This is place is getting silly.. it almost seems there are more new members than established members. And it really seems that many of our new members are instant experts after reading a few posts on the internet who then go on to post and post ad nauseum and get tons of things wrong.
Stop doing that.
I am just going to talk about a simple fundamental topic. an essential core of red pill. she doesn't love you the way you expect her to. she is incapable of that, and it is not reasonable for you to expect it.
All our lives, we were told someone will love you for you. That's a lie. You certainly can find love, tons of it, passionate love, nurturing love, forgiving love, and you can find it over and over again. But what you cannot find, and what does not exist is unconditional love. She does not love you for you, and she never will or can. She loves you for how you make her feel.
She loves you because of how other people in the room look at her when she is with you. She loves you because you are strong when she needs to yield and recharge. She loves you for the entertainment you bring, guitar, jokes, stories. She loves you for the security you bring, financial security, emotional security, physical security.
Relationships are work, everyone knows that. But the bullshit is that we were told the "work" is more communication, more understanding. t is not, it is more masculinity, it is more strength. She brings nurturing love to the table, a deeply feminine energy; that means you have to damn well bring the masculine energy to match it.
There is a balance, and if you act in a feminine way, if you regard the relationship as more important than she does; she will grow in masculinity to offset your weakness. And she will resent you for it. Be the 100 year oak tree in her life, be the strength and let her be woman. She will shower you in love. But you have to do the work. You do not have to do it perfectly, you just have to do it.