FR: The Conclusion

rockingood · 2017-06-25T00:49:30+00:00

You won't be lonely and naïve when you leave her.

You will, one day, spend time with your kids and a loving wife; just not this wife.

You can have the family you want.

It may be hard at first, but good things usually are.

Russia launched its deadliest nuclear submarine this year.

ex_addict_bro · 2017-06-25T00:40:31+00:00

Many dudes stay connected to this community after divorce because it offers a more mature perspective on RP than the RP forum itself. Good luck, brother.

[deleted] · 2017-06-25T02:12:05+00:00

TRP fixes the man and sometimes the marriage follows. Sometimes it doesn't and sometimes the broken pre trp man chose a shit woman.

Going forward you are well equipped to succeed

man_in_the_world · 2017-06-25T01:48:47+00:00

Nine days ago you said that you were really struggling to hold frame, lead, and handle shit tests during stressful situations:

Summary:, when I am owning my shit and being a leader, my wife does not act this way, but when she is stressed/frustrated, she is very prone to getting very angry at me and blaming me for everything. When I am in the right mindset, and the situation is petty, it is not hard to shut her down. But recently, when major events have occurred, or health/safety of the children are concerned, I have been falling hard for my wife's manipulation into the chaos and drama of her hamster.

But in that post you noted that her behavior exactly mirrored your own success or failure in leading, OYS, and maintaining your frame, and you concluded that your weakness was the problem.

Today, you conclude that your wife is the problem, because she is a special snowflake ultra-violence hard mode case:

She is a broken specimen. ... I believe that my wife has a mental illness and she can't control herself.

Your evidence for concluding today that it's her and not you is

I will tell you that I am a reasonably good leader, an attractive and fit male, with financial and professional accomplishments and ambition towards a great deal more.

Translation: I'm a fit and good-looking BetaBux who intends to be an even wealthier BetaBux in the future. Any sane woman would be sweet and submissive to an awesome BB like me.

Goodbye and good luck, BB Rambo. You can join /u/blimblamp in your BP reruns, and we'll see you again here in a few months or years.

RawgerOThornhill · 2017-06-27T12:59:37+00:00

"Do not give what is holy to dogs, or throw your pearls before swine, lest they trample them underfoot, and turn and tear you to pieces."

[deleted] · 2017-06-27T22:30:59+00:00

I'm late to the party, haven't read your post history, and don't know how long you've actually been trying to turn things around, but I know one thing for sure: if my wife woke my mother up in the middle of the night and tried to kick her out of our house over a petty argument, that would be the end of it. Sure, you may have plenty of room for improvement and are at fault in a lot of ways, as many have suggested, but that's just crossing the line. Despite your failings, a deal breaker is a deal breaker. Terrorizing my own family for any reason is one of them.

brotherpotatos · 2017-06-25T01:24:33+00:00

You seem like you have given this a great bit of good, ordered thought.

Borderline Personality Disorder? Just a guess, you didn't leave many details. Yes, I recognize neither of us is a psycologist and we can't diagnose.

wtf_is_taken · 2017-06-25T03:34:20+00:00

What is this the hunt for redpilloctober?

dontbedenied · 2017-06-25T02:36:45+00:00

I've had not one but two exes with BPD/NPD. As you've obviously learned, women like this simply are not worth our time. So much of the battle is A) Evaluating which women are worth our time and B) Knowing when it's time to walk away. Of course this is easier said than done...our social conditioning makes it easy to get trapped into the White Knight mentality, and other factors can make some of us men fall even harder for these women.

Part of me wishes I'd never met my ex because man that was a painful relationship and breakup, and it was a relationship doomed from the start. No amount of TRP could have saved that relationship. But I think that being burned by women like this can help us avoid making the same mistake again.

zezozio · 2017-06-25T01:25:45+00:00

Good on you for making the decision. Sounds to me like you have hit the nail on the head, she sounds too broken to be fixed. Get ready for a really fun new chapter in your life, you should stay single for at least a few years IMO. Time to bounce young hot women on your schlong and hang out with your male friends until the wee hours of the morning. One word of advice as I have been through a divorce, be the good guy, never argue with her. She will now do everything in her power to make you lose frame so that she can make you the bad guy, do not fall for it. Leave the room whenever she starts to yell. Avoid her like the plague. If there is any way you can keep things amicable then do that. If you can keep things amicable then go for it, remember keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

brotherpotatos · 2017-06-25T21:08:39+00:00

We should have a beer.

screechhater · 2017-06-25T04:08:16+00:00

Blows me away that MRP opens a man's eyes. yes, you cannot fix crazy, nor should you try.

I am a loss for words when it comes to the epiphany one reaches a point it's not her. It's him and his own repsonsiblity to be happy

NotAnotherSJWAgain · 2017-06-25T00:59:20+00:00

Good luck man, stay strong.

brotherpotatos · 2017-06-26T13:03:03+00:00

All these comments affirming your decision to divorce? All I see is a guy who sees himself as more Alpha then his wife sees him. If she won't follow, it's your fault, not hers. Anything else is just BB nonsense.

brotherpotatos · 2017-06-26T17:32:28+00:00

Divorce = Beta BP B.S.