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I can't believe I stumbled across this sub (self.marriedredpill)

submitted by shs051000

32, have been married for almost 3 years, we have a 5 month old and a 22 month old, both boys. Things have been a hurricane with two little ones. Romance was non-existent. Sex life was a in a word: embarrassing. Maybe once every 2-3 months. I had lost physical attraction in her and had also completely stopped working out and eating right myself. I was becoming one of those poor bastards I used to pity: a type B, past-his-prime, out of shape middle-aged faceless number. I do very well for myself and I used that as a crutch for not being intimate with my wife. "I can give her anything she wants, her life is perfect" is what I would tell myself to make me feel better. I found this sub today while putting my oldest son down for a nap and it WOKE ME UP. It is exactly this kick in the ass I needed (have been working out again for about 2 months now, but was still slacking terribly on the sex life). After reading the latest posts for about 20 minutes I got up, walked into the living room and gave it to her like when we were dating. It sounds weird, but I know I've already turned a corner and have re-taken the reigns in my relationship. Looking forward to learning more about the red pill. Thanks!!!!


[–]askmrpthrowaway23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I haven't posted a thread like this because I think it's fairly pointless and doesn't add to the conversation, but now that this thread is here, I want to say that I feel the same way. The information found in this subreddit (especially the sidebar materials) has been literally changed my life over the last 6 months. It's not a unique sentiment, but for anyone casually reading who's on the fence: it's all true and it will make your life better. But only if you INTERNALIZE and if you ACT. Reading and thinking about these concepts is necessary for changing your life, but NOT sufficient. It's a roadmap, but you still need to get in the car and drive.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And steer, and keep your foot on the gas. That is probably the biggest screw up with MRP praxeology. You have to keep your foot on the gas BUT you can't push the pedal too hard. You have to GENTLY accelerate.

[–]OldRoke7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This sub is waking me up. I feel ashamed at the lost opportunities and the true depth of faggotry I displayed and now I am learning to change. It is exciting and scary, but will be nothing without action.

[–]RedPillRobin1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's called the light. When light shines you see things you can't see in the dark. Light is truth.

[–]dagar_the_dragon7 points8 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Welcome brother, now lift and sidebar! Just don't go redpill Rambo! (see-sidebar)

[–]Mecha7515 points16 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Side bar--> TheRationalMale.com TheFamilyAlpha.com Get to reading Get to improving yourself Raise your kids with masculine values.

It will be hard as society and everyone doesnt want you becoming a man, but subconsciously your wife does and YOU need to be a man.

Pro tip - DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE ABOUT RP. Trust me. My wife knows and occasionally shit tests me with it.

[–]jacksarmy8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

First rule of fight club

[–]TemperedRhyno12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

This! My wife was the one that told me about it. Now she occasionally will throw out "you're just doing this because those dumbasses on RedPill said to do it, it's ruining you."

[–]weakandsensitive27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"You're just practice for my next wife."

[–]470_2_700_nm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like this.

[–]Mecha753 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mine always questions what i am doing as some sort of strategy. She loves the ends, hates the means.

[–]ESTJ4LIFE2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm getting this too; my wife introduced me to RP. "All you've taken from the RP is 'texting is for admin' and interrupting me". No, I'm standing up for myself. Also, while it's on me to improve, my wife seems to feel that by having shown me the tools, I should be fixed overnight, when I've been a bitch for five years. It's hard work but will pay off.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am not sure she could pitch that shit test any slower. She is inviting you to destroy her skeptical frame. She wants Shiva.

[–]RedPillRambo4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wholeheartedly agree.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Read the main sub as well, do not just get all your advice in here. Also read some philosophy as well and do not overdose on this shit.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Meh... I get no value at all from the main. Ymmv.

[–]drty_prMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

There is most certainly value to be takin from the main sub. There is more detailed threads on the psychology of woman. I really find these to be useful in understanding my wife.

This sub is very finely tuned into relationship advice. If you're not finding benefits from TRP, perhaps the metric for success is too much about fixing your marriage and not enough about fixing yourself?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Like I said, ymmv.

The main is just obnoxious teenagers that lie incessantly about their conquests and the RP techniques they used to score. It's honestly cringeworthy how some of these guys really expect us to believe them. Sure, there are a few pearls of wisdom every now and again, but nothing I couldn't get here and wading through the garbage just isn't worth it.

This sub is much, much more mature.

Well... okay, maybe mature isn't the right word. :)

[–]InfiniteAscent0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The people posting here are most likely married, so you should not see too much bragging about conquests and such. Though I am tempted to tell an ultimate dread story.

[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

People shit on the main sub because the signal/noise ratio is bad. I admit it is, but there are nuggets and discussion there that has helped me tremendously.

[–]trp_dudeHard Core Red1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

main sub is crap

[–]InvincibleKraken0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Crap? There is an excellent front-page article right now called "Foundations." I suggest you read it and then decide if you still want to call the main sub "crap."

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stoney came up with a great trick to drown out the signal-noise ratio. Simply friend up all the EC's and set your account to only see the posts by your "friends." The difference between EC's and the majority High School students lurking over their is pretty stark.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

isn't that TFA?

[–]InvincibleKraken1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

DeepThrill, I think?

[–]RedPillRobin0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not everyone is so bad off. Your 3 year marriage will most only need your realization that your the captain and you have been a shitty one lately but what's awesome about women is they are often very forgiving towards men they love and respect. When you loose her heart and her respect wrath ensues. Take this shit seriously though man. I used to be you got complacent and got completely destroyed by a divorce like you wouldn't believe. Be your family's leader it's what they need and you need.

[–]shs0510000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for that, brother. I'm currently reading the books from the sidebar and I can't see myself turning back towards the negative.

[–]shs0510000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What's the main sub?

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/

[–]NintenJoo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm generally a lurker, but I'll throw in.

I'm a better father, husband, partner, etc since getting into this stuff.

I'm in the best shape I've been in, in years, and it's only improving.

I don't get angry hardly at all anymore, and nothing surprises me.

It feels good to be on a path of self improvement and its good to watch hard work pay off.

My mentality is becoming one of peace and it's so wonderful.

Thank you guys. It's changed my life only for the better and it's changing more every day.

[–]JDRoedellMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Welcome to the desert of the real.

Read the sidebar. Read this sub. Come back in two months and post in OYS thread. The you can begin setting goals and changing to achieve them.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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