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Shit test win 6 weeks in. Big win. (self.marriedredpill)

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[–]RecoveringBPAddict17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was told early on that passing shit testing = tingles.

Looks like you proved the theory!! Keep going.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Next time for full effect you should fuck her hard, not the other way around.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you were a man and couldnt be manipulated by her bad mood. she likley used to "succeed" by fake tantrums to get her way

now she has to try and influence you in ways you desire. Femininity, and submission.

You evil shitlord!!

[–]JDRoedellMRP APPROVED5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Her emotions... her problem to figure out. They resent you if you try to "fix" their problems or bad emotions.

[–]illusiveab7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

There is really nothing to fix. In fact, the lack of fixing is a fix.

[–]yeahmaybe23 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My first ever comment on MRP.

There is really nothing to fix. In fact, the lack of fixing is a fix.

This is great, I really needed to hear this, it hit me just the right way. I need to absorb this, especially the ending "...the lack of fixing is a fix." I have spent years trying to "fix" my wife's problems. I am almost in awe of the simple logic of this. I just watched "It's not about the nail" on YouTube a few weeks ago and began to get that they don't want a "fix" But this comment hit me right between the eyes, as I said, simple logic. Brilliant. Thank You, have an upvote.

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

That we should create what we want out frame to be, that it should be our best self, and we should consciously hold it in the face of shit tests.

that's a good start. i would add that it is your worldview (how you see and react to everything). you held it well; and doing so almost always moistens panties.

I am new here. 6 weeks of lifting and running a MAP

haha, be careful with that username you chose . . .

so does the furniture stay or go?

[–]drty_prMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

so does the furniture stay or go?

That's the million dollar question and the only thing of real importance in this FR.

If it stays, then he has set a boundary of: "If I don't like a behavior, all you need to do is fuck me and I'll let it slide".

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's the million dollar question and the only thing of real importance in this FR.

nah, i was just curious. it's only important if OP has drawn a boundary on shit like this before or she is planning on putting the furniture in a room he considers "his own". With strangers and work people there are sometimes good reasons to keep your opinion to yourself. With friends and family; it's better to be always congruent even when it doesn't matter. Wife ask me what i think of her haircut. I tell her "I don't like it, it's too short". Doesn't mean I expect her to change it.

"If I don't like a behavior, all you need to do is fuck me and I'll let it slide".

there are worse things; but i agree this is to be avoided. reminds me of an old saying "if it wasn't for pussy; their would be a bounty on em'". hahaha

[–]shr3dthegnarbrah1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I am familiar with the "be anything but boring" idea and that emotions in any direction are positives towards being attractive to a woman. My question is: Is the above scenario a win for all of you? I have a ton of trouble feeling attraction in the midst of shit tests and bad attitudes.

When my wife is being bitchy, my current play is to withdraw my attention. Obviously in public I'd put on a good face and be a rock until we got home, but I'd receive her escalation really poorly.

Tell me where I'm still blue. Is that weak frame, to be turned off by her emotional state?

[–]gettingmymojobackMRP APPROVED4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's because you're still taking them seriously. Stop taking them seriously and you very quickly see there's nothing to get angry about.

Why would you punch yourself in the balls and turn her away when she's doing what you want her to be doing?

You're setting yourself up for a no win situation. If she continues shit testing you're angry. If she wants to fuck you, you're turned off. What is your desired outcome?

[–]shr3dthegnarbrah0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is a great response. You're absolutely right, I am taking her emotions way too personally.

My desired outcome is obviously to get off but I think that's second to enjoying her being around.

[–]lidlredridinghoodFeemale0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Careful of needing her to be happy, to be happy yourself. OI.

[–]BobbyPeruMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seems that you passed for the most part. Why she was horny? Hard to tell. Sometimes chicks get horny from just going out.

[–]pielicker1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

What should the response be if using the same scenario, but when you mentioned the plans for dinner, wife just says something along the lines of "I'm not going. Go without me." and then refuses to leave for the dinner. Just call and cancel? i wouldn't want to go without her since it's her best friend you're meeting.

[–]Surfac32 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You go without her.

[–]pielicker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ah, got it. Makes sense.

[–]JustOneMoreAcct1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

OI = outcome independence.

Don't let her mood change your plans.

[–]pielicker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Like this. As I replied above, makes sense.

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

i wouldn't want to go without her since it's her best friend you're meeting

I can't think of a better last-minute, unforseen dread opportunity.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nice work. Being a bit tense, as it seemed you were with frame, is expected early on. You move through the world as you please but then brace for the shit storm that follows.

As you go on, acknowledge that in addition to your frame being important, that other people's feelings about how you view the world are unimportant. Learn to laugh at the hilarity that your wife thinks that because she feels a certain way about the furniture, you should too. Then laugh also that she also thinks your ability to laugh at her is obscene.

[–]lidlredridinghoodFeemale0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or the humor that your opinion of furniture she got at a garage sale reflects your feelings about everything she does.

[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

she wanted to go to bed early and was getting really bitchy again

I got in bed and she did too with some sexy panties, still mad. She immediately jump on top of me

complained I was not hard yet

Doesn't even know what she actually wants, just knows that your frame is sending her on an emotional roller coaster. And she likes it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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