come over, and that I wanted to fuck her"

Sigh

[–]Peter_B_Long 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

Are you serious?

Once I realized she was all about a hustle and no sex, I continued on as if she wasn't there and she left.

If this was true, and you are genuinely indifferent about her, then how could you even consider going through the trouble of buying a pizza and posting it? Just to try and maybe upset her?

You're actually going to give her what she wants. The attention. She'll know that you're posting the pizza to spite her so she'll know you're thinking of her.

You know what actually happened? She's been going out (probably wearing that same skanky dress) and she's been getting all these guys doing shit for her. She's been getting massive validation from guys giving her gifts so she feels entitled to get any guy to do shit for her, hence why she hit you up and tried to milk you for some cash. When that didn't work, she settled for a pizza. You being non-needy or beta made her hamster malfunction hence "this doesn't make any sense."

She took a hit on her validation meter so now she's going to go online and sell her nudes on snapchat or open up Tinder and get some free meals.

She's also going to hamster this as SHE friend-zoning YOU or that you like dick in your butt.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If this was true, and you are genuinely indifferent about her, then how could you even consider going through the trouble of buying a pizza and posting it? Just to try and maybe upset her?

Buying pizza and eating it is hardly any trouble. As for my motivation, it was to get even more laughs at her expense.

You being non-needy or beta made her hamster malfunction hence "this doesn't make any sense."

Good explanation.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No. Don’t waste your time with dumb shit.

[–]8oh8 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Haha yes, buy the pizza and post on social media. That would be funny. But don't tag her on it lol

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

About 90 minutes into her visit she blurts out "this doesn't make any sense" and leaves.

She's right there.

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

Do nothing.

[–]Datanami 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How come it's always the stupidest, most pointless shit that gets the most upvotes here

[–]flatox 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You obviously have a long way to go still. I'm assuming you must be very young. This thread is pointless.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses 27 points28 points  (5 children)

This isn’t a real question. It’s a brag and a weak one at that.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Lighten up man, I have plenty of bragging stories, this isn't one of them. I just find the whole situation amusing.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses 3 points4 points  (3 children)

So you are telling us whether your own story is a brag. I don’t think so. The whole story is about how well you handled a situation. There is no issue and no real question.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Read to the end.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Yeah should I buy a pizza. Seriously.

[–]Fuck_You_Pay_moi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The ultimate question, pizza or nah

[–]wobbleelbbow 12 points13 points  (11 children)

You should grow up

[–]Corvus_Uraneus 9 points10 points  (1 child)

"Grow up" "Man up" "Who hurt you?"

All phrases to try to shame a man into accepting unfair and unacceptable treatment.

[–]returnofthemackX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not the situation, he handled that good. It's the fact that he is making this pointless thread, wanting to "fuck with her emotions" and all that weak nonsense.

[–]X-Trem0 3 points4 points  (4 children)

oh, come on! its objectively funny

[–]wobbleelbbow 7 points8 points  (1 child)

It is. As a story, not as a serious attempt to "put her in her place". That's what a teenager would do. The best response is ignore.

[–]X-Trem0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you that would be the best response... still funny tho

[–]QueenSlapFight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Subjectively?

[–]Vrokko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your opinions aren't objective.

[–]Andorli -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

You should get sense of humor.

[–]wobbleelbbow 5 points6 points  (1 child)

should i fuck with her emotions?

if you think an adult can write such a topic you should grow up too. Seriously.

[–]Andorli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See dude, the thing is I do mot go that deep, i don't give a shit about that. This is not a question on asktrp worth investing that much though into. Didn't even pay attention ot that before you pointed it out. You should find better things to do. Also buying and posting especially at that age is hilarious.

[–]nofilmynofucky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're better than her dude, don't do this to yourself. Just move on.

[–]trele_morele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did everything well right up to the point when she left. Then you should have gone back to whatever you were doing instead of engaging in high school drama bs

[–]MakeMenGreatAgain44 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah buy a huge pizza and post it. Great idea.

[–]YslJames 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No you should have more important things to do

[–]TurnDownForWhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Imagine that shitty brag stories.

[–]cluelessguitarist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah nothing good comes from it, it just shows you still care, indifference is the best.

[–]Musicgoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Attention is chick crack. Good or bad it's still attention.

She's a total freeloader that doesn't even deserve your time.

[–]1byronshadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any sign of drug use? There's a possibility she wanted to swipe some things from your apartment or make some accusation and blackmail you. Ghosting is the best option.

[–]Svarthofthi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do that very easily by ignoring this garbage and her.

[–]BeastWithSombra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

bunch of children you all are. lmao

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 2 points3 points  (4 children)

You have oneitis. If you still care about making this chick feel bad, it means you care, period.

You tried to score an easy ex-gf lay. It didn't work. Stop wasting your time and move on.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

If you still care about making this chick feel bad, it means you care, period.

I'm actually a sadist and a kick out of inflicting pain...

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Now you're rationalizing. She won't be hurt by a picture of a pizza. Your dumb faggot ass wants to keep texting with her because you're in love.

Stop acting like a chump and go find some new bitches.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your dumb faggot ass wants to keep texting with her because you're in love.

lol. fuck off

[–]BusterVadge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Block her again. You seem like you know your shit so I'm sure you blocked her before but she found a way around it.

[–]macheagle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re better than that pettiness bro. Forget her and move on. Next.

[–]scanfan2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No contact her.

[–]SlappaDaBayssMon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've handled everything well so far, passive aggressive SM posts is the only way you lose ground here.

Finish that project and find a new girl.

[–]LOLCanadianNeighbor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Fucking with her emotions brings you into her frame, you waste time that will never be gotten back and it is wasted energy. Why not use this as an opportunity to move past what low quality people do to you? Once you move past this, you can move past others that try to do the same thing.

Personal Growth should be your goal in life. Not messing around like a low quality person to try to get back at someone. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[–]RedditRated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did great by offering what you had on the table and not going out of your way to please her needs. She’s an ex so she doesn’t get the same treatment as a gf would.

[–]Nov51605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the idea of buying the pizza and rubbing it in, but in the end, take the high road and forget it, because it's unnecessary. YOu already made your point and she got wrecked

[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy the pizza because you want a pizza, don't fucking play games...

[–]AceMav21 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Dude bro, that’s kinda messed up how you sexually objectified her like that and ignored her. Like that is a girl. In the name of social justice and virtue of vagina you should’ve gave her the info to all your debit and credit cards, taken out a credit card for her, and then take her out to a 5 Star restaurant instead of offering her leftovers.😂

[–]RedditRated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And let her shove a stick so far down your ass you become a mandilon

[–]ArdAtak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES!!!! Maybe even mention something about the date/time to make sure she's knows it's from the same evening. i.e:

"Check out my tasty treat from Wednesday night!"

[–]dgillz 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Ok here's the scoop, Buy the best pizza you can afford, and get the hottest woman you can find to come over (assuming she is hotter than the ex).

Take selfies of the 2 of you and the pizza. Post it everywhere, but mostly where the ex can see it. Caption one of the photos "Man I've been craving a pizza for 2 weeks!".

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you're a stone-cold savage, I love it!

[–]dgillz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I probably would, even though I shouldn't.

[–]laserdicks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"This doesn't make any sense" Fucken ded.

[–]The_Adm0n -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should absolutely punish her. Women are going to keep trying this shit until they learn that they aren't immune from the consequences.

If we ever want to see worthy women, we need to motivate them to be worthy.