I've seen studies that show open relationships are not the norm in gay couples and that in fact they are decreasing in popularity with younger generations. This was unsurprising for me, as I've always noticed that those in open relationships tend to be quite stereotypically gay and show some obsession with sexual validation to the point of being pathological. I see it coming as a result of baggage from either their lack of masculinity (in society and the gay world that prizes the masculine ideal that they can never live up to and pretend they don't want to but secretly fuels their inferiority) or other difficulties coming to terms with their sexuality (i.e. years of toxic shame or staying in the closet and fear of abandonment).

These elements, which are common to most gay people I would say, tend to result in gay people becoming damaged. This is a reason why gay people have such higher incidences of many mental health problems. There is a reason why gay people are the largest sub-group that partake in illicit drugs. There is a reason why gay people tend to live hedonistic lives and avoid responsibility.

Therefore, as society gets more accepting of homosexuality and gay guys don't have to hide their sexuality as much, you get people who are less damaged and therefore less likely to support the idea of an open relationship. They don't need as much sexual validation as previous generations. But a lot still do.

I think sex is very important for the physical and emotional wellbeing of a man. I sympathise with straight males - just look at the posts on TRP. Some of the guys there expend so much effort trying to get laid. Meanwhile, in the gay world we open an app and after a few taps can have someone on your doorstep within minutes or hours.

Gay people however, in much the same way as heterosexual women, are obsessed with validation from others. If you're that type of person, what happens when you're in a relationship with the one guy after a year or two or three and you have sex? You get bored. You don't get the feeling of sexual validation. You have a hole inside of you that you fill with casual sex and you crave the high from sleeping with someone who you find attractive and who boosts your self-esteem.

Is this really the life you want to live?

Remember that for straight males in relationships, sex is controlled by the female. The man often gets starved of sex after cohabitation or marriage. That is one reason why TRP questions getting married in the first place - why be a provider to someone who will end up withholding sex? In gay relationships there is no transaction taking place between sex and commitment as there is in the male-female dynamic.

Therefore, I don't buy the proposition that open relationships are healthy or expected for gay men.

I say this as a masculine gay guy whose personal values are in complete misalignment with gay cultural values. And I say this as something who tried being in an open relationship because I thought monogamy was unrealistic. It caused more problems than it purported to solve. Now, if I ever meet someone who indicates a preference for open relationships or extreme sexual promiscuity, I stay well away. This kind of mindset is for me a proxy for a guy being too gay (cf: too feminine) and too damaged.

Further materials: 1. Jordan Peterson's view on this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvUMU0V9CiA 2. Ayn Rand's view on casual sex: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4f8o4p/ayn_rands_philosophy_of_sex/