What does it mean when a girl cries after sex? (self.asktrp)

submitted by MostAssistant

So, for the past couple weeks, i've been seeing this girl. Been on a few dates and we get along great. Last night, things got a little heated. We had the house to ourselves and after some wine, we slept together.

But afterwards, she just bursted out crying. Not sobbing or anything, just weeping. I mean, she seemed to be enjoying it, but i just can't figure out why she started crying. I couldn't understand her, but it sounded like she was saying that she hated herself and she said some pretty hurtful things to me. Something about how ugly my body was and it will haunt her forever.

I tried to console her, but she got mad, grabbed her clothes and left.

I have no idea what i did wrong. Why would she be crying like that?

[–]cbang65 240 points241 points  (12 children)


[–]Mescalean 66 points67 points  (5 children)

Too late. She decided after she didn’t like it. OP is now a rapist\s

All seriousness dude needs to get evidence together fucking quick that there was consent

[–]garrypig 16 points17 points  (4 children)

This is literally what happened to me. She tried to convince me the next day that I raped her and I kept telling her she gave me consent. She tried to blackmail me afterwards.

[–]ac714 8 points9 points  (3 children)

I read a story recently that a guy felt that he might be accused of rape based on something she said after sober and consented sex. He decided to report it to the school first and she was processed out even though she claimed he raped her.

Crazy world.

[–]garrypig 5 points6 points  (2 children)

The thing with the police is, if you say she’s going to report it, they’ll probably just arrest you anyways.

Get a lawyer, free consultation.

[–]ac714 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I agree. We don’t live in a world where doing the right thing alone will keep you out of legal or academic trouble.

[–]garrypig 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, to the police, they need to apprehend someone if there is potentially a crime. Which in turn, will require you to wait till trial or post bail.

These women have no fucking idea how big of a pain in the ass this shit is.

Either way, you probably end up getting fired, and burdening your peers.

But yeah, I definitely agree with you like 300%

[–]balanced-source 35 points36 points  (0 children)

He was set up

[–]Kenny_Twenty 1 points1 points [recovered]

Shut up, nerd.

[–]Decoasta9 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Can we get this troll banned?

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not trolling. Your advice sucks. For real. You're dumb. Seriously.

[–]ModTheRedPike[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

You again. Chill the fuck out.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suck my dick.

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 158 points159 points  (16 children)

She may have cheated for the first time. The first time is always the hardest.

[–]the-bro 51 points52 points  (0 children)

OP needs to consider this! If she doesn't seem crazy this could be why. Not to say she isn't cray though he needs to gauge it well

[–]NightTripInsights 18 points19 points  (1 child)

This had literally happened to me. Slept with girl in her college dormroom and she started crying. I told her to call me later and i left to let her deal with it after i made sure she enjoyed it (was pretty sure, she came a lot) but she confessed that she cheated on a LDR with me (we ended up dating and she gave everything, hypergamy in action).

[–]ac714 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s a special moment in a woman’s life when she can demote an LTR to an orbiter. Moving on up!

[–]orezavi 5 points6 points  (2 children)

She might have had sex for the first time. 🤷🏽‍♂️

OP needs to record consent though. And tell her he’s not comfortable with her crying instead of consoling her.

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Maybe, but they tend to get clingy during their breakdown, not pushing you away.

[–]orezavi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His consoling her demonstrated his beta-male side. She didn’t sign up for that shit.

[–]That1betaUknow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never ran into one with even a hint of shame. I'm super happy he actually did.

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This could be it. I knew a couple of young women who "confessed" to their BFs that they'd cheated by saying they were raped, and they just wanted to forget about it. The truth in these particular cases was that they we're ashamed and didn't want to take responsibility for their own decisions. Meanwhile their BFs wanted to go kill the other guy, but the GF needed to talk them down.

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 1 point2 points  (0 children)


Women shame women. They are pretty shameless when dealing with guys. In this situation, any crying or like behavior is more because they broke something they weren't sure they were done with yet. This exact thing has happened to me and it's also a very dangerous thing. If you are the bf/hubby, you MUST dump them immediately. If they get a whiff that they can have their cake and fuck it too, they will drain your resources while draining other cocks.

[–]peaceful_strong_man -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

Cheated? Both of them are fornicating. He said "he's been seeing her" and "been on a few dates."

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor -1 points0 points  (0 children)


[–]BluePillEltonJohn 94 points95 points  (6 children)

Weird, usually I’m the one crying, not her

[–]premeboi 66 points67 points  (1 child)

real nigga shit 😤

[–]Deathrow22 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Heads up KINGS don‘t let these THOTS hurt you😤😤😡😡

[–]ZeppKfw 9 points10 points  (0 children)

lmao 😂

[–]SilenceOnTheWire -3 points-2 points  (2 children)


[–]MYMOUTHISNUMmn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She likes using strap-ons.

[–]1atticusfinch1973 93 points94 points  (9 children)

I hope you have some sort of evidence there was consent. Might want to try getting some via text or call her and record the convo.

[–]MostAssistant[S] 11 points12 points  (8 children)

What kind of evidence?

[–]macheagle 87 points88 points  (1 child)

OP, are you seriously this oblivious to what’s going on? Have you been living under a rock for the last 3 years?

[–]icecruzader 47 points48 points  (0 children)

A text message that says you didn't rape her. More subtle than Hey, did I rape you?

[–]jas1989 38 points39 points  (6 children)

Something similar happened to me. The girl was cheating on her hospitalised bf with me, I didn't know about him. She told him I raped her, but it never went anywhere after I showed him messages we'd exchanged. They broke up and she tried to hook up with me again lol

[–]u-had-it-coming 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Did you take her offer on hook up again?

[–]jas1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nah, I'm not crazy. This was during my bluepill days but even then I wasn't that desperate

[–]macheagle 5 points6 points  (2 children)

The BF actually came looking for you? What happened and what did he say after you showed him the texts?

[–]jas1989 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Nah, he messaged me on facebook, he wasn't even all that aggressive toward me since I think he was skeptical anyway. I sent him screenshots of her telling me she couldn't wait to feel me inside etc etc and he didn't reply, then they broke up.

[–]macheagle 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That’s some nice bros before hoes action there haha. Good one mate.

[–]That1betaUknow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish women weren't like this, I really do. I understand abundance mindset and just move on, but let us all mourn once in a while. It's hard to not miss the idea of someone genuinely caring about you.

[–]WellShit23 69 points70 points  (8 children)

Look for a good Lawyer and Pray.

[–]throwawaybpdnpd 54 points55 points  (5 children)

There is nothing “normal” in this.

RUN FOR THE HILLS, this woman has definitely some kind of mental health disorder

High chance of: - anxiety - depression - borderline

You don’t want that... there were probably a few red flags that you ignored, next time don’t stick your dick in crazy

[–]That1betaUknow 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It may have been like the mod said her first time cheating.

[–]throwawaybpdnpd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She could be sad and feel guilty, that’s less of an issue; but the anger towards him is a huge red flag

[–]Kenny_Twenty 1 points1 points [recovered]

next time don’t stick your dick in crazy

You fucking incels love to repeat this. It's total horseshit. Dick slingers have been fucking crazy bitches forever. It's fucking great and I'll never stop.

If you had any actual life experience you wouldn't be saying this.

Fuck off, dummy.

[–]throwawaybpdnpd 8 points9 points  (1 child)

You sound butthurt, that’s cute

[–]Kenny_Twenty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whether I'm butthurt or not, you're inexperienced. That's why you don't know what you're talking about.

[–]SilenceOnTheWire 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I've known of women who feel that way and self harm after sex. Could be just low self esteem, could be that she wants to make you feel guilty to make you commit.

Either way she's crazy.

[–]1walawalawa 13 points14 points  (0 children)

happened once to me. The girl turned out to be crazy. She was emotionally all over the place and then did some stalker shit. Probably best to distance yourself from her...slowly.

[–]medoff 26 points27 points  (2 children)

OP has just been asking questions this whole time and not addressing the obvious. OP is either an idiot or trolling.

[–]donkeydodo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Probably new to redpill

[–]Moldy_Gecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? That's what asktrp is here for.

[–]Don_Draper27 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Ah, I remember when I first lost my virginity. Cute girl. Green eyes, big ass, nice smile.

Immediately after, she started crying because she felt bad for cheating on her boyfriend of 2 years..

Anybody else have an awkward experience losing their v-card or just me?

[–]MostAssistant[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My first was awkward. It was high school. Senior Year. It was with a girl that was percieved to be easy, real sweet but a bit of a tramp.

i was able to convince her. I just couldn't shake the thought she'd make fun of me for not knowing what i was doing. I didn't even make eye contact during it. At all.

She was incredibly supportive though.

[–]donkeydodo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Well, I know a dude who was rather attractive and a lot of girls wanted him, but he was a bit socially awkward and was too scared to make moves even on the girls he knew wanted him. Because of this he was a virgin

Long story short, this dude goes to Thailand with his friends, gets blackout drunk and wakes up on a bar, having a dwarf riding him, and a tranny standing next to him masturbating to it

[–]ZeppKfw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what the fuck 😂 I love trp

[–]iwanttoracecars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homies sister bruh lmao not even lying..

[–]RepostGhostCst2Cst 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Had this happen to me once. Chick was all upset that she gets drunk and just hooks up with dudes.

Yeah... She's a damaged lady

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's fucking bad news dude. She's broken, and probably a broken slut. Get out of there.

[–]molded_bread 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Congrats on your first rape. Time to lawyer up.

[–]Grantevans1987 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Would upvote this 100 times if I could. Fucking dying.

[–]jakethesnake5000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never had this happen. But I would friend zone her right after just to play it safe... might be a set up

[–]FalconWrite 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhh fiddily get a lawyer for false forced diddily

[–]RedHoodhandles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It means she's fucked in the head and you should run for the hills.

[–]markinsinz7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

100% bet your gonna struggle to get a positive confirmation of consent in any form "had a good time last night or bla bla". Likely false accusation coming prepare yourself

[–]Wakawakaheihei 8 points9 points  (3 children)

My girl cried twice during sex, but it happened because it was a beautiful moment to her

[–]morexel 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Seriously. What has happened to trp? I've had this happen to a few girls (not very common though.) All of them were after a more intimate session where she came pretty hard. Women are emotional sometimes.

[–]1rad_dynamic 3 points4 points  (1 child)

yeah, but with all the abuse she gave OP afterwards goes against the fact that she just came too hard.

[–]morexel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So op just a fugly mofo? Plausible.

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had that before.... and my honest advice: RUN

[–]Rkingpin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The other comments are spot on

She may have a history of abuse

She may be cheating

Either way she's fucking damaged. Don't contact her again.

Try to secure evidence this whole event was consentual

[–]CherryPieNCoffee 9 points10 points  (13 children)

Look at this mans r / truerateme lul

[–]alphabachelor 4 points5 points  (0 children)



[–]Ezreal3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha that explains his current predicament

[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I can't find it...wtf is it?

[–]CherryPieNCoffee 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Youre lucky then, the guy up there described him perfectly

[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Alright, thanks!


[–]CherryPieNCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I thought he deleted the post that’s why you couldn’t find it. If you are truly curious look at his post history he’s got some cute photos of himself

[–]MostAssistant[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

So? What's wrong with my appearnace?

[–]alphabachelor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nothing, Buffalo Bill.

[–]sehns 5 points6 points  (1 child)

The girl told you that your body was hideous and would haunt her forever. You mention on your truerateme that people say you look weird. You're getting this HUGE amount of feedback from people and you still haven't done something? Perhaps you have a learning disability, or at the very least you seem a bit naive.

Let me tell you in a way you can understand. You look like shit. You're fat, your whispy beard looks like unkept pubes, combined with your terrible choice of corrective frames (in your top left pic especially) you look like a serial killer incel. Whats worst of all is you aren't listening to peoples feedback. READ THE SIDEBAR. Put down the fast food, hit the fucking gym, learn how to properly trim your beard (or shave it off) and get Lasik, for gods sake.

[–]INNASKILLZ2K18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn...straight to the heart

[–]thegabescat 4 points5 points  (0 children)


[–]gigglesmcbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen photos of you. I'd probably cry if I saw you naked.

[–]leredditarmy5000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

man just reading this gives me insane anxiety. dude talk to a lawyer asap

[–]Cran78 2 points3 points  (1 child)

she is still into her ex, run like hell.

[–]genethedog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's broken. She feels deep shame. Sure, she can try and put it on you, but she feels disgusting inside. She was horny, this is a type of psychosis, she wanted you and she wanted it bad and once it was all over, all the excitement wore off and now she feels used, dirty, empty and she knows shes just added another N to her N Count and has basically nothing to show for it. She doesn't have what she wants because she doesn't know what she wants. She feels like you tricked her. You didn't, obviously, but remember women and accountability don't mix. Her hypoagency is kicking in.

If she tells a gf about you, she will say she didn't know what she was doing or why. She wont totally shit on you because that would be the same as admitting she had shit up in her cunt, but she will make sure that in her mind and in her friends mind you will have a lower SMV than her.

I had a hook up chick that would do this every time. She'd feel so gross and used and bad for cheating on her bf. She'd be sobbing until snot was coming down her face and there was no way to stop it. They almost always find a way to ruin a good time. She's probably BPD. Hopefully she's not a cop caller.

[–]zeekt12 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Lmao this thread is brutal, stop ripping on the man.

You’ll be gucci bro, just stay away from her, shes unstable fam

[–]FalconWrite 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We ain't ripping on him, we're sharing basic, easy and proven steps that can potentially save him from getting his ass ripped wide open in court

[–]DocPBJ007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes me wanna voice record all my convos before sex

[–]Sero-Flex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ima keep it real with you, it ain’t lookin good Chief.

[–]RDMgardy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yikes! I hope shes not setting you up.

[–]omeeezy 5 points6 points  (2 children)

You sure you didn’t rape her bro?

[–]MostAssistant[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)


[–]Nergaal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is she sure?

[–]Kpwn88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most probable scenario. She had her heart broken by a dude with a really nice body, and OP is out of shape. She was comparing them and is deciding she didn't really want to aka she was raped. The most you can do in this situation is keep your distance, and hope she disappears. If she sends any texts that imply she was a willing participant, don't delete them. Ever.

[–]soundnpound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that's an easy one. It means stay the fuck away, be grateful she removed her self and do not contact or reply to her messages ever again

Also, don't think too much about her insults, she was probably either (A) trying to play a power game ending in you feeling bad and seeking the approval she had previously shown (B) just bat shit, eratic and walking around thinking much worse things about herself all day, every day.

In either case, she was playing a character and just avoid it no matter what, especially if she becomes apologetic after you ignore her!

[–]Ricklogical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like you have some issues that can be fixed by what others have said.

That's great. Clean up and get fit.

[–]SICFJC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol op is a rapist

[–]JerryLawlerPigFace 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Did you use a condom?

[–]MostAssistant[S] -4 points-3 points  (4 children)


It was her idea. I tried putting one on but she made me throw it away because they "feel itchy".

[–]JerryLawlerPigFace 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You need divine intervention at this point.

[–]Kpwn88 2 points3 points  (2 children)

It was her idea. I tried putting one on but she made me throw it away because they "feel itchy".

You. Are. Fucked.

[–]JerryLawlerPigFace 3 points4 points  (1 child)

100%. I’m sensing a set of turkey tits on this guy that no mortal man has ever seen before.

[–]adviceaccount03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This shit made me laugh out loud

[–]Grantevans1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it’s been said already but prepare for the shit storm coming your way.

I suggest somehow getting some texts out of her that say she consented to sex. Because any moment now I reckon there’s gonna be false rape accusations flying at at ya.

[–]steed_jacob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She cheated.

[–]garrypig 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As with what everyone has said, this is a bad sign. Many of us have seen girls do this and then it turns into regret rape and then she accuses you etc.

Gather evidence, stop being around her, and good luck!

This has happened to me before, and I was blackmailed.

[–]Josh42A 1 point2 points  (7 children)

My wife did this the first time we had sex. She didn't get mad at me though but. She had some issues with the last person she had sex with and I reminded her why she had them. She's not crazy and we've been happily married almost 5 years.

[–]antariusz -1 points0 points  (6 children)

Enjoy the next 2 married years.

Crying because she misses the last dude that fucked her. But she’s trying to convince herself that her settling down with a more stable dude is what she “actually” wants.... And it works, for a time.

[–]Josh42A 1 point2 points  (5 children)

no she was crying because she had never been treated well in bed before. I'm the most stability shes ever had.

[–]antariusz 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Yep, just what women crave, stable, boring, predictable men to marry.

What subreddit am I on again?

[–]Josh42A 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I found a good one! She actually supports mens rights and hates feminists.

[–]antariusz 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Got yourself a real unicorn, congrats.

[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (1 child)

He finally found...The One!

[–]antariusz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s cool guys, she isn’t an alpha widow settling for a stable beta provider, she won’t divorce rape him when she gets bored, it’s all good, he’s married Neo.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i just can't figure out why she started crying. I couldn't understand her, but it sounded like she was saying that she hated herself and she said some pretty hurtful things to me. Something about how ugly my body was and it will haunt her forever.

You're out of shape, but have decent game, and game rules everything.

She's used to fucking athletic guys, and was ashamed once the orgasm wore off.

Go find a woman who's not such a selfish cunt. And hit the gym.

[–]128bitworm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, you're f**ked ... O_o

[–]BIGBIRD_eblazio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Missed that - avoid women with BPD at all costs.

[–]DadOnDabs 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]nebula79283 0 points1 point  (1 child)

This wouldn’t happen to be the women you met while volunteering right...? (Check his post history and scroll down a bit)

[–]MostAssistant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, this was just a woman i met at a bar.

[–]Tornadofob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be because she was a virgin. And she imagined her first time would be more magical or with some much hotter dude? I would think that’s why it would haunt her ‘forever’. Coz you always remember your first time.

[–]Wolveryn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol lots of unserious answers.. I had a girl do this a little bit sometimes. She tried to explain it was post sex emotions of joy...

Why don’t you ask her?

[–]civilizedfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU had sex with her cat.

[–]lydiafriedman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a chick who deals with other girls crying fake rape id say follow the advice almost everyone here has given. lawyer! i’m kinda intrigued to see where this all goes... sounds like you got trapped into being a babydaddy by a crazy thot

[–]Melanoma_man 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you should get the fuck out of there and contact a lawyer.

[–]kellykebab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, fix your grooming, style, and weight immediately. You look like a serial killer.

I'm sorry this girl was rude and reacted so insanely, but you do have kind of an insane drifter look going on. I'm sure that's partly what she reacted to.

"Do girls cry after banging Chad?" Of course not.

Surprised no one else took 10 seconds to look at your history.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFeralRed -1 points0 points  (7 children)

Who Cares.

[–]MostAssistant[S] -2 points-1 points  (6 children)

I do. Am i really so bad at sex, that a girl cries because of it?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFeralRed 9 points10 points  (4 children)


Stop trying to figure out what's going on.

Trying to apply logic to crazy just makes more crazy.

"Am i really so bad at sex" - I'm not going to pityfuck you, so I don't know. But it sounds like you're good at pityfucking yourself, so the answers you seek are inside you... deep inside... like 14 inch fisting dildo inside. Good luck, use lube.

Damn, I just saw your pics....

Nevermind, just gonna quote Weasel....

"You are haunting. Your face is the stuff of nightmares."

"You look like an avocado had sex with an older, more disgusting avocado. Not gently. Like it was hate-fucking. There was something wrong with the relationship and that was the only catharsis that they could find without violence."

"You look like Freddy Krueger face-fucked a topographical map of Utah."

Dude, fix your shit. You look like the stereotypical mommy's basement dwelling pedophile fat unwashed neckbeard gamer with a minor in catfishing little boys.

Yeah. I said minor.

[–]icecruzader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op: it might be because I'm bad at sex Coment: You can't fix other people!

He's trying to fix himself dude

Edit: I just saw his pictures. Dude shave that shit off, loose some weight. I don't know who this chick is but she has reason to be sad. Get an expensive haircut and fast OMAD for a week, send a picture to her of how you look and profit.

[–]MostAssistant[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

WHat's wrong with my appearance?

[–]bruiser18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mate you look fucking ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with your face, but there’s a lot wrong with how you make yourself look.

Shave that beard, get a haircut and get yourself in the gym. You would look absolutely fine if you do these things.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFeralRed 3 points4 points  (0 children)


You can't be serious.

You took the stereotypical hot guy meme, punched it in the dick, and decided to do the opposite of everything TRP instructs.

Troll or stupid, the song remains the same.

I don't think you had sex with anybody but your bodypillow. You're disgusting and you should feel bad.

[–]btrpb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're so bad at sex that you're going to prison.

[–]throwitdownman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. I’ve had an emotional plate who cries when she knows I’m with someone else, but never after sex. In my experience, she cried as she was emotionally and physically abused as a child. After she told me that, I smiled, and ghosted her the next day.

[–]Kommanderdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means you hard next immediately. She’s broken.