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What my mother blessed me with.

I grew up dirt poor without a Father. I had terrible examples of men inserted in my life time and time again by my branch swinging mother. One thing I was blessed with was the ability to understand humans and their behavior.

I watched my mom swing branches for over a decade until she found a man to take care of her who was well off and owned multiple properties had a pension and was generally well off.

From a very early age I knew that women were hypergamous and would always take a better opportunity if it were presented to them.

Enough backstory.

I was blessed with struggle:

Being abandoned by my mother from an early age for weeks at a time and being raised by my siblings and their friends taught me that I had to become one with loneliness and thankful to those who gave me their precious time, lessons, and resources for my benefit.

Being hungry. I mean actually hungry. My mom abandoned us to live with her boyfriend(s) and would check on us every five days, six days, two weeks… She would leave my older sister with a book of food stamps and sometimes pay the electricity and water bill. Being hungry taught me that I had to get it for myself.

At the ripe age of 11 we were killing our pet rabbit and using the shake and bake in the cupboard to season him. The shake and bake and flower and a couple spices were the only things in our cupboard for two weeks. After days of trying to mix flour sugar and water together and make “bread” and begging strangers for money we decided to kill the rabbit and eat it.

A couple days later we walked the couple miles to where my mother was staying with her boyfriend and his family. She was drunk from the night before. Her boyfriend wanted to know what we were doing at his house. We told him we just wanted the food stamps and we would leave. We got in her purse and their was only the “ones” left. She was still drunk and we could not talk to her. My older sister asked my moms boyfriend why all of our food stamps were gone. We didn’t have any food in our house and she just got these food stamps. He said that they had been barbecuing and spent most the money on steaks and that she had got him some groceries. This guys fridge was full, like overflowing full, his cupboards had more food than I had ever seen in one house. We called our Father and his mother to ask for help. They called CPS, we only wanted groceries.

This taught me a very valuable lesson. My mother could give a fuck less about me. The woman who taught me what I should think about women showed me that no matter what, they would always choose what was best for them.

We sent my little sister to Taco Bell to beg people for food and we would split five ways whatever she came back with. We also stole and begged a lot.

Some lessons I learned from some of the branches that my mom swung to.

**The Cop-**This man was around when I was quite young. Some of my earliest memories are of this man beating my brother and I relentlessly in the middle of the night. Literally coming in and yanking us out of our beds and beating the shit out of us. Often with a belt. This man taught me that you should never trust anyone and that those in power are often the most cruel. I can wake up at the drop of a dime, a dog sleeping at the foot of my bed is the only thing that allows me to sleep heavily through the night.

The kickboxing instructor- Taught me how to fight, to mercilessly destroy your opponent at all costs, groin shots, eye gouging, whatever it takes. Knives, guns, whatever it takes, the only thing that matters is that you win and never let another man best you especially when your life depends on it.

Cruelty. This man taught me that humans are inherently evil and that there are no limits to the evil that men can do. This man molested my sisters and beat my brother and I relentlessly for years. I learned to never trust anyone. I have only lost one fight in my life, out of the hundreds of altercations that I have been in growing up I have never been severely injured. I have quickly and effectively dealt with violent and dangerous situations more often through fighting but through intelligent retreat as well (usually when guns are involved).

The Mason- This man was in my life for a short period of time. In and out for about a year. He was a bodybuilder. He taught me that if you want to fuck women you have to be in great shape. At twelve years old he bought me an olympic ez-bar and weights. He also bought me dinner ( a hundred dollar lobster dinner) for quitting smoking. He taught me to pass on what little you know to the next generation, regardless of whether they are yours or not. The weights helped me fight, a lot. In high school I was able to get so many girls to blow me that my older brother and his friends were often jealous at how many girls I could pull. This guys name was Joe, and although he was a piece of shit he blessed me with lifting which I have never stopped since that day.

The superintendent- This was the highest branch she could ever swing to. Actually the father of her previous boyfriend. This man taught me work ethic. He worked harder than anyone I have ever met. I learned that you could own anything you want as long as you are willing to pay the price. This man taught me that my mother was worthless, I knew it, but when he kicked me out and I had to sleep on a park bench in a dangerous area full of drug addicts it really set in. I begged her to help me, that I was scared and I needed her. She told me “There is nothing I can do for you.” I was 14. This blessed me with an inner strength and a drive to never fail. I have never from that day been in a position where I could not pay my own way. I told myself that I would never sleep in a place where I was unsafe again.

There are many others that I have derived many lessons from but it would be an exhaustive list to go through them all.

What I took away:

I have created a life for myself and my sons that is like nothing that I have experienced. They know nothing but security and the only examples of “men” allowed in their lives are ones that I have throughly vetted. I have invested heavily in my education and am starting a new job soon that pays $100,000+ a year without traveling. (I made more than that before but I was never home.)

I dropped out of school by 7th grade (I continued through to 9th grade which I repeated 3 times before I ultimately quit). I taught myself from books to get a GED. I then went onto go to college. I am one math class away from my AAS. Which I have studied while working and raising my sons, not for my career, solely for my need to be a better more intelligent man.

I have learned to lead by example. I make mistakes all the time. I reflect, problem solve and keep pushing forward(upward). I try to become a better version of myself everyday and I pass that knowledge onto my sons and those around me.

All my friends are either in prison or degenerate filthy drug addicts. I do not do drugs and never have. I control my drinking like a man and never lose control anymore, my twenties were another story. I have stopped associating myself with any negative people.

Some of the negatives and maybe some positives:

I treat women the same as I do men. Only for what they are truly worth. I can and have slain so many vaginas that women are truly of zero value unless they have actually built value in their lives and themselves. My wife knows this, and is constantly trying to improve my life through her positive behaviors that affect me. I am happily married, but my eyes are wide open. I am truly ready to drop her like a rock if the need arises, she is eerily aware of this, and acts accordingly.

I have finally become a man that I am proud of. I feel like I am still at the bottom of the mountain, but I am always climbing.

My “Fathers” entire line is dead now other than my sons and I. It has released me from an obsession to have a positive male mentor in my life and truly allowed me to get over my past.

I have forgiven all of those who have wronged me and written them into my history, none are allowed in my future.

TLDR: Search exhaustively for lessons from positive male role models and examples of positive behaviors and insert them into your being to become the best version of yourself.

There is lessons to be learned from everyone. Sometimes how to act, sometime how not to act.

Struggle is the chisel that you craft your coliseum with.

“So many women, so little time.” Gramps.

Edit: Thanks for all of the love.

I explained this to a guy I went to college with, when he asked why I was always so positive about other mens work and never had anything but good things to say even when some peoples speeches were garbage or their skills were lacking. Always lift you brothers up never put them down. It's amazing what a man can turn into with the right words of encouragement. None of us were born with inherent value, we have to build it, and in turn build each other.

I tried to reach all of you that messaged me. I am not really keen to give you my personal info, start a chat maybe we can get to know each other first lol.....

And to you haters-Suck it()()---------))))


[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I always liked people that could make lemonade out of some bitter lemons. That is a hard path you have trod.

On the other hand, be cautious of unrealistic, or, over optimistic thinking when you say things like:

Always lift you brothers up never put them down. It's amazing what a man can turn into with the right words of encouragement.

You did not have those benefits. You learned from hardship. Help others embrace the hardships, rather than....

...never had anything but good things to say even when some peoples speeches were garbage or their skills were lacking.

Don't take the lemons away from other men with disingenuous praise.

Nice post. Keep at it.

[–]Rian_StoneHard Core Navy Red5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My “Fathers” entire line is dead now other than my sons and I. It has released me from an obsession to have a positive male mentor in my life and truly allowed me to get over my past.

Funny, this is the one part I best resonated with. It's sad that my dads side is all gone (sans one cousin, but he's probably not long for this world) but freeing at the same time. no chips means there is never a chip on my shoulder.

Hopefully you're getting to the point where you can look back and enjoy the empire you built.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It was sad in the beginning. Then as a I reflected on the time I wasted fantasizing about having some relationship with him, some day, I realized I had to put childish things away.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

now THAT is someone with an internal locus of control

great shit bro

[–]trp_dudeHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not just that. This is a perfect example of showing vulnerability from a position of strength. This is what "Models" talks about--show your vulnerability without an iota of shame or weakness. "This is who I am, and I am comfortable with it." No wonder he slays pussy.

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Awesome post, thanks for sharing!

To be a man is to have the ability to do what is needed rather than what is wanted, and to do so without an expectation of appreciation.

I have created a life for myself and my sons that is like nothing that I have experienced. They know nothing but security and the only examples of “men” allowed in their lives are ones that I have throughly vetted.

So these negative things happened to you, and you learned from them and thrived because of relying on yourself and never giving up. If you're providing everything for your sons, in a secure life, do you think it will affect them negatively compared to the results you attained in pretty much the opposite scenario? What is your plan to make sure your sons make it to adulthood as winners?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A lot of physical trials, mainly sports, wrestling, BJJ, and Muay Thai. Having them set goals for their physical, mental, and spiritual growth and attaining them will be a good start. My wife and I have thought about starting a boy scout troop to help them build skills. I am kind of a hard ass to I have high expectations for people and they will be no different. I also am a pretty adept teacher and trainer, I have many years of experience training and leading men.

I do not believe raising children in a stable environment is bad for their development. I think being a lazy piece of shit example is bad for children, and letting children act like little cunts is even worse.

I issues to fix in my own life to grow into a better person but what I show them is nothing but what I deem to be a great example for them.

Thanks for reading.

[–]jeeptrickery4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How are your siblings now?

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well done dude.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockPlaying the lead roll2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Struggle is the chisel that you craft your coliseum with“

Great shit right there.

Yep, the “Hard” is what makes it great.

Thanks for this post.

[–]grhmjck2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Very inspiring story. It's so easy for people to grow up with these situations and just become another version of the abuse they experienced. Great stuff brother, I take my hat off to you.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, I saw a comment from someone that said no one grows up like this. I laughed, everyone I know grew up in similar shitty situations, mostly not as bad, but some worse.

[–]fuckmrpMRP APPROVED2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No there's plenty of us out there. Worse beating I ever received started with having rubbing alcohol poured in my face so I coudn't fight back effectively, I was maybe 14. Never had shit I didn't steal as a kid and was working fulltime by 16. I've learned the difference between suffering and struggling is the willingness to fight back at all costs.

At the end of the day this "struggle" is the outcome of abuse. And that abuse comes with the blessing of owning your shit at a very young age. It also comes with many curses that take a lifetime to undo. I still to this day must maintain an awareness of the chip I carry on my shoulder to prevent my past "story" from dictating future action. Best of luck to you bro.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well spoken. I never let anyone step on my toes, I’m not having it. On the other hand I’m not going to prison over some dipshit.

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is a wise approach.

[–]JDRoedellMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Impressive, brother. Taking in the burden of performance when already standing in a 4 foot deep pit of shit. Props to you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks.

[–]Tebulus1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Excellent post, thank you for writing. This is my favorite:

I have forgiven all of those who have wronged me and written them into my history, none are allowed in my future.

If you can do that after everything that happened, you are a man.

What is your relationship like with your mom now? Has she changed at all? Was any legal action taken against the cunts that abused/molested your family?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nothing ever came of the abuse, no one ever saw any penalty whatsoever. The guy that molested my sisters died alone, he shot himself in the face after he became extremely depressed in his later years. My mom has changed completely in the way that I interact with her. I treat her like a child. She is the same person she has always been. She knows if she shows bad behaviors I will never let her see my children though, so she does what she is told.

[–]ArdAtak 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Quite moving and well written. Thanks for sharing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for reading it.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I get what you are saying and all. Let's see what happens next.

[–]throwawaysarenotok1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Always lift you brothers up never put them down.

What about people that are inherent shitheads and talk shit for no reason? Why the hell do I need to be nice to a hater?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You do not. It can actually disarm them when you are stoic in the face of their BS. If they are a bully, step on their neck, fuck them.

[–]throwawaysarenotok1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Would you recommend engaging them or ignoring them? Engaging them seems like a losing proposition because it seems they are just looking for a reaction, but sometimes it’s hard to walk away.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I let words roll off my shoulders. But when it’s clear that violence is going to happen I act immediately. To wait when it is clear someone is going to attack you is nothing but cowardice.

[–]kineticgrower 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Great post! I appreciate you sharing.

It has released me from an obsession to have a positive male mentor in my life and truly allowed me to get over my past.

This really struck a chord in me. Throughout my life I have always had this drive and curiosity to learn from/read about positive male mentors for guidance in shaping my foundation. It is likely what led me to this thread.

The past couple of years or so life has changed a great deal(married, 2 little boys, career change)and I have struggled with self worth. I have passively perused mrp and reached out to the couple solid friends/big brothers for insight and it has all seemed "empty," even when on point.

Now is the time to forge who I want to become by looking inside. Leave the nonsense in the past. Stop fucking browsing for life advice. What I stand for and the man I will become will be a product of my work. Prioritize, set goals, and bust ass. Thanks man!

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