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Speaking of boundaries (self.marriedredpill)

submitted by Redpillbrigade17

Been reading some of the askMRP posts lately and it’s painful. Plus the OYS thread is a continuous head shaker.

GUYS:

  1. Some of you spend way too much time online going through all the OYS details. Talk about victim puke and beating your head against the wall. Oh my I’ve been such a beta it hurts so bad. Tell you what: more than 15 min. a day on reddit &posting shit long posts on this sub is beta !!

You all know what you need to do.

  1. She said this she said that. Who cares. If you write any post with “what do I say to this / she pinned me with this question.” you have not yet understood the basics. You =the prize means your sole job is to build an amazing life for yourself. Be a strong, confident, accomplished masculine man. Then the woman comes with her feminine beauty and fun and distraction and energy, and she complements you. Boom. That’s the mindset. If you can’t see it that way you need distance. You’ve been living with her for years, decades and routines sucked you in? Slowly get a break. Detach. Achieve perspective. Go see an old friend in an old town for a few days. Go do do a walking trek. Backpacking. Whatever. Then come back and you’ll see her with new eyes. Anything she does or says is cute. You’ll let her talk (you WANT her to talk - a quiet woman is a bad sign), and you’ll tease her and you’ll game her. That’s your job, that’s what she needs and wants. Make her do little things for you. Then maybe bigger things. If she has good ideas - great, adopt them. She must feel your strength of character and her hamster start working for you wondering “how do I serve him better? I want this man. How do I mess with his head ?” Eventually you’ll want much of that to be of course through sex - the most enjoyable kind of distraction for a man when it comes to what a female human can bring.

Read 16 commandments of poon every morning or every day before coming home from work. It could be as simple as that.

  1. Lift lift lift ? Of course - mental and physical benefits are fundamental. But don’t get stuck in your head with “I need to get my 8-pack or bench press 300 lbs then she’ll fuck me”. She’s way more interested in what you do with the gains &stamina from the gym, how you lead your life and how you dominate any of your social circles. Social game matters A LOT. Make a plan to take her out with another couple where you subtly or openly dominate the other guy (not like an asshole, but like a true leader worth following). Like one of the people who work for you or something. Have her see you in some leadership/ competent role. That will give her the tingles and subconsciously tell her you’re the alpha dog way more than your muscular Rambo ass getting distracted by your own look int the mirror now that you have biceps guns. Women work on another dimension and they will smell that kind of weakness and “in your head”/ self consciousness a mile away. Of course the muscles will help you ONCE in the bedroom, and will certainly make you more fuckable to her, and sex way more fun, but it’s nowhere near enough. You MUST get social.

and lastly boundaries:

  1. Other posts/questions are “how do I punish her for this”. Punishment doesn’t work. Think in terms of rewards and when it comes to negative consequences the only ones that matter (ie boundaries )are ones you can 100% control. Like remove yourself from a situation. Or not spend money on X. You cannot act like a judge / law enforcement type if you’re trying to game and attract her and get her to bed. That type of behavior is dry, unsexy and reeks of insecurity. Stop trying to control her. Quit that shit and focus on being an attractive, fun, good, tough man who rewards his lady with his time and affection- when she’s fun and engaging to be around. Otherwise you have better things to do.

[–]Vader_os11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You WANT her to talk - a quiet woman is a bad sign

Could you elaborate that or point me some directions to that thought?

[–]Redpillbrigade17[S] 14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

For women talking is a way to connect and to emote. They’re wired differently than us. Look at how she talks on the phone, or in person with her mom, her sister, or her girlfriend. They can go on and on for hours. Then she just feels better. Not to mention when she’s PMSing. Observe the fact that for her to talk (and have someone to talk to) is a LOT more important than what she is actually saying. Go back to Rollo’s “the medium is the message “ piece - he says it way better than I do.

So bottom line you need to walk that fine line between (a) her expressing emotions and talking random stuff to you, where you listen and engage with underlying feeling expressed more than the content - up to a point: (b) when you have better things to do and will display higher value when eventually you move on, and do something else. Stay too long to listen and you become the beta emotional tampon - not good. You’re her rock when she needs someone to steady her straight. Talking does that for her, she’ll see you as her rock if you show good listening skills.

Lastly - basic stuff: in most situations do not give in to temptation to offer solutions to her whatever problems, even if she seems she’s asking you to. It’s rare that she actually needs help with something. Most times she just wants to subconsciously tell herself that you were there for her and you acknowledged her emotions. That’s true listening and understanding Womanese.

[–]johneyapocalypseTold Death to Fuck Off - MRP is easy mode3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

... a quiet woman is a bad sign

I was going to say "blah, blah, blah" you're as whiny as the rest, but that's actually a good quote.

A quiet woman is a bad sign.

You speak to the thread as though it's populated by a bunch of weak-willed, whiny, pathetic fags - like ask - and hey, lately it is.

Two gold stars for you.

[–]InChargeManMRP APPROVED7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Punishment doesn’t work.

Spankings work pretty well at my house...

[–]ParaXiloin limbo of fuckarounditis4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm so glad I saw this before I posted something stupid on r/askmrp

Back to work.

[–]mundocordePussy Galore2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too!

[–]Brutally_Destroyed4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well written sir

[–]Chump_No_MoreHard Core Nuclear Navy Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Boundaries... if you're using words, then you're doing it wrong.

You maintain boundaries by maximizing value and minimizing drama. Have something they want that is not given away freely and put up with zero bullshit.

If you are owning your shit, then you can give zero fucks with impunity.

The Myth of the Good Guy...

There is no Alpha with a side of Beta, there is only the man who’s genuine concern is first for himself, the man who prepares and provisions for himself, the man who maintains Frame to the point of arrogance because that’s who he is and what he genuinely merits. There is only the Man who improves his circumstance for his own benefit, and then, by association and merit, the benefit of those whom he loves and befriends.

That’s the Man who Just Gets It.

[–]TheNoncaringMurse2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks

[–]roberthenri4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Women work on another dimension

No, they don't. Women are teenagers. They lack the emotional maturity of an adult male. They are not telepathic and believing they are is putting them on a pedestal.

Punishment doesn’t work.

Yes, it does. Save it for the worst offenses. If she acts like a child you spank her like one.

[–]Redpillbrigade17[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

You’re missing the point. Understanding female human nature is not al all same as “putting them on a pedestal” (worshiping, seeing as more valuable etc.).

And as far as punishment, again you’re off the mark. If you use physical violence against either women or children you do it either (a) in anger (very bad idea as we know to let your emotions drive you to do power hungry insecure things like that); or (b) calmly and deliberately -which is again a bad idea, as there are a lot of better, more effective ways to discipline someone. Plus “spanking” can be brought against you in an ugly way in court - remember this is the 21st century, not medieval China. It could negatively affect your child custody claims, for example.

The only place for spanking is in the bedroom in the heat of passion, when she’s into it and there’s nothing like getting her tight sweet ass red, and faster to mind-blowing orgasms.

[–]BigGayGainz6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Months ago my wife suggested I do my own laundry I responded that at least it would get done that way. She jumped on me like a spider monkey. Clawing, biting and really viciously pulling on my junk. In the six years prior she had never done something like this, never even intentionally hurt me (physically lol). Nor had I ever put my hands on her in anger. This night I was dealing with an animal. I rolled her over and paddled the hell out of her (three hard ones). She laid on her stomach and cried for twenty minutes. Long enough for me to clean the blood off myself change the shirt she tore up and come to grips with the fact that I had to hit my wife like an oversized toddler. Best thing I ever did. I could tell how relieved she was, that her tears were as much about relief as pain. She has been very good to me since despite my faggotry.

[–]Redpillbrigade17[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Pretty much. Memorable moment when Nietsche’s Zarathustra goes to the old woman and she shares with him a secret. “You go to women? Don’t forget the whip!”.

[–]BigGayGainz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nietsche and redpill is a powerful medicine.

[–]roberthenri1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Understanding female human nature is not al all same as “putting them on a pedestal”

Saying things like, "women work on another dimension" is implying they are beyond understanding which is not true at all. Women are very simple, they are just fully grown teenagers. Far better to approach things from that perspective than to apply some kind of otherworldly aspect to them.

You can't live life thinking about all the "what-if" scenarios. If a woman wants to fuck you over in court she can do that with or without you being physical.

Bottom line is most women have been looking all their lives for someone who is man enough to call her out on her shit, put in her place and discipline her. I find that spanking is effective for that, and she'll probably love you for it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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