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INSIGHTFULBe Light (notesfromaredpillgirl.com)

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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very good advice and something I have to work on a lot. It's very tempting, when you have a bf with a strong character, to lean on him a lot with all your worries and stresses. But sometimes it's enough just to lean on him being there, instead of venting and loading it all on him.

[–]tradmarriageftw5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's great advice. I never thought of myself as very negative, but for the New Year I decided to be more conscious of when I complain and instead find the positive things from my day. I started noticing things like when people complain how unpleasant it is to be the person complained to and how much happier I am to head to work having been focusing on the good things from previous days.

[–]ragnarockette5 Stars 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is a good idea. I am going to try and do a "5 good things diary" at the end of each day.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am constantly reminded of this excellent piece of advice.

My SO and I live together in an apartment. Above us live newlyweds of about the same age, maybe two or three years older. The walls are quite thin and I can hear the girl/woman nagging throughout the evening. I can't understand what she's saying, but it's a certain tone of voice that I am sure everybody would recognize. And wow - I do not want to be that kind of woman to my SO, or anybody really. It is rather off-putting.

So again, I am constantly reminded of this excellent piece of advice, and it creates awareness and actually makes it easier for me to be a center of positive, radiating energy

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Good stuff! I love my hubs because he is a vicious dragon slayer. He loves me most when he can get a reprieve from the slaying.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Or by letting him slay you. AY-OH!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Omg! I got a tag. What's it mean?!

[–]TempestTcup 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's our new baby flair :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sweet! Thank you! :)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

haha cute!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is good advice! I do find, though, that I sometimes go too far in the opposite direction -- as an introvert, I sometimes tend to bottle up my little problems rather than share them, and inevitably, this leads not to peace but to resentment. I realize this is MY problem, which has affected me throughout my life, in my relationships with family and friends too. I have to remind myself to tell my husband (in a calm way) about all the little problems affecting our household and kids, because if I leave him in the dark he'll feel excluded, and I'll start to get overwhelmed.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can relate to literally everything in your post. Very nicely put

[–]littleteafox 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too! When truly upset I tend to withdraw. I will communicate very little, hunker down inside myself and the hamster will run wild. Something I can work on, for sure! My SO is the opposite, he's a talker, which is probably a good influence for me.

[–]CautiousNarwhal 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I like this but why can you just be light for yourself. You slay dragons too. Calm down relax. Right?

[–]TempestTcup 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No one says that you can't; go for it! It's good advice for life in general.

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