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Essay:

https://therationalmale.com/2018/02/26/what-makes-a-man/

Excerpt:

The Feminine-Correct Paradigm

Since the most recent school shooting in Florida, the focus on what constitutes masculinity has come to the forefront of our social consciousness. What exactly is masculinity they keep asking, and then provide definitions that only have meaning to a social order that’s founded on female social dominance. They are definitions that most men heard repeated constantly as boys from their overwhelmingly female-taught and feminine-primary educations. Since the beginning of the Sexual Revolution and the rise of Fempowerment boys and men are expected to grow up into a female-defined masculinity. Boys are acculturated in contexts that feminize them, yet we are meant to believe that all the horrors of Patriarchal masculinity are still being taught to them today:

Two decades ago, the psychologist William Pollack wrote that boys start out sensitive but through a “shame-hardening process” — told to stop crying, to be a man — they learn to hide what they really feel. And if they don’t know or understand their own feelings, how can they care about anyone else’s?

This has become something of a cliché. And the truth is, there’s no single culture of boys, but many. In my memories of adolescence, beneath the constant ribbing and occasional pyromania, we had tremendous affection for one another. And we longed to connect with women with an intensity that was difficult to contemplate.

This was a quote from Real Men Get Rejected Too. It’s a good illustration of the paradox masculinity presents to parents and educators. The idea that boys are these sensitive delicate souls who, through the evils of their Patriarchal (typically male) upbringing, are conditioned to become ‘macho’ violent men is a popular trope. After Nikolas Cruz killed 17 kids at school it was the go-to rationale. “Boys are brought up to be violent gun-loving beasts thanks to a perpetuated misogynistic culture of men” or some variation of this is common. It’s an easy, digestible, info-bite that sounds right because we’ve heard it for so long. If only boys we’re taught more like girls to get in touch with their emotions and were vulnerable in expressing them we could avoid these male-created tragedies.

That’s the pretense we’re supposed to believe – and it’s important that a larger society does believe in the inherent evilness of masculinity if the Feminine Imperative is to maintain social dominance. But the truth is boys have been systematically feminized for the past 3-4 generations. Boys are taught like defective girls. Since the 1970s it is increasingly women who have dominated academia from kindergarten to doctorate degrees. The entire western education system is founded on a feminine-primary, feminine-defined teaching methodology. In the process of advantaging girls to the utmost efficiency in school (to fempower adult women) the educational atmosphere had to be defined by what best served girls. School and teaching became ‘for girls’ and the educational landscape shifted to teaching styles that girls were most benefited in.

In that shift the idea that boys might be disadvantaged had little bearing, but overtime the conditions of teaching ‘to girls’ defined the teaching style as the correct style. In fact, teaching in a way that girls learn best, and disciplining boys for not learning this way, is no longer a style – it is just the way children are taught. Boys and men today are the product of female teachers who actively advantage girls at the expense of boys. So normalized is this teaching that boys disrupting the advantaging of girls in class is something we’ve decided needs to be medicinally curbed. Boys being boys is diagnosed as an illness and drugs are prescribed so as to sedate them long enough for the girls to learn.

This focus on empowering girls isn’t limited to the classroom. In every form of early childhood through adolescent media, music, social networks and social exchanges this theme is continued; girls have the future in their reach, boys are potential rapists and criminals if they don’t fall in line with female-correct way of how things just are. I get asked a lot about what I think defines Blue Pill conditioning and I’d say this ambient social theme of fempowerment is a strong basis for it. Boys are not taught this old-school, much-feared Patriarchal masculinity, they are bombarded with themes of how masculinity is incorrect, laughable, and a shameful ‘act’ that boys have to put on to cover the ‘real’ female-correct versions of their sensitive selves. Boys are taught from the earliest age that being a boy is an incorrect mask, while being a girl, learning like a girl, emoting and relating like a girl is ‘real’ and the correct way of developing a personality.

Who would ever want to be a boy when so much is rewarded and praised about being a girl? There’s so much more advantage to be had if you’re a girl. As early as five years old boys are deliberately taught to loathe their own gender, but they are also being taught a redefinition of what a female-correct form of masculinity should be for them. The best they could do would be to become female to the best of their ability. They learn they must agree and support girls’ empowerment, identify with the feminine and above all, despise the parody of masculinity they are shown is ‘illegitimate’ and inauthentic.

Boys are systematically taught to make women and womankind their Mental Point of Origin. This is why it is so difficult for men to unplug and abandon their old Blue Pill selves; feminine-primacy was literally conditioned into them since they were kids.

Nikolas Cruz, like many other teenage shooters is the product of this feminine-primary education system, not a Patriarchal “teach boys not to cry” machismo school. He is a monster of their creation; one taught to cry on demand and emote like a girl. He’s the result of a participation trophy mentality that demonize men and masculinity to the point that he never learns how to bounce back from defeat, rejection or simply life’s adversities. No men and no masculinity is available to teach that kid how to harden up and be resilient, or how that masculine discipline is not bullying or hazing, but a necessary part of a boy’s maturation into a masculine man.

But to throw society off the trail a false narrative of hyper-masculinity ruining our otherwise feminine-correct boys is perpetuated. When the next school shooting takes place the Village will again want the public to believe it’s masculinity and men’s fault for what is really his emotional outburst. The Village will attempt to place the responsibility on men, on fathers, while in the meantime perpetuating the idea that men/fathers are superfluous at best, a societal burden at worst. Men are useful catspaws in so many ways, and in perpetuating this narrative the Village reinforces the female-correct theme for grown men too.


[–]88Will88 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

When a woman says “I want a man who is vulnerable/ sensitive/ caring/ displays his feelings” she simply means she wants Chad Thundercock to act that way. If they actually meant they wanted men who show their feelings then every beta orbiter would be getting laid on the regular. It is like Twilight or 50 Shades of Gray. They think they want a dangerous man (vampire or billionaire dom) to fall in love with them, love them for who they are and marry them. Really they are just as brainwashed as everyone else in society, the reality is they have no fucking idea what they want.

[–]DanG34 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

“When a woman says “I want a man who is vulnerable/ sensitive/ caring/ displays his feelings” she simply means she wants Chad Thundercock to act that way.”

... because it would just be easier that way - Chad would be easier to manage. However, a woman’s attraction to a Man is based on his strengths - of various sorts. It’s his strength that gets her panties damp. She knows, however, that it is that same strength that gets other women’s panties damp. So like Delilah, of Greek mythology, her task is to capture Chad (if she can) and proceed to cut off his hair - which, of course, causes her to lose attraction and respect for him.

[–]burningBluePills2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Emotion mastery is a strength. Knowing your emotions, how to express them and ultimately not to be a slave to them is power. They want to connect with you emotionally but don't want you to be ruled by them.

[–]DanG32 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lately, I’m gravitating more towards they want to feel good with you and about you, moreso than connect in an intellectual fashion. They want to feel loved and in love moreso than care if they know why.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They want to feel loved and in love

I'm going to have to disagree here. When I think about when my wife has been happiest it isn't when I'm showing her love, it's when I'm showing that I want her sexually (lust).

It's not when I use active listening and show sympathy, it's when I can't even hear her problems and have no chance of repeating them back to her because her tits are screaming louder at me than her mouth is.

Chad isn't a good listener. He listens with his dick. And women want Chad. They want to see that look on your face, that bulge in your jeans, that glaze in your eye when she talks about anything else other than how you're going to mutilate her ass the moment she's done yammering.

Whether it's day one of the relationship or day 10,000 THAT'S what women want from their men. That's the DGAF attitude. That's the essence of amused mastery. Just keep your eye on the prize. Happy, horny, willing to sit and "listen" (you're really just watching) until she's done but ready to rip her clothes off as soon as she is.

[–]donedreadpirateMRP APPROVED2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Really they are just as brainwashed as everyone else in society, the reality is they have no fucking idea what they want.

When you're steeped in Red Pill reading it's easy to forget that the women are just as brainwashed as you were. It makes it seem like women know what they are doing. They don't. That's the biological paradox. Actions not words. It's all summed up in that one phrase.

[–]BadMoles6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Being relatively new to TRP and father to a five year old boy and seven year old girl I am absolutely determined that my son should be given every opportunity to grow up masculine and appreciating being a guy. I'm all too aware that our society (UK) is feminine primary but I'm fortunate being in a traditional marriage - I am the bread winner and the wife looks after the house and kids, we both are happy with our roles and work constantly on our family and relationship and best of all, have the same ideas around child raising.

[–]MelodyMyst2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If this is all true... consider yourself very, very fortunate.

Keep leading brother.

[–]Morpheus_TNTB4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Outstanding!

[–]101996 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is interesting. I read your posts occasionally, and found out about TRP about 5 years ago. Also I am from Russia so pardon my poor English. But this post is way more vague for me. We dont have such feminine conditioning at all. Teachers in goverment schools got paid about 100-200$ a month and do not really care about children and psychology stuff. I am 33 yo now and I remember we very slightly ridiculed in school as boys only once, when we were compared to other class which boys were stronger physically. I would say that current russian feminine imperative is to husband to drink less and bring more money in family (think pay alimony in some cases). Today the current trend in upbringing is to inject military thinking in boys. There are military and FSB - themed parties in kindergardens; many patriotic russian movies in cinemas which try to promote russian culture and morale against west. And you know, reading your post, I think I'm glad that I'm here.. Mostly we are concerned about surviving here and trying to predict what our goverment will do next than trying to change the laws of nature.

[–]TaipanshimshonMRP APPROVED6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

bratik, Russian is a different animal, always was.

Because Russia tried actual equality for a bit - women in mines and lumber mills and cutting down trees and such. NO one liked that.

Also, you know the old statement in Russia- if you have a man who does not drink, he is not a man, but if he drinks and beats you - its because he loves you

[–]MelodyMyst3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

America and Russia should be teaming up against the rest of the world right now.

Both of us are about to be fucked by China and the rest.

[–]VisionsofGandhi10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Civilization go up and down and eventually fall bro, Just be assured America will have a large seat in human history

[–]SBIIISAHDs are the epitome of sex5 points6 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Since 2013, there have been 291 school shootings in the USA. That's an average of 1 per week.

During the same period in Europe, there were 3. That's an average of less than 1 per year.

So is this really a by-product of a feminine-primary education system or is it a by-product of something else / something more than that?

Personally - while I believe that the feminine-primary education system has a lot to answer for - I think this argument is akin to squeezing a square peg into a round hole.

[–]BirdManBrrrr3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Since 2013, there have been 291 school shootings in the USA. That's an average of 1 per week.

First of all, Stop using shit statistics.

something more than that?

It is, and I think many on the manosphere/RP side of things see the crisis in young boys and men as almost spiritual: boys grow into being men with no sense of what it is to be a man, what masculinity is, nor have a purpose. School shootings, the rise of opiate addiction, increases in male suicides all have an underpinning of a severe lack of purpose and thus hopefulness. To Rollo's point, a boy that isn't seated quietly at his desk is diagnosed and medicated with amphetamines, and further that same boy reaches adolescence and adulthood with no sense of self, thus diagnosed with depression and medicated as such.

At no point is someone there to teach boys how to be men, nor is there a template for embracing masculinity in the modern world. Boys and young men in particular know something is off but they don't know what, nor do any have a solid resource for figuring their shit out. Then we wonder why they disengage from society, or worse harm themselves and others. Toxic Masculinity! Fragile Masculinity! Gun Control! Rape Culture! There's your narrative, save for TRP and maybe Jordan Peterson.

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Until I threatened to sue the school after becoming the ONLY male officer of the School PTO, this was on the wall outside the bathroom used by my son.

Cunts don't care about your boys. It's up to YOU to save them.

[–]MelodyMyst1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nigga please...

[–]Anthropax0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

To extrapolate further, since 2013 Canada has had 3 school shootings and adjusted for the US population being 10x larger would be around 30 school shootings to compare to the 291 US shootings. Canada has a very similar feminist culture as the United States.

Mexico arguably has a more macho male culture which still is in line with OP's discussed traditional male upbringing, with 2 school shootings since 2013 (5 when adjusted for the US population).

Food for thought.

[–]izual190 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Teachers in the US can be disciplined for breaking up a fight. They can be disciplined for not breaking up a fight. Students are not held accountable for their actions. And with no child left behind, they automatically get to advance to the next grade without doing shit.

Our society is being ruined by a bunch of cry baby parents that couldnt handle it if there special snowflake failed a class. It couldnt possibly be the kids fault so they blaime the teachers....

[–]Anthropax0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do feel for the next generation of Americans, Canada in certain areas has whats called a 'no zero' policy to children failing grades ands its harming the work ethic and developing a sense of self worth in the youth. The education system and the attack on traditional masculinity may be to blame for the feelings of disenfranchaisement in young American men, but why are American young men doing shootings at a disproportionate rate to the rest of the developed world that has been equally affected by feminism in their education systems?

[–]GonzoAnalyst 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Uh oh. Now you’re trying to use logic with men that claim to be highly logical and analytical, but for some reason choose to maintain their blind spot on this issue.

I own two firearms and generally consider myself a 2nd amendment supporter, but something has to change I agree.

There’s a difference between allowing fully vetted (MRP term might help) adult individuals to own protection or sport firearms, but flooding a nation with cheap weapons where we’re about to reach (might have already) more weapons than people is insanity. I’ve seen the experts here use this phrase - continuing to do the same thing and expecting different results is the definition of?

People like to use Chicago or other blue cities with gun laws to prove that they don’t work (of course they don’t when you can drive a few hours and get all the weapons you want, or gangs ship them in from the neighboring state trade shows, thefts etc..) but we have a global case study sitting right on front of us. Only modern nation with this problem.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

where we’re about to reach (might have already) more weapons than people is insanity

Why is that insanity? There are more of just about everything than people. Every household has a set of steak knives. And every set has like 12 knives. Is it insanity to allow such weapons to exist and to (gasp!) surpass the number of people in the country? What are you driving at by bringing that up?

I’ve seen the experts here use this phrase - continuing to do the same thing and expecting different results is the definition of?

It's like the most fucking common phrase in the history of everything. Did you think mentioning that you've heard "experts" use it would give it more weight somehow? And experts of what exactly? Are you listening to yourself?

Only modern nation with this problem.

With what problem exactly? Murder? Mass murder? Or are you just particularly sensitive about murders that involved guns for some reason. And was there not a mass shooting at a club in France like a year ago? What do mean we're the only one with this problem?

but the only glaring difference is easy access to weapons

Is it now? That's the only glaring difference? The US war on drugs doesn't strike you as unique? We have massive populations in inner cities who suffer from poverty, we create a huge black market for drugs where said poor people are massively tempted to get involved, and you're surprised violence would result? What do you think gangs are? Did you miss the 1920s and prohibition? You're surprised that in a country with massive prohibition, 3 strike laws, and a militarized police force that we would have more people feeling the need to arm themselves and in fact feel motivated to use those arms?

And just go ahead and take bullshit statistics (that 291 number for example) and ignore all the nuance they contain. I love the article posted above by u/BirdManBrrr that shows that we have 10x the number of deaths every year from children walking or riding their bikes to school than from school shootings. But keep calling it a PHENOMENON because it makes for good ratings and keeps hitting the news every day, even though children getting hit by cars on their way to school poses 10x the problem.

Why I can't stand the left. If it sounds emotional and talks about children they don't have to actually think anymore. Just start calling anyone who disagrees with you names like heartless or nut job and keep on trucking.

[–]Angu_jungle_poo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't compare steak knives to guns. Guns are UNIQUE. You pull that little light trigger, then bam, you've got a dead person 20 feet away. You ever tried stabbing someone? Even a military vet would agree that it is completely different and brutally personal feeling. You need mental power to go through with it.

The more you can detach yourself from the physical act of killing the easier it is to justify.

It's nice having guns when you respect them, yes. But would you trust your ex with a 9mm in her back pocket... I wouldn't. I certainly don't trust weak beta bob's with the ability to artificially assert their physical dominance.

[–]SBIIISAHDs are the epitome of sex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

We have issues with feminine imperatives, but the only glaring difference is easy access to weapons and I also think a lack of intelligence and good education. Kids feel hopeless, lost, and throw in drug addictions (most often prescription these days) and immediate access to mass killing tools and we have our results.

I think it's blatantly obvious to most rational people that easy access to firearms is a major factor in the school shooting phenomenon that has plagued the USA in recent years. There are other factors of course, but take firearms out of the equation and that's a game changer.

I find it disingenuous for anyone to argue that the female imperative is the root cause of this and I don't think it lends any strength to the cause of RP or the manosphere.

When I read Rollo's post, I just felt that he'd lost the plot on this one.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great shit.

[–]Angu_jungle_poo1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think that the problem is past woman orientated teaching / kids brainwashed to look up to woman. The real root of the problem comes from western society teaching kids that you SHOULD give people respect even though they haven't EARNED it.

  • Kid- 'But why should I listen to Mrs Crapnik, she's done nothing for me'

  • Dad/Mom in disgusted voice- 'You should listen to her because [Insert bullshit excuse that makes no rational sense]'

  • Kid- 'Ok, I guess your right, I'll just insert that into my completely fragile and impressionable mind'

It's a perpetual cycle where beta's (males and females) teach their children to respect people, follow orders, without question, grow up to be mastered by others and be confused, then teach their children the same 'rules' of society.

As they age the gender gap exhibits itself due to the results of girls hit puberty earlier and there being a much more open discussion/awareness of the changes (due to obvious physical pointers). Suddenly they are confronted by there sexuality and adults are all aware of it. Everyone goes out of their way to protect the girls, tell them how rough the world is, how roughly guys can treat you, how you need to be very selective, how you can't be a slut and your body is a precious gem that everyone wants to get their hands on. - girls get told 'the world is difficult, you've always got to be aware of who wants what from you' - A very reasonable point, if not a little egotistic. [Important: this is not something that they get sat down and taught, it is such a subtle element of teaching ingrained in our society it's hard to single it out, it could include things as little as an unimpressed look when wearing a short skirt, a 'just be careful' from an old wise looking lady]

Boys get none of this. They get awkward wank walk-ins, classroom boners that everyone laughs at. They get people looking at them like THEY have a problem, that THEY are an animal and that THEY need to cage away all these feelings to be acceptable to society. Even worse, their beta role models throw piles of the 'me and your uncle had a hell of a time in college, you'll love it' bullshit - almost all delusion that their adult males mind have made up because they feel insecure about their position in life, their childhood and probably their marriage as well (due to their delusional understanding of the world). This is all multiplied by what OP is discussing about the general trends of society- that boys should look up to girls, that girls are discriminated against all the time- so that most boys accept that girls SHOULD have their total respect, funnily enough, even if they don't EARN IT. This way of thinking is blown out of proportion by the males innate process of sexual attraction to females, further supporting the 'Females are special' hypothesis. The result is something like putting a collar around boys necks, giving them the leash and saying 'find someone to control you' all the while telling them that they should be Clint Eastwood and never listen to a soul..... Confused???

Girls go into the world aware that people can try and control them, and that they can control people. Guys go into the world thinking its some fucking fantasy game that they don't have the balls to play. Girls get taught that they can take what they want, their feeling of priority is blown out of proportions by male worshipers.

It's so easy to shelter children, it takes a MAN to teach them how the world works, through experience. Children should be knocked down, taught hard, thrown into difficult, dangerous situations to learn. You should make them mad at you and then SHOW them why they need to respect you, teach them how to demand respect from others, teach them self-respect, teach them how to be confident in who they are.... But you can't teach this way in this day and age You'd probably get arrested.

And so we have a conveyer belt of (understandably) confused beta bobs and (significantly less) beta shirlys getting thrown into a world, shirly normally takes the lead, but every now and again Bob finds a quaint little pill that leads to his awakening... ;)

[–]AechzenMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Children should be knocked down, taught hard, thrown into difficult, dangerous situations to learn. You should make them mad at you and then SHOW them why they need to respect you, teach them how to demand respect from others, teach them self-respect, teach them how to be confident in who they are.... But you can't teach this way in this day and age You'd probably get arrested.

I got this, but not from any school. I had an exceptional boy scout experience growing up. I hope other boys get/got a fraction of what I got. I had done weeks of camping, and cooking for myself, and living away from home by the time I was ready to head to college.

[–]mundocorde0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Was I the only one who thought of The Big Lebowski when reading the title? http://dudespaper.com/what-makes-a-man-mr-lebowski.html/

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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