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I wasn’t able to post days #12-15 on Reddit, I’ve dropped the link to the blog for those days as the time required to format is too great.

From day #16 (today) to the end of March I will ensure I get the post on both the blog and Reddit.

For those only following on here, I advise you read days #12-15 before reading Day #16

Day #1, Day #2, Day #3, Day #4, Day #5, Day #6, Day #7(Week One Done)

Day #8, Day #9, Day #10, Day #11, Day #12, Day #13, Day #14 (Week Two Done)

Day #15

Yesterday’s Recap:

Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #15 was a reality check.

At this point I feel we’ve lost a majority of those we’re going to lose, day #22 is the next drop.

If you’ve made it this far, you’re doing alright and your ‘give a shit’ factor is high. If you can just push on to the 22nd of March, you’ll be golden.

Keep grinding brothers.

Daily Reminder

Reminder: The rules of Men of March:

  1. You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.

  2. You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.

  3. You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.

  4. You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.

  5. You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.

  6. If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.

  7. Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.

Life isn’t about hiding from storms, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

Day #16: The little Things

In case you haven’t noticed, things are getting a little easier in your life.

You’re laughing a little more, getting a little more frustrated, but now, instead of their being an unidentified ‘Void’ or secret you repress, you’re instead mad at your lack of performance.

This gives you an enemy, this gives you an observable problem, and this gives you the ammo needed to beat it as it gives you a problem you can solve.

Making yourself do the push-ups, facing the things you’ve run from for so long, watching your brother’s rise and fall around you, this is all fuel.

You’ve faced your demons and proven you can hang physically, now you aren’t out of breath from running and no longer have to show ‘pretend bravado’, you’re emerging as a fucking man and a part of you knows that.

After reading yesterday’s post and facing the man in the mirror, you felt that flame inside.

Maybe it was just a flash of pride, like a bolt of lightning or maybe it was a recognition that there’s something burning inside, the smell of smoke, a brief sensation of heat…

Whatever it was, you felt it and now, it’s up to you to fuel it.

This is reality, we aren’t going to have some life or death do or die moment where we have to take the shot and kill the bad guy.

Nope, we’re going to rise and fall through gradual steps, day by day.

It’s the little shit which is going to break you down, so recognize it and unfuck it today.

Challenge #16

  1. 100 Push-Ups

  2. Sex: Every skill can be improved, too include sex. I don’t care if you’ve always been a ‘two-pump chump’, start looking at ways you can improve the quality of sex you’re having. Sometimes something as simple as mixing the location up is all you need. Go out and fucking destroy her in the shower, the living room, the kitchen, the basement, whatever room you haven’t fucked in, go claim it. To add to this, build up throughout the day, escalate the level of comments, touching, flirting, etc. have fun with it.

  3. Leadership: Have you been saying, “I don’t care.” when asked what you want? Have you taken a moment out of any of the past 15 days and asked your family members how they are? Not a, “How was your day?” but a no shit, sit down, eye contact, “How have you been?” “What’s new with you?” “Are you doing alright? ” Your family needs you, give them the attention society can’t spare, learn the art of genuine conversation, and get to know those you’re leading.

  4. Fatherhood: If you have a child (or a few) have you taken them out on your own? Have you created any adventures, set goals for them to achieve, or straight up told them you’re proud of them? Our children are our future, invest the time in assuring they aren’t being controlled by MSM and instead instill values which you believe in and know are just.

  5. Work: The goal of your company is to get the absolute most out of you while compensating for as little as possible, just above what would cause you to leave and in some cases, not even that. Why aren’t you applying to other places; because you’re comfortable? Create that resume, earn what you’re worth or accept that you aren’t worth that much. The choice is yours, as for me, the resume is created and currently sitting in 8 inboxes.

  6. Diet: You aren’t a snowflake, if you aren’t losing weight it’s because you’ve got calories sneaking into your body. Fix it, enough said.

  7. Money: Have you removed the Dime Vampires? Have you talked it over with your wife and shown her your vision for the family, ensuring she is onboard and that she clearly understands why she needs to look at money differently? Have you given any consideration to how you can make money on the side?

  8. Time: Do you still have the fucking Time Vampires in your life? I thought we addressed this already…Remove the complainers, remove the phone scrolling, and remove the mindless television.

  9. Joy: Are you making sure that you’re enjoying the grind and laughing with those whom you lead? Life isn’t that serious, don’t go into every moment with the mindset that you’ve got to analyze every interaction. It’s great to observe the moments strategically, but sometimes you need to just lose yourself and have a snowball fight, splash the kids with water from the sink, slap the wife’s ass and smile while walking away.

  10. Independence: Masculine men are more than just husband and father, they’re men pursuing their mission. You need to have hobbies away from home and if you can’t get away from home, make time to pursue a hobby alone at home. For me it’s writing, for you it could be woodworking, coding, whatever but ensure that it is something which improves & challenges you as a man. Optimally – you’d get away from home for an hour or so, building who you are and at the same time ensuring your wife has the opportunity to miss you.

Wrapping up Day #16

You’re doing it brother, you’re doing what so many say they want to do.

You’re taking ownership of your life and health.

You’re taking ownership of the lives you lead.

You’re taking ownership of the responsibility which was placed on your shoulders the day you were born, that of carrying the torch of masculinity and passing it on to future generations.

Fine tune the minutia and for the rest of your days remember that it’s your job to look at the big picture of who you are and recognize that it’s nothing more than the many individual brush strokes you make each day.

Blog Post: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2017/03/16/day-16-the-little-things/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheFamilyAlpha


[–]Dudedontbedumb points points [recovered] | Copy Link

I'm still here. I'm still in it. MY biggest problem was porn and jerking off. Because of men of March I went 11 days straight without cumming. ThIs forced me to game my wife, flirt with her and make her laugh. And when it came down to it I tore that shit up like I haven't in years. I looked into those pretty eyes and told her I loved her.. fuck it's been a long time since I felt like this. Now I see why porn and jerking off is destructive.

[–]welshmin4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It kills the need to hunt. The result of having it handed to you so easily.

Our ancestors had to go out and hunt, had to spend time courting and seducing. If not, they starved. Now we have to fend off the overstimualation so easily available. Flipped to the extreme.

Great job with your wife! Have you read family alphas relevant posts: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/30/creating-your-slut/ https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/11/17/10-ways-to-keep-your-wife-on-her-toes/

The second should be required reading!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect

As men, we need to feel that primal urge for sexual conquest.

You gave up the pixel bitches and now have a real woman to relieve that pressure.

[–]TexasThomas points points [recovered] | Copy Link

as a new subscriber, GAWD the posts are boring. Same crap day after day.... Where are the success stories? There are surely thousands of them....some of us out here would love to read them....I saw one the other day -- a guy thanking the red pill for saving his sex life and marriage -- but I guess that post got deleted..... I saw a post the other day from a guy who was trying to talk a guy out of cheating on his wife....He got banned for bringing morals into the equation...then others got condemned for agreeing.....what the hell is this place, The Peoples' Republic of Red Pill? Damn....bunch of people here acting like big tough guys. Please. this place sucks. I"m sure you'll ban me too because you're about as tolerant as the stupid feminists and all those naked fairies at the gay pride parade. Please prove me wrong and let this stay. Let's see how manly you are.

[–]welshmin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I find that much of what you are looking for is at /r/theredpill. MRP seems to be more theory, higher level, more thought-out content. Which really is a mirror of the stage where the men here are at, compared to TRP.

Quality, not quantity.

[–]welshmin0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for the reminders, I've upped my game on several of these, and let a couple slip.

I'm having a problem, though, with my pushups for the last 4 days I've been getting an INTENSE sharp stabbing pain in my lower left abdomen. The kind you can't push through (I know the difference). Was assuming it was due to overuse of muscles I hadn't used in a long time... but 4 days later and it's the same.

It's extremely frustrating because I was making progress here. Could this be something that comes from bad form? Or could it be something deeper, internal?

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You should get checked out at the doctor. Could be a hernia.

[–]welshmin1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Fuck me, looked it up, that sounds serious.

Making an appointment with a doctor now. Thank you

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're welcome. I hope I'm wrong and it's nothing serious.

[–]beaglescoutman points points [recovered] | Copy Link

Hey, checking back in. I actually have been committed the whole way through, just fell out of the habit of posting my status. I have been doing the 100 pushups every day and I have kept all the other daily challenges.

I have to say, negative visualizations really help flip my perspective. I always used to worry about what the family would do without me, but also visualizing how much it would hurt to not have them, that has inspired me to listen more, to live more in the moment and enjoy each day. Thank you.

Secondly, on listening, I had a little breakthrough on a subject that my wife and I haven't seen eye-to-eye on for years. I did some research on the topic, I evaluated what her perspective might be, and then I waited for the right time to bring it up, when it was clear that it was on her mind, too. Sure enough, by listening and being listened to, we actually came to a resolution and made headway in the direction that I know, rather than being about my happiness, will be about her happiness, too. I wish I could go in to details, but I hope this makes sense. I've been a little too alpha minded, so it helped to bring a bit more beta, or I guess you would call it, softness, back in. Long and short of it, we are now on the same page. All I had to do was make it about her instead of me, in this one thing. And I really do believe it is about her, which I think is likely why she changed her mindset. Women can smell BS a mile away. You have to firmly believe what you say when it comes to these major decisions.

Another note: I've been killing it on work performance, keeping my rescuetime score up in the high 60s (still working on 70s). Days feel better. I think one thing that actually helped was switching to a CKD diet - all the daily carbs were just slogging me down. Owning my body. Feels good, man.

I am taking the next step in my business pursuits tomorrow. I am on track for my March goals. And, before I ever read day 16's post, I had already done a few of the things in here. Took one of my kids to a event, just me and her. That was planned weeks and weeks ago and it seemed to really surprise the wife. Acta, non verba.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great work brother, that is awesome news.

[–]RebelRebel620 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good to see these back on MRP. Still here and following your blog as well. Thanks for all you do. I've done every assignment, up to 2 sets of 50 push-ups. I let my reading and visualizations slip a bit and need to get better at that.... struggling with finding enough time in the day for everything. That's not an excuse, just a reality I need to work on. Thankfully I gave up porn a while ago, I game my wife frequently and I've gotten to the point where my wife now games me - otherwise rule #1 would've been a bitch.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Time is a fickle bitch, I have hours flying by like minutes recently.

[–]fatalbinoninja0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I haven't been posting much if any but I'm still going. The daily pushup routine has been getting easier and I'm going above 100 now each day. I'll try doing some different styles of them once I hit 150 in order to increase the difficulty.

The other exercises have really been helping me focus my drive and examine the reasons for what I've been doing. I'm acting in a more disciplined fashion at work and home and find it easier to complete my objectives for the day.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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