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Day #1, Day #2, Day #3

Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #3 consisted of doing something new with the family, wife, or alone.

Life is about experiences and as we age the immersion in something new is replaced by something that’s been tried, tested, and is reliable.

We go to places where we know what we’re going to get, how we’re going to get it, and we’re comfortable with that.

This is detrimental to the ‘euphoric’ experience of immersing in an environment which is absolutely foreign to us. But that immersion is living…

Creating an experience at home leads to the kids creating these memories of their dad being way cooler than the other dads. It leads to them not only having a great time, but having a great time with their parents, strengthening that ‘inter-clan’ bond.

Creating these unique memories with the wife (at home or not) builds her attraction to you and ensure she recognized that you aren’t just some routine, boring as fuck dude.

In your own mind these experiences of something ‘new’ will promote the habit of ‘breaking routine’ and creates this interesting ‘you never know what he’s going to do’ persona.

Quite a few of our brothers shared their experience on Twitter & Reddit and the results were incredible. They had new foods, new drinks, the family had a blast, and their wife was laughing and enjoying the moment radiating her feminine beauty like never before.

Keep grinding brothers, we’re only on day #4

Daily Reminder

Reminder: The rules of Men of March:

  1. You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.

  2. You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.

  3. You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.

  4. You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.

  5. You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.

  6. If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.

  7. Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.

Life isn’t about hiding from storms, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

Day #4: Toss it, Give it, Sell it

We live in a society which promotes ‘over-consumption‘ of everything.

Men eat too much, drink too much, buy too much, and overall they own too much.

Today, you’re going to face the music and look at your life objectively; do you really need all of the shit you have?

My wife & I have what we call a ‘Spartan Mindset’ when it comes to possessions. After having to move so frequently while in the military we stopped hoarding shit and simply decided to get rid of things which we did not use.

Life isn’t about accumulating stuff.

In fact, the solution to most of the problems people face isn’t lack of anything, it’s the accumulation of too much.

The guys who are having problems with finding that sense of purpose or identity are usually suffering from the disorder of constantly adding to their life when in fact they should be removing the unessential.

It is the removal of excess which will create a more efficient life, not the addition of more.

Life is about experiencing the moment each and every day. There are some things which help us experience life, I have a Wrangler and driving with the top & doors off gives myself & those who ride with me an experience.

The same could be said for a gun, tools, a motorcycle, etc.

The point is, most of the shit you have serves no purpose.

That’s a problem and today we’re going to fix it.

Challenge #4

  1. 100 Push-Ups

  2. Go through all of your possessions and objectively ask yourself, What is really bringing value to my life?

If you haven’t used it, will probably never need it, and only hang on to it ‘just in-case‘ then you need to give it to someone who will use it frequently, sell it and make some $$$, or just throw it away.

Too many men hang on to things, just because.

Look, the clutter in your physical life is creating clutter in your mind. Just the act of clearing up your life will in turn make your mind feel a little less ‘bogged down’.

The shit people own owns them and like a silent killer it weighs down on their heart, mind, and soul.

Break the cycle by getting all the bullshit in your life out of your shed, garage, house, room, everywhere.

Books you’ve read that didn’t have an impact, give them to someone and make their day. Tools that are duplicates of one another, clear it up.

Do you really need 6 Hex Key sets which are all the same size?

Give as much as you can to those who would need it. This clears your mind, makes their day, and in turn makes them view you as someone who is looking out for their best interest which in turn creates a more loyal bond and you’re feeling a little ‘lighter’ in the process.

If you own shit which you simply own to own, toss it.

You don’t have to hang on to it just because you bought it. If it served its purpose and is no longer of use or something you need, get rid of it.

Anything which has value you should try to get the value from. Whether that’s a yard sale, eBay, or Craig’s list it makes no difference.

If you want to get something for what you’re clearing from your mind then do so, but don’t justify hanging on to something because ‘nobody has bid yet‘ as that just means you don’t know how to sell or the item doesn’t have value.

The final option is to junk it.

I recently did this with a box of wires. We had chargers to all sorts of shit and cables to who knows what. I had saved it ‘just in case‘ and after two years I recognized that moment hadn’t come and the box was taking up space from shit I do use, so I went through, grabbed two phone chargers which would work and tossed out the other 30.

To the men who say, maybe you’ll need one of those someday.

Spending the $10 later on is better than suffering from a ‘clutter mindset’ now.

Wrapping up Day #4

We have too much and live too little, we fix this today.

Go through your stuff, have your wife go through her’s, and go through your kid’s things.

Get rid of shit they don’t use and do not fall victim to the, “Well I’ll use it someday” excuse.

We need to stop being afraid to part with possession; we own them, they don’t own us.

Once the clutter is removed, watch how everyone can step back and breath deep. A perfect opportunity for you to lead and talk to your family about how life is more than Keeping up with the Joneses

You have to go through everything and objectively ask yourself, Why do I own this?

If the items purpose is not immediately clear or you do not instantly recognize its value, then maybe you have it ‘just because’ and that’s a loser’s mindset.

Stop living as a consumer and start living as a man with a Spartan Mindset.

From the Blog: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2017/03/04/721/

Twitter (I’m much more active on there as my work blocks Reddit): https://twitter.com/TheFamilyAlpha


[–]HandsOutOfMyPocketsUnplugging1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like the versatility of your challenges. Wife is sick at the moment, but we still had a great family night yesterday, although I had not got much sleep after day two - staring the ceiling most of the night. Today I had to offload 20lbs from bench bar to complete a set.

Regarding todays task, I got copy of KonMari as a subscription gift of a newspaper last October. Very quick read, it revolves around same ideas you describe above.

The key idea in the book is not to ask "Do I need this item" but "Does this item bring me happiness". I vividly remember watching the vacuum cleaner and considering throwing it a away. But I like it clean.
I also ended up selling and donating lots of clothes that I really didn't want to wear anymore that I had to replace later.

Another concept is to go through stuff not closet by closet or room by room, but category by category, ie. all the clothes first, then all the books. That way you get immediate results and rid of redundant stuff that might be scattered around the house.

We live in a two bedroom condo, and we carried dozens of large plastic bags out of the apartment. If you have your own house I guess you'd better rent a truck.

Also a great opportunity to lead your wife and family through the whole process. It will take tens of hours.

Not going to skip today, though. There is always stuff to get rid of, more iterations to go through.

[–]Aaren_Augustine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm OCONUS, so I get this at night, which I put into the following day. Chest and lats fucking hurt, but they're working

superb challenge, I'll have to find the nearest Airman's Attic.

[–]jazerac0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Perfect timing with this. I am getting ready to relocate across the country to an entirely new area. I am selling off all this pointless shit. Me and the wife are only bringing what we actually use and want. Starting fresh.

[–]jacowezoMarried0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's 2100 currently here. Push-ups done in the afternoon. In the morning DL training, heavy singles. I rarely do singles, they can break you, literally.

From time to time I do de-cluttering. But last year it has not happened. So at least currently I know what I will do in the available free time for the next days.

By the way, before you have started these challenges, I was quite sure that some 50/100 pushup or sth like this will be included.

But other stuff is unexpected, refreshing and challenging. Hopefully, it will be very good month for me (and others). Thank you TFA.

Minor edit: ok, obviously I have fucked up this, as we were to do it on particular day. Small cleaning done on Sunday, lot of other closets still waiting.

[–]gettingmymojobackMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just did this with my closet a month or so back. Will work on my desk today but realistically this is a reminder of all the decluttering and hoarding I've been putting off dealing with. A few items I've been meaning to sell for a while now are going to be put up today. Great practical challenge again. I'll be continually working on this for a while.

The hard part for me will be leading the wife and daughters into a minimalist lifestyle.

Pushups done first thing in the morning. Only 2700 more to go.

[–]HandsOutOfMyPocketsUnplugging0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The hard part for me will be leading the wife and daughters into a minimalist lifestyle.

Can't force them. Lead by an example. Your wife will follow when she sees your neatly organized, half empty wardrobe. Get all of the clothes out and only return the ones that you really want to wear and would buy in their present condition. Iron everything, and organize them by purpose and color.

[–]johnnycake880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I already minimized our possessions after our move last spring and have held the reigns tight on stopping unnecessarily reacquisitions since then. My routine every weekend has been one of collecting up any junk or donatable things that have managed to evade my review, so I'll just incorporate day 4 into that.

Day three went over so well the wife initiated some great sex in the family room as soon as the kids were in bed. Left me too tired to muster the energy to go chase the lights with the Fam once they started up after midnight. So I'll make that half of last night's plan happen tonight.

Doing my push-ups in 2 sets of 33 and 1 of 34 now, last set of 33 left for today. I'm headed out on a daddy daughter date with my 4 year old to a gun show with a family ice fishing day planned for tomorrow. Already did an outdoor family excursion this morning, as part of accomplishing my short term goals of an outdoor family activity everyday of each weekend, plus 2 others during the week. Nothing like the sun on your face, below freezing temps, and snow under your boots while the kids are laughing to prove to your woman you are the master of this family and can make nature your bitch. The only danger is the vagcicles she might develop from being so turned on.

E: autocorrect

[–]RebelRebel620 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Push-ups done. We purge on a regular basis and I had a truck load of needless stuff sitting in the back. This post gave me the motivation to just get rid of it... thanks!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No problem brother

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Love this. I'm constantly evaluating my "stuff"and keeping it minimum. It's a constant battle and will always welcome opportunity to do more of it.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUsMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cleaned the shed, purged my closet, and shaved all the hair off my body. Feels good, man!

[–]turn20left0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do 100 push-ups a day except the day before chest day. I'm on a program and need to be fully recovered for my lifts. Doing 100 push-ups after working chest is a beast though.

[–]crimson_chris0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Loving the push ups but they are a killer on and off cheat day!

Did not do Friday's challenge since I had a late night work event, but will do it this week comong up.

I decluttered the bedroom back in Jan, but had a drawer that was a fucking mess. Cleaned out a lot of shit. Also applyung the cleaning out to work (emails, notebooks, to do list). Also going to start decluttering every room.in the house.

Fucked up on the no porn and no fap last night. No excuses - it was a bad decision. Will start anew today! Looking forward to an hour of reflection.

[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Over the course of the last two years, we've had half a dozen large, successful yard sales, taken many car loads of shit to Goodwill, and sold bigger items individually. We're also getting ready to move, so 80% of our daily items is in boxes. AND WE STILL HAVE TOO MUCH SHIT.

Example: we have 4 of each: plates, bowls, forks, spoons, butter knives, and cups. When we want to eat, we wash the few items we need. We're not wasting water by using the dishwasher. But... we have three skillets, of varying sizes. I might bring it down to one or two...

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[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice, if the point is to make money. Most of our downsizing has been done by my wife, who just wants the crap out of the house. We sold things in bulk, didn't worry about the price. I'm slightly kicking myself now. Meh.

[–]CanisFinn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Talk about opening Pandora's Box...started going through the attic. This is not a one day challenge...it'll take me a week or two to go through all this crap.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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