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I had a hiccup a few weeks ago, but generally things with me have progressed by magnitudes over the past couple of years.

Things are going well....

Took the kids over the long weekend to the other coast to see family, wife stayed home, essentially 5 days to herself. Communication while I was gone was essentially a video call when I arrived at my brother's so she could say hi, and 2-3 texts (i.e. "On schedule, see you at the airport"). Other than that, radio silence. It was wonderfully relaxing.

Upon my return, after the kids are in bed, building up to caveman time, she informs me that she masturbated twice while I was gone, thinking about me & my hands around her neck. This from a wife, who, a couple short years ago, just was NOT interested in anything sexy.

Now if you would've told me when I first got married that women wanted aggressive fucking (NOT lovemaking), and get turned on by you minding your own business & essentially ignoring them, I would've thought you were crazy. After having my eyes opened in the past couple years, and judging from the muffled screams on Wednesday night, I'd say the proof is in the orgasmic pudding.

Thank you gentlemen.

The road is long, and takes effort. But shit, it's worth it.

Edit - fucking typos


[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Excellent work man.

Sometimes, she needs to miss you.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Forget who said it, but will always remember the quote. "You never gave me the chance to miss you".

[–]pencilinamango0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's a good one...

[–]maxofreddit[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah... and I love time alone with my kids, it's a super win/win.

And thanks.. BTW your Creating Your Slut post is pretty much a monthly read for me. Good stuff. And every word is true.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks man, I actually just updated that post.

No matter what I write, that's always my #1 viewed post of the day/week/month.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's kinda funny how every guy thinks he wants this innocent virgin when he gets married, then 10 years later when kids, life, & reality hit the fan, he's all, "Show me the slutty!"

[–]donedreadpirateMRP APPROVED6 points7 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Congrats! Keep up the good work. Choking is like unlocking the cheat code to kink.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 2 points3 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Choking is like unlocking the cheat code to kink.

For reals?

Any other advice to make the most of it?

We're away for a night next weekend at a wedding where we only know a few people. She's already said, "I just want to go the wedding, then go back to the hotel room and fuck." So... the timing is probably good for more fun. :)

Talk to me chief!!

[–]SoloAlbumChild with Dynamite1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I eased into choking her by taking her from behind, restraining her wrist behind her back with one hand, and pulling her head up and back with the palm of my hand on her neck. My fingers were up on her cheek and my thumb on her jawline. Every time after that was closer to actual choking.

[–]donedreadpirateMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Think about it, you can introduce it slowly and methodically, you don't pull out any crazy whips or chains, it can happen naturally, then before you know it, she's got a ball gag in her mouth with her hands tied behind her back after that wedding. Amazing! Amazon.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Bam!

But my question about "making the most of it" was more along the lines of how to develop this kink into my lady finding me another lass for a threeway. ;)

[–]donedreadpirateMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Haha I'm working on that myself...

[–]maxofreddit[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

"hashtag"goals

[–]donedreadpirateMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oops. Im starting with teasing her about it and trying to figure out her type. Last week we were at a bar and I had her picking out girls she likes. Will see where this goes...

[–]maxofreddit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice... I've done the same thing... she for sure has a "type" when it comes to ladies... more like the Katherine Moennig type.. a bit more boyish. We don't get many opportunities to cruise, but I try to keep her primed to be on the hunt when I can. ;)

[–]PurpleVeteranMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

An easy way to start is just to rest the palm of your hand at the base of her throat as things get heated, thumb and fingers spread, and leave it there for 20-30 seconds. She'll let you know if it's not okay.

After that, you can experiment and gauge her comfort / excitement level, tightening your grip a bit as you go, or stopping if she's not into it.

Another move its to comb your fingers through the hair on the back of her head, and slightly tighten your grip on her scalp. This also works nicely with the 10 second kiss.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've already figured out it's about blood flow, not airflow. As in pressing on the sides on the neck, not the front. Seems to do the trick. ;)

[–]PurpleVeteranMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Starting out, it's more the suggestion of choking than the actual act... if she responds well, then you can ramp up the intensity over the next few sessions. Maybe she's into it right away, maybe it's something she needs to build up to -- or it could be a big nope.

Just like anal or other types of kink, it's about testing limits, playing "what if" to tease and offer the thrill of uninhibited sex ... while still respecting hard boundaries and maintaining trust.

Ten years ago, I would have sworn up and down that there was no way my snowflake would be into such things. Certainly not if I just asked her. But time and trust, as well as improving my SMV, have put options on the table that surprised us both.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've had a similar experience, though initially, as my SMV rose, SHE was the one bringing the kink to the table, "You can put your hand on my neck if you want," & quite literally laying the back door option on the table herself.

It's been fun. ;)

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Make sure you don't apply too much pressure to the front, so as to not damage the trachea.

Best thing is that you can "innocently" touch her neck in public and give her the tingles.

[–]Nucka574 points points [recovered] | Copy Link

Next time you're hitting it doggy slip that thumb in her pooper.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Like usual?

[–]GatemouthBrown6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And abstinence makes the church grow fondlers.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Now buttslam her then disappear for another 7-10 days to establish dominance

[–]maxofreddit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

With that username, I MUST take this advice!!

[–]anythingincMRP APPROVED - Blue Pill Diplomat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't tell if this is supposed to be satirical irony or not, Poe's Law and all, but all your deadbedroom posts are spot on.

[–]resolutions316!!CAUTION!! Runaway bus potentially ahead1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Now if you would've told me when I first got married that women wanted aggressive fucking (NOT lovemaking), and get turned on by you minding your own business & essentially ignoring them, I would've thought you were crazy.

This is something I need to work/understand better. The cross-over point between this, and "gaming your wife / always be kinoing". I think my "game" comes off as a bit.....suffocatey.

[–]maxofreddit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ah yes... I think I had this same problem too. I now realize the tease is about that wonderful slap on the shoulder with the "you're an asshole" comment is just the right flavor.

As much as AWALT, every one is a little different, once you find the groove, it's on.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice job bro. Often, little trips away from each other are just what the relationship needs.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUsMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right. How can she miss you if you won't go away?

[–]GBP4tendies0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Law of Power #16: Use absence to increase respect and honor.

[–]BobbyPeruMRP Approved0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well done (no pun intended)

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

by you minding your own business & essentially ignoring them

Could you elaborate on that for the guys who are still noobs in bed?

Edit: I mean, what's the deal? Just do what you want, as long as she comes first? Or really "ignoring" her needs?

[–]maxofreddit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry, I meant minding my own business in general, not in bed. As in I went about my long weekend not wondering wft she was doing or thinking. Just doing my own thing.

In my OP, I was also referring to this attitude in general, as in not worrying as much about what she's doing/thinking throughout the day, and specifically because I've got better shit to do. Ya dig?

EDIT - in the past, I would go around worried about what SHE would think, and always be covert contracting her for attention, now I don't do that.. I mind my own business.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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