I have been in this undefined not-official-but-not-just-friends relationship for five months now. A while ago I asked you ladies how I can redeem my mistake of having sex before commitment. I hadn't even realized I wanted commitment from him when this all started. We were both just in it for fun.

I have been doing my best girl game using your tips and I am here to report that things are progressing really well!

For a while it was painful to let him lead, as he was used to being my "equal partner" in our business. I love to discuss and debate-- I will say something I want and expect acceptance or a counteroffer. He didn't play my negotiation game and would usually just give in. But not anymore. If it took all week for him to make a decision, I would still wait for it, and then affirm my trust in his choice. He resisted at first but quickly got the picture that I like his leadership even if I might make this or that decision differently. I listen to him, value his knowledge, encourage him, and serve him to the best of my ability. I've set my pride in my own wisdom aside to be part of a team that is more than the sum of its parts.

Here are the results I've gotten:

• Our creative collaboration together for the business has gone through the roof. We vibe so much better together now!

• When we are in private, he can't keep his hands off me. He loves to hold me, kiss me, snuggle me, tickle me, caress my hand, rub my back, and everything else. The sex has gotten more intense and frequent too. Touch is my love language, so I'm in bliss here!

• He lets me serve him sometimes, but tells me to relax and let him do it at other times. He told me that I bring value to his life just by being around him and talking to him.

• He feels open and free with me and has told me that many times. He can be flawed and human or have a controversial opinion and I won't think less of him. Because of this, we are closer than ever.

• He wants me to meet his family. He spent Easter with mine and my mom now calls him son.

• He tells me how he's lucky to have me and I am a blessing in his life.

• He takes more initiative than ever before and is more confident in telling me what he wants.

• He does considerate little things for me all the time, anticipating my needs before I do.

• He initiates new activities with me, like going to dance lessons. He finds a way to make sure we are spending time together every day.

• Today he thanked me for trusting in his leadership even though he sometimes makes mistakes at first. He said I inspire him and make him better.

This is becoming a really long post of all the wonderful things going on between us, and I could say more but that's all for now.

TL;DR the advice on this sub is solid if you want to progress happily in a relationship!

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