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I have been getting the most responses with this opener on Tinder (self.askTRP)

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[–]corsega8 points9 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

This is great advice. Too many guys waste time chatting for days on Tinder. I've had several girls tell me they loved my direct approach and every time I open a girl's Tinder after I smash her I see a bunch of conversations with guys that last 3+ days.

I even go more aggressive than you though, I just invite them over for dinner and then I know they're down to fuck (well, about 85% of the time they are). That way I don't even have to waste my time leaving my house to meet someone for coffee (I don't drink coffee).

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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Want to PM me some of your aggressive lines? I've got a few that work but lately my success has been dropping off. I don't know if it's because I have been home for the summer and the demographic is just not there or what.

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I'd be interested in this aswell. I often get their number, but they just suddenly stop answering. Often when I try to set up a date

[–]Ill_mumble_that1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Agreed fully here.

Tinder should be quick and simple. Don't try to have "Text game," that shit is for posers. You won't get her wet over texts.

[–]Borsao662 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This.

There is no such animal as "text game".

[–]corsega0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think text game can go both ways. If you have good text game, it can definitely improve your chances as well as build rapport/comfort.

However, the reason TRP often recommends texting for logistics only is that the majority of guys here are terrible at texting and likely to screw things up.

[–]RedPistola0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Do you invite them over in the opening message?

[–]corsega0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, I have another line that screens if it's OK for me to escalate. I'm not going to post it publicly because I'm tired of my shit being stolen and guys asking dumb questions about where they should go next, but if you're interested, PM me.

[–]IIlllIllIIIllIl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha, yea definitely don't. I tried a line I found here once, didn't work, and when you google it there's only one place it pops up. Let us learn what works.

[–]the_red_monk2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Simple and to the point. I like it. I don't use tinder, but if I did, this is what I'd do.

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[–]the_red_monk1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks. I'm old school and tend to approach in person. But, at some point I might give it a try.

[–]htbf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

every single goddamn photographer is looking for girls willing to do sexy photoshoots.

[–]huge_gap2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've upgraded this to "drinks?" with good results. It shows you're more sexual and cuts through all the bullshit a lot of girls like to throw. It also weeds out the attention-seekers and girls that want to make you "work" before they deign to have sex with you.

While coffee can work, drinks in my experience has a lot higher rate of taking the girl home and fucking after you first meet them.

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[–]huge_gap0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well with tinder I only text matches with "drinks?" If they say yes or want to flit a little I'll allow it, then ask what days they can do it. If date works, I tell them place and time (a bar 5 mins away, I usually switch between two or three to not be seen all the time at the same place with different women). I make sure it's only hours, a day or two out so that they don't forget about me or it. Then I stop talking to them unless they keep texting.

A few hours before the date I'll confirm and then meet up. During date always be sexual and escalate. I always try to sit at the bar because it's an excuse to sit close. I try to k close at the bar. If she denies me I'll try again in 10-20 mins. After a beer or two (depending on how I feel) I'll invite her to my place for drinks. After that, take her home, drink, kiss, escalate, bring to room, get in bed, bang.

[–]WellHello872 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How do you maneuver around the "maybe after we get to know each other" response?

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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I used to always grab the chick's number after she said "yes" and looked at it as a success / stepping stone.

WRONG.

Chicks give out numbers like Halloween candy now. And it's actually easier for you to get lost in a sea of all other dudes that have been doing the same thing. I notice most girls won't even add your name to the address book, so when you're texting with her, she just sees your number. Chances are, she forgets who you are anyway.

Keeping the convo through Tinder/Bumble allows her to see your name, your pics, and all those other things that gave her the tingles when agreeing to meet you.

If the initial meet goes well, then exchange numbers. I make sure to put mine into her phone for her. Provides for kino opportunity, plus it's a good chance to tease her if I see a lame app on her main screen.

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This is what I'm struggling with as well. What do you do after you set it up? You've established such a strong frame with this opener, do you build on it or do you just wait until the date? And if you wait, doesn't that increase the chance of flakes?

[–]FrameWalker1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Solid post. Now wheres the question?

This is the strategy I ran for 18 months. Its effective. Id like to add that you should be polite yet distant and avoid supplicating. They do all the legwork for you.

Had coffee w one girl for 35m before she gave me the look. I grabbed her kissed her and took her home. The sexual vibe is what you look for not buddy buddy mode.

[–]htbf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you sit next to your dates ? I tend to sit in front and it makes the move to the kiss difficult. I hate seeing the look, have her devour me with her eyes, and not being able to act it without standing up or having to lean in front of a whole godamn table.

[–]skoobled1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

During my most successful Tinder period (which was quite a while ago now...) my opener was "so, when are we going out for a drink" (minus question mark). This really filtered out the "maybes". I'd get a flat Yes, or a flat No

[–]TheRedStoic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretty much what I do in person during day game.

"Coffee" or "lunch".

Works great.

[–]play_time_is_over0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've been going for a 3-4 message setup on tinder butnso far it inly lands me 1/10 dates. Going to try this.

[–]Armydude190 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

What do you do to establish a good level of kino during a short date to at least end in a kiss?

I've been doing the long dates, they've worked well. Managed to bring 1 out of 3 girls to my bed so far. Others I've at least kissed or gotten a bit more.

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[–]Armydude191 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Come to think of it... my go to first date is to bowl 2 games and I'm already making out with the girl by the end. 2 games is maybe an hour at most.

But I have a lot of ways to establish kino then. High fives, whispering banter from behind while touching her shoulders, lightly pushing each other around.

I don't see much of that happening over coffee but I think I can adapt. I just like the fact that it's cheaper even though I split the bill at the bowling alley everytime.

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[–]htbf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

aren't you concerned that taking girls at the same spot will get you noticed as the guy with a different girl each day ?

[–]blackedoutfast0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you have a successful strategy/line that works well on Tinder or any other type of internet dating, never post it online. Especially something this easy and straightforward. I'm sure that dozens of thirsty lurkers have already jumped on tinder and started running this script into the ground. A week from now girls will start telling you that you're the 3rd guy today who asked them on a coffee date next week in the exact same way.

[–]Elfclan30-3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

also Omlala uses "what are you looking for?"

[–]corsega3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

That's a terrible line.

  1. You're on Tinder. Everyone is looking for the same thing.
  2. Girls will rarely be direct if they're looking for sex.

[–]RedSkeller2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

About a year ago that worked, usually it's the chick's line. Now if you're asking and you're the dude, shit goes cold quick. Anything even slightly awkward or uncomfortable would scare a young girl off.

[–]Elfclan300 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

ah, cannot remember the post, but he had pictures of the reactions...and they were good.

[–]corsega0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

OmLaLa's entire series of posts offers little value, because he himself is attractive and in good shape. He spends thousands of words going into every detail of what you should say online, but he's overthinking it.

If a woman matches with you on Tinder, it basically does not matter what you say.

I've tried out 20+ openers. Some have a bit more success than others, but at the end of the day, either she's going to meet you or not. It's 0 or 1.

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It's good because it instantly polarized the conversation.

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