because you cant change the man you're with by nagging, talking, threatening, nagging, nagging, talking , talking talking talking talking talking, and we presume you're asking because you don't want to get divorced or break up, so we don't just tell you to next the man you're married to and have kids with, because life isn't that easy.
just because we tell you to look to yourself doesn't mean your man is 100% right, blameless, innocent and correct, but what are YOU able to do about HIS fault in the matter? you picked him, hes a discrete individual and an adult, hes the subject of his OWN universe, not an object in yours. relationships are a DYNAMIC, an equation, there's an interactive balance of behaviors.
we are ever only hearing ONE side of the equation, YOUR version, if your H or SO were here asking for advice we would tell him to look to what is HIS fault in the dynamic in the exact same way, but he isn't--only YOU are here telling us YOUR version of reality. We can;t always trust your version and no advice can tell you how to force your man to become someone else,, so what are we left with--YOU, how can YOU change to deal with it
this seems unjust to certain types of people, but this is OUR way of dealing with things, you came HERE for advice, not a different sub, with a different worldview
this is RED PILL women, its not a femininity sub or a clothes and hair sub or a cooking sub, its a sub specifically devoted to using redpill ideas and redpill knowledge to help your relationships with men. looking to your own part in a relationship issue FIRST is part of that.
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