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Just a quick FR about a quick shit test, my handling of the situation, and realization that it was a direct application and example of LAW 36 - DISDAIN THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE: IGNORING THEM IS THE BEST REVENGE

While reading the Keys to Power of Law 36 the following really stood out to me

"Desire often creates paradoxical effects: The more you want something, the more you chase after it, the more it eludes you. The more interest you show, the more you repel the object of your desire. This is because your interest is too strong—it makes people awkward, even fearful. Uncontrollable desire makes you seem weak, unworthy, pathetic."

This particularly resonated with me as I have first hand experienced both with the failure and misery of attempting to get more affection from my spouse through relentless Beta smothering, and have witnessed first hand the last 3-4 months the improvements that implementing a RP approach produces.

Case in point, last night was the first night this week my wife and I were able to get home together relatively early. Absence being what it is, we were both glad to be home together. This does not however mean there were no shit tests to be had lol.

After catching up on our days, a few 10 second kisses etc, and our usual family dinner we cleaned up and settled into our evening routine. I had a few personal matters to attend to and deal with and returned back to the family room a while later. Wife was working on her laptop and I approached her to lean in for another kiss and get a snappy "WHAT DO YOU WANT!"

This is where Law 36 kicked in subconsciously. I know for a fact 3 months ago I would have either A) begged for a kiss or B) been butthurt as fuck. Instead I chose option C) give her nothing. Literally my reply "Nothing", continued walking by and went and did some other shit I needed to do.

The best part, I couldn't have been less affected by her outburst. No biggie, she can come to me when she's ready. Finish my stuff up, relax on the couch for a bit before lights out. She comes and cuddles up next to me for a bit, when she gets up to go to bed she tells me she's holding off on her bedtime routine until after I come upstairs. Gives me a coy smile, nudge nudge, wink wink, and walks away. I know how this ends, and the best part....all I had to do was "nothing" but ignore her denial as it no longer had any meaning to me. She no longer has that power over me, and she knows it.

Pre-MRP me would have been hovering around her all evening, drying her pussy out, and doing nothing but pushing her further away with my thirst. Valuable lesson learned.


[–]drty_prMRP APPROVED12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

The hovering pussy dryer. Oh how I fuckin hate how I used to be that man, or lack there of a man. She would actually tell me I was "smothering her" and being "too needy". I want to go back in time and give that mother fucker a Donald Cerrone high kick for being such a faggot!

[–]gettingmymojobackMRP APPROVED[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can definitely relate. I also heard the exact same sentiments but was too stupid to take them at face value. Fuck do I ever wish I had a time machine to go back and unfuck myself.

Like the saying goes, best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, second best time is now.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The hovering pussy dryer.

Face palm! lol

[–]Westernhagen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best time to stop being a beta faggot is when you were 14. Second best time is NOW.

[–]MRPN00b0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Couldn't have said it better myself. I would do the same thing.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Timely post. I'm still learning and new to RP behavior and just last night, my wife almost got an A or B response out of me that would have totally blown the night. However, I choose C, got what I wanted and more importantly, woke up this morning feeling FAR better than I would have if I would've taken the other options...and sounds like you did as well.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is what it's all about.

Men starting to feel better being men again. How was this done? By acting like you should have the entire time, like a man.

Well done.

[–]C-4-P-O0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only day two this forum, very relatable stuff

[–]druganswer 4 points4 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Just watch out for covert contracts and attaching getting laid to waking up feeling good (focus on true OI).

[–]redderThanIUsedToBe0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

"OI"?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Start to think of shit test as opportunities.

Internally thank her for testing you and giving you a chance to show off.

"What do you want!!"

"Mecha-Hitler"

Smile and go do something else.

nice job

[–]Mecha751 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sadly, I still have yet to learn that lesson after many many opportunities to do so. Good post, hopefully I will remember that the next time this happens today.

[–]sh0ckley1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Solid post, brother.

[–]maxofreddit1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Well played...

I caught myself the other night doing a mini DEER and caught myself in the middle and did my best to STFU...not a huge deal since it was a small thing, but realized that I could've handled it better, always learning.

Question for the crew, Do any of you ever just NOT do the sex thing, even if she's in the mood for it. I know that Athol's position is essentially to never refuse sex from the wife (with, I think, the implication, that too many of those will lead her to look elsewhere). I don't want to be perceived as petty (and therefore Beta), but just wondering if anyone ever denies sex, just cause they are no longer in the mood/have moved onto other things.

Always nice to hear the smaller success stories. :)

[–]PurpleVeteranMRP APPROVED2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Do any of you ever just NOT do the sex thing

Look, if you're really too busy or too tired to perform, then don't. At the very least, tease her a bit (physically and emotionally) and parlay it into a more opportune time. But don't turn her down because you're trying to finish a movie or because she was a bitch earlier and hurt your feelings. Embrace OI, caveman her, then get on with being awesome. :)

[–]maxofreddit4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This...

or because she was a bitch earlier and hurt your feelings.

This is the little piece that I always needs to catch myself on. I still have some of that tit-for-tat mentality where if she's being total ignoring and bitchy, then later wants to play, I kinda feel like I'm reading her in a way. I get that there's the "doesn't matter had sex" attitude, but I'm trying to figure out if sometimes she's using sex in order to maintain some kind of weird control over the situation, i.e. "He can't resist me" ...kinda the opposite of dread, in a way.

I'm probably just splitting hairs, and away overthinking it.., fuck her hamster, I gotta get control of my own.

[–]PurpleVeteranMRP APPROVED4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

she's using sex in order to maintain some kind of weird control over the situation

Let's be honest... sex is a woman's superpower. They use it to secure a mate/provider, for validation, to apologize, to distract, or to get you to do chores. It's also useful for reproduction. And sometimes there's no motive beyond just feelingz.

So, if you want to get bogged down in why she's batting her eyes and running her hand down your back, then I'm sure you can find a reason to talk yourself out of it. Otherwise, show her that you're DTF when she is, leave her smiling, and enjoy your abundance mentality.

[–]BobbyPeruMRP Approved1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You want to control when and where the sex happens, not her. But, if you want it in your body is capable … And she wants to have sex, then you should definitely do it every time.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know that Athol's position is essentially to never refuse sex from the wife

A big part of that is the demographic of men who are looking to improve the frequency of sex; if you're having sex pretty often, then it changes things on this particular topic.

[–]YesIDoLiftBro1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'll say no to sex if I am legitimately not in the mood and need to be doing something else. Granted, I have told her to just initiate since its pretty easy to get me from 0 to 100. Also, there is a bit of power in telling your wife no every once in a while, just don't do it in a butt-hurt way and don't do it for any bullshit machiavellian reasons and her hamster will roll.

[–]rocknrollchuckMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She is a reflection of you. If you refuse sex when she wants it, you are setting the example she will follow. Unless you are not feeling well, I would not get into that habit.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No leads to yes sooo much more.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Think OI, not MGTOW

[–]Texas_Sir0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with wanting to step back in time and kick my own ass. What a weak sauce fuck I was.

[–]redderThanIUsedToBe-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hadn't heard of this one before. I'm definitely going to try it. Bravo!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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