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Big Fish (self.marriedredpill)

submitted by Rollo-Tomassi

The Essay:

https://therationalmale.com/2018/06/18/big-fish/

Excerpts:

Big Fish and the Cookie Lady

There is a larger dynamic at play in all this, one I probably could add an addendum to in my second book, Preventive Medicine. An aging Beta male, and particularly one with a notable amount of money, success, fame or status is a big fish for a necessitous woman. A woman who’s long practiced in using her sexual agency to its best advantage with men knows a prime target in an older man who’s never unplugged himself from his Blue Pill conditioning. Bourdain was one such big fish, and his Blue Pill conditioning, his eager white knighting and immediate deference to the feminine, his soul mate idealism would’ve been instantly recognizable to a 42 year old woman long accustomed to being the center of orbit for many a prior Beta.

I don’t want to call it an epidemic, but there is a set of women who look for aging men with resources to befriend and pretend they have a genuine interest in. Men with even moderate means and a Blue Pill conditioned idealism that ‘love springs eternal’ are prime targets for women who can read and assess that man’s state from years of practice. A woman who shows interest in a man who’s been starved for affection, sex and a real connection with a woman (married or not) will seem like more than an oasis in the desert. She’ll appeal to his romantic, idealistic Beta soul; a last chance at ‘true happiness’, a true miracle, as he enters his old age.

My own father was one such target for a woman we called the ‘cookie lady’.

My dad passed away from complications of Alzheimer’s/dementia before he was 72, but before his dementia had really become apparent the ‘cookie lady’ had already made a mark of my dad. My father was also what I’ve called a terminal Beta. He never unplugged to his dying day and lived a life based on the old set of books, being a good provider, dutiful, responsible and he was perpetually disappointed by the women in his life never reciprocating with their intimacy and appreciation the ‘rules’ clearly stated should happen. They never loved him in the way he thought women ought to be capable of loving him. Nevertheless, dad always clung to the (noble?) belief that if he saved his pennies and was of the highest service to women that eventually, one day, his efforts and quality would be appreciated by the right woman. He was a good example of the Savior Schema.

The ‘cookie lady’ understood all of this – all of dad’s Blue Pill conditioning, the way he thought the world and women should work, the old social contract investments, his idealism about women, everything – all of it in less than a week. She really wasn’t all that different from my step-mother in that respect, but at this late in the game, at her age, and noticing the subtle hints of cognitive degeneration in dad, the stakes were much higher for her long term security. I should also add that I would include my own mother in this schema; she’s a lovable loon, but she knew a good opportunity for security back in the 60s, so it may be my father had a knack for attracting this type of woman due to his Blue Pill idealism.

The reason we called this woman the ‘cookie lady’ was because she always brought my dad fresh baked cookies when she was trying to play into his Blue Pill end-of-life last ditch hope for happiness. We never knew her real name and if it hadn’t been for my dad getting very upset with us for preventing him from rewriting the ‘cookie lady’ into his will and power of attorney within the first month of her ‘dropping by’ we may very well have been suckered into her scam too.


[–]Slipstream17X5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The early part of the published version of this, on Anthony Bourdain, is outstanding. I had thought of him as an alpha male and couldn't understand his suicide - but your take on it makes a lot of sense. The 'timeline of events' excerpt from Twitter is illuminating also.

Beware oneitis. Beware blue pill, happily ever after, she's the one thinking.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

As a man the age you discuss, RP aware is a bitter sweet knowledge. So many men my age do suicide out, some die pulling on the harness, most just zone out and wait out the grim reaper. AB was one version, then the Las Vegas shooter was another version of ending the Blue Pill pain.

[–]drty_prMRP APPROVED7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I find plugged in men in the 50+ range a sad sight. Little to no chance of ever opening his eyes to the realities of intergender dynamicsnin the 21st century.

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

all that experience and so little awareness

[–]fuckmrpMRP APPROVED5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

meh, 1 year repeated 30 times is not experience.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

1 year repeated 30 times

add...each year repeated more slowly due to age.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Little to no chance of ever opening his eyes to the realities....

The problem is that most of them will find no happiness in the short time they have left on this earth. Having only 10 or more years left of life is an immutable reality. With so many years of believing the BP dream, the BP lie, finding RP can be an even quicker trip to ending it all. No matter how alpha a man is, much like AB, the realization of the true nature of the intergender dance, is, for some men, better left unseen. You can't open their eyes, because they "can't handle the truth".....and they know it, or, as it appears, they chose not to know it.

[–]Rian_StoneHard Core Navy Red3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fuck, I have met guys in their early 30s who are just missing seniority to get to that desperate place. It's kind of sad to watch.

then their wife starts to flirt with me, and I just laugh.

[–]hack3geMRP APPROVED2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

At some point I plan on sending the coworker who hit on my wife and caused the events for me to find this place a bottle of scotch and a note that says "Thanks for saving my life."

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Rewarding an alpha for being an alpha, pointless. Become more like him, keep and enjoy the scotch for yourself.

aka Mental point of origin....

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMRP MODERATOR2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Excellent article. The thing that concerns me, and really more from a wider perspective, is that there are female predators out there.

Witness the cookie lady. Witness what u/Dream_21 went through with Medusa - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HlqoC3SKIxA

There are predators out there. Best to be prepared. Teach your sons right.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Aren't they all about 85% predators when given the opportunity?

[–]Rian_StoneHard Core Navy Red4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

whoa there, Mrs. Clinton. they are economically disadvantaged is all

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

they are economically disadvantaged is all

Economically disadvantaged = dependent on male intervention

or, short version. dependapotimus

[–]Rian_StoneHard Core Navy Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was making a joke on the clinton "super predators" thing.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMRP MODERATOR3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

AWALT. But it's a spectrum. Perhaps 15% are good, 70% are neutral but opportunistic, and 15% are vile predators.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Corrected..... :)

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