FR: Stopping my use of the 'S' word

Ever since finding MRP and started working my way through the sidebar, I begun to notice that was overusing the word 'sorry' when dealing with my wife. I think 'sorry' has a place in a relationship (i.e. for the big fuckups), but I let it become a meaningless word in mine.

Whenever she got pissy over some miniscule thing that I did different to the way she normally does, although it was done, or didn't put something back exactly right, but it was back, I realised my standard way of assuaging her mood was to say 'sorry'. Also, the 'sorry' seemed to be the start of my DEERing. I look back now and even I wouldn't have sex with a beta pussy like that.

So I set myself a goal for the last two weeks to not say 'sorry' for the shitty small moments and only say 'sorry' when I meant it if I fucked up big time.

Two weeks down and save for one 'sorry' on day two, I haven't said 'sorry' at all.

The one 'sorry' I did say was that I went to the shop to get some stuff and she asked for something and I said I'd get it. I completely forgot. I should have made a note, I didn't. We did have a bit of PMS fuelled tit-for-tat (previous post) but no 'sorry' in there.

It didn't take too long for the wife to change her ways from previous actions. My changing from saying 'sorry' and trying to defend myself to just owning my shit and doing what I do has reduced the number of pissy moments from her. It's as if she subconsciously knows that it won't get a reaction so doesn't even try.

The inward effect of this is that I don't feel like I'm defending myself all the time. I feel more open about what I'm doing and happier doing it. It has definitely helped lift a weight from my shoulders.

Bonus benefit is that she seems to be more cuddly (not even ovulation) and way more receptive to flirting.

I've made it through the first two weeks of this and I've set a goal for the next four weeks to do the same.

TL;DR: Stopped saying sorry and DEERing, now feeling happier