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My daughter goes to a small private, very liberal high school. In the city I live, it's just not feasible to send her to public high school. The faculty allow the kids to constantly change their names and identities. Her best friend is a girl who thinks she's a boy. I met the mother. She's a very nice hardworking woman.

There's obviously no father in the home. I've recently gotten full custody of my daughter and so I'll be driving her to and from school and appointments. Today, my daughter mentioned there was an event she'd like to attend with this child tomorrow, whom she referred to as a boy. I told her that the child is a girl and to please not refer to her as a boy to me. She got upset, probably texted the child and told her what I said, and now she's laying in bed miserable, says she doesn't wanna go and now I'm the bad guy. My daughter has been a hermit and needs ways to get out of the house and do things. I was ok with her hanging out with this girl, but I don't want to take part in this little game.

I know that society is pushing this ridiculous and abusive agenda and the parents buying it hook line and sinker. I just don't know why. I feel like I'm fighting an uphill battle and I'm going to hurt my daughter in the process. I don't want to start a problem with the school, because overall it's an amazing place with a curriculum that far exceeds anything a public school could offer.

If my daughter herself is gay, I'm totally fine with that. Although, deep in her heart I don't think she is. I used to find love letters to boys in her knapsack when she was in elementary school. In the end, I just want my little girl to be happy and healthy. I just don't know how to draw a line in the sand without hurting her. Where do I even begin?


[–]UEMcGill4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Romeo and Juliet comes to mind. The more you try to prevent, the more you'll drive them together. You're the best man in your daughter's life. Get out in front and lead on this one. Use WISNIFG and find out what she's thinking. She just might tell you if she trusts you.

[–]pprstrt0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

WISNIFG?

[–]drsherbert0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a book in the side bar. I forgot the title. Apparently, it's long but extremely insightful.

[–]zopiro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tell your daughter her friend thinks she's a boy but she's not a boy. She needs to know that there's a limit to fantasy and the imagination.

[–]2ndal-4 points-3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Why is this the line you want to draw in the sand? Why do you care if her friend wants to be a boy? What are you trying to protect your daughter from?

[–]drsherbert6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Because I live in reality. If the school and the parents want to pretend that this she is a he, that's on them. I am the only parent that's not playing along with this absurdity and because of that I am labeled an outcast. This notion that we can undo our biological makeup is completely insane and will only lead to hardship down the road.

[–]2ndal1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I fail to see how this is any of your business really. You're entitled to your views just as anyone else is entitled to theirs. You're right that this view may impact your relationship with your daughter.

Society is no different now than it was in the past or will be in the future. There will always be issues that rub certain generations the wrong way. You were on the other side of a few when you were her age, no doubt.

Your duty is to protect your daughter. In a few years she won't have to listen to you.

You should talk to your daughter like an adult and explain your reasoning. Not in a confrontational, hard ass way. "I told her that the child is a girl and to please not refer to her as a boy to me" sounds like drawing a hard line in the sand without any explanation or reasoning. Dig in deep with her. Tell her why you feel this way. Tell her why you think it is important. Then let her make the decision for her self. And be okay when those decisions she makes are not the same ones you would make and congratulate yourself for raising an intelligent and headstrong daughter.

[–]drsherbert0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sound advice. Much appreciated.

[–]drsherbert0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thing is. We've never in the history of human existence starting toying with our biology like this. How do people rationalize that aspect?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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