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I wasn't sure whether this would qualify as a field report or not, so I just ditched the tag. Basically this is my first application of what I've learned here IRL and it worked so well, I thought I'd share.

Some background, I'm 21 and I just began seeing a 31-year-old divorcee with no children. I'm a senior in college. I ended up sleeping with him much earlier than I intended, which I'm aware isn't part of our philosophy, but that's not the main point here.

At one point after sex, he was sitting up on the side of the bed and I crawled up behind him and just nuzzled my face into his neck, massaged him a little, and nibbled his ears. Nothing major. Today I get this text:

Him: "I have a confession. All I can think about is you sitting behind me kissing my neck and shoulders. I REALLY liked that. No one has ever done that to me, made me feel like a king lol"

Me: " :) I just like to make a man feel like a man... it's such a turn-on for me.

Him: "I really like that."

Me: "A lot of women can please a guy, but maybe don't realize how important that little piece of it is. Those little things are the things I enjoy most about intimacy"

Him: "I couldn't have said it better myself. That is what women don't understand. It's something I don't want to ask to be done, I want it to just be done. Basically what I'm saying is... you're fucking awesome."

I just wanted to share this to say THANK YOU to everyone in this community for opening my eyes to this way of thinking. I know I will definitely continue to apply everything I've learned here to my relationships in the future. Reading that text from him was sooooo satisfying.


[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Glad you had a good evening. It's always important to be mindful of the little things that leave a big impression. Guys really aren't that hard to keep happy, they have very basic needs.

Thanks for the post! :0)

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Guy here. Can confirm. Very easy to keep me happy.

My favourite thing is when I'm walking with a girl in public with my hand in my pocket and she, with no prompting from me, links her arm through mine. There's something traditional about it that makes me feel very proud and manly. Its little things like this that get forgotten.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awesome! You're doing it right

[–]FleetingWishEndorsed Contributor 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

One of the greatest satisfactions for me of being a RPW is seeing how much influence I have over making him happy. Not just happy, happy in a way that he's never experienced before. It's amazing how just one person can change someone's life for the better, I love that. I love being that person, and I love it when he loves me for it.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Go you! This way of thinking is a great way to start relationships and keep them going, for those of us who already have them.

I can relate by sleeping with a man before you intended to. My relationship started out that way, but some good things do come from such happenings.

[–]wearing_yoga_pants4 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

It's definitely not how I prefer to start a relationship, but it is how things began with my ex. Sometimes there is just such an intense emotional and physical connection right off the bat that it's hard to show restraint. I had difficulty understanding the importance of showing that restraint as a freshman and sophomore, especially with the hookup culture of attending a major party school paired with some self esteem issues. I'm so glad I discovered RP because it made me realize how to increase my value as a woman and steered me away from this type of behavior. This is the first slip-up I've had since then but it's something I can definitely learn a thing or two from.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I totally agree. My relationship started by those strong emotions. But now I know better to hold back on my feelings until I can get commitment. I just hope I won't have to apply that. ;)

[–]morganlane 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

So true. My fiance is the only man I've ever slept with outside of a relationship... And now he's my fiance. :)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Definitely not a good strategy, though! If my boyfriend and I ever split, I won't be trying the same method.

[–]morganlane 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh of course it's not a strategy. I was acting upon an instant attraction and chemistry I'd never felt on such a deep level with anyone else. I am and always have been an LTR-only woman, and though I wasn't expecting it, in hindsight it's no surprise that the one man I chose for casual relations would end up being the man I'm going to marry.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh I was doing the same. Some things just happen and they work out!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Intimate physical affection is under utilized and under appreciated. Bravo to you and I hope girls learn a thing or two.

[–]TempestTcup 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awwww....

[–]scallopkidEndorsed Contributor 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love everything about this.

[–]berryokt 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yay! My husband mentions to me a lot of little things I do like that that make him feel like a powerful man. Sometimes I don't realize them because it is part of who I am, but I love hearing that I make him feel like the boss.

[–]leoplurodondon 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is the most intimate, non-sexual sensual thing I can imagine. Kudos to you for having it come to you so naturally. I too, like to massage my man's scalp absent minded, and he loves it a lot. The fact that he loves it only makes me want to do it more.

Props for creating a non-sexual, yet incredibly intimate environment for you and your man :)

[–]Alejandrazx 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

And does he treat you with affection as well?

[–][deleted]  (1 child) | Copy Link

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