I used to have a massive friend group when I was younger and would always have people around me. After growing up (33) and moving to a new city last year my social circle is basically non-existent. Most my good buddies have families now and live at least an hour away. It's been hard to adjust to being alone so much. I read, meditate, exercise, and eat right, but still feel empty af.
I recently joined an ice hockey team, but haven't really vibed enough with the team other than during our games which are late night during the work week. Hopefully grab some drinks or something with them later in the season.
Anyways. This has left me putting way too much of an emphasis on dating and women in general. Which has been unhealthy. Obviously I am lonely and crave social interactions, so I tend to focus too much energy on dating and meeting new girls. I have no problem meeting girls on dating apps and getting laid, but it's all unfulfilling and dangerous as I caught oneitis for a bit last year that fucked me up because I had become dependent on the relationship/company.
I live in the Bay Area and I always see big groups of friends doing shit together. I want to create this in my life again.
I miss having my bros around to just fuck around with cars, sports, bbq'n, etc.
Also to add...... no opportunity at my job for socializing. Mostly women around me in an office environment.
Any advice or ppl that have found some solid friends later in life? Seems impossible in your 30s.....